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how soon trying to get pregnant after miscarriage

I've read in my prgenancy books and on forums and I've been told by doctors to wait 1 to 3 cycles before trying to get pregnant again after having had a miscarriage recently. But there doesn't seem to be any research to back this up...no one can tell me if there's a medical risk if I get pregnant sooner. Does anyone know? I am 36 years old and had a m/c on my first pregnancy last month and I'm eager to try again. If it's for emotional reasons that people say to wait, well getting pregnant again will make me feel better as that was my goal, but I don't want to have an increased risk of another m/c by getting pregnant too soon. But time is an issue b/c I am 36 and just starting to have children now. I know this all may be pointless if I don't ovulate again soon, but hoping thinsg get back to normal soon. I had a natural m/c and my hcg levels are almost back to normal or zero. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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I have been through 2 miscarriages back 2 back and have been referred for professional help, i wish you all the very best in your lives and hope your baby making dreams come true "GOD BLESS YOU ALL, NEVER EVER GIVE UP".
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Here I am again.  Had a m/c at ~8wks. in Mar.  Found out I was pregnant again, had a m/c yesterday at 5 wks.  Not sure what caused my first.  Am convinced I caused this one.  I wore a girdle to work on Mon. b/c I had a bulging tummy.  Felt uncomfortable all day and notice spotting on Tues. afternoon.  It progressively got worse Tues. night so went to the E.R. on Wed. morning and doctor said my cervix was open.  I never would have done something so stupid if I knew I would have harmed my baby.  Now I have guilt and grief to live with forever.  I don't have the courage to tell my husband or family (nor my doctor) what I did.  I want to try again right away.  But am not sure if I should.  I have not had any bleeding since the d&c yesterday.  Please forgive me for my actions, but would someone please tell me if I deserve to try again.  Please respond to my e-mail. Thank you.
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hello everyone i just had a miscarage it happen to me two weekes ago i when to my appt and we were looking at my child all of a suddin the hert stoped and my baby died i was 9 weeks so they asked me if i wanted to have the misscarige natural or if i wanted a dnc and i told them that i couldnt go another night sleeping with my unborn child dead inside of me so i had a dnc now im wondering how long should i wait for me and my husband to try again this was our first pregnancy and we both want a child so bad i hope someone can help me out thank u
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hey
im 21 years of age and had my first miscarriage at 6 wks and 4 days it was the hardest thing for me to accept. they couldnt find the heartbeat. i want to try again asap i really want one that i can love, hold and charish for the rest of my life. what do i need to do? someone please help me thru this, this really hearts.
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I too had a m/c...I was eleven weeks.  It was extremely hard, especially because I had started bleeding the week before the m/c.  I went to the hospital thinking that the pregnancy was over, and they gave me great news.  I saw the baby moving, everything looked normal, the baby's heart rate was 155 (which apparently, when it is over 100, your chance of m/c is about 10%), everyhting was normal, except for the bleeding.  I proceeded to see my obgyn and he too said the heart rate and size and everything was fine.  Then four days later, the same thing happened.  I started bleeding again, went to the hospital, but this time I thought it was nothing again, cause I had been reassured by both the hospital staff and my obgyn, but the baby's heart stopped bleeding.  I had a DNC and they told me to follow up with my doctor in 6 weeks, and that I should get my period in 4-6 weeks.  Well, I did follow up, and avoided trying to conceive until I spoke to my doctor.  When I did speak to him, he did an exam and said that I had to eggs ready to pop and it was possible to have twins that month.  He told me if I wanted babies to just try right away. Not to wait.  I went home all excited, thinking that it would happen right away.  It didn't:(...I thought I might be pregnant, becasue it was 9 weeks after my m/c and I still hadn't gotten my AF.  I took a test only to find out that it was negative.  I thought OK, it'll happen nect month.  Well, this is next month and I know my AF is coming.  It sucks.  
Now that I know I can try again, with the blessing of my doctor, that's all I've been doing.  I got pregnant the first time trying, but now when I really want it, its not happening.
I say try right away...I'm kicking myself for not trying the first few weeks after my m/c.
I guess it'll happen when its meant to happen, but it becomes such a roller coaster ride.
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Dear everyone on board,
  This is my first time writing on this, but I have read so things and I just lost my first child. I want that back I want to feel it growing inside of me. We only made it to 12 weeks, and i am still really upset by all if this. But now I find my self upset that other people have children, because we lost ours. I am just ready to try again but my doc, says to wait 3 months before we try again. Is that true? I wish we could try sooner.
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Ok. Good to hear your friend's story as I was about to try sooner than even getting my first period after the recent m/c. I had planned to wait one cycle but then decided this weekend not to wait just b/c I am so eager to get pregnant again, but now I guess I should wait at least one cycle. It's just that I read some women's stories how they got pregnant very soon after a m/c (less than a month after), so maybe it's variable but best to wait at least one month. Thanks for your comment.
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i had misscarrige in Jan 10th it was my second miscarrige my first miscarrige was on sept 12th had DNC on sept 13th, got pregnant again on Dec and lost the secon one on Jan 10th, both the miscarrige was due to growth issue(no growth after 7 weeks), i had a series of tests blood tests to find out the issue but nothing could be found, we were told to wait for 6 months to start trying, but unfortunatly  we had sex but my hubby told he did not ejaculate inside but now i am 3 days past my periods am afrai if i got pregnant... is it possible as my hubby is sure he didn't com inside and we did 5 days past ovolution. plz give share some experiances... although i am prgnant i hope God would give me!!!!!
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My name is Ruth Morgan i live in Chicago. i got married 11 years ago. After my first issue,a baby girl after the two years of marraige,I was told by my doctor that i wont be able to give birth again but thank God i meant Prophet James through a friend who helped me with his herbs and roots and above all constant prayers. today i have another issue and my doctor confirmed to me that i can give birth again. All thanks to God and Prophet James. you can contact  him on his e-mail or phone ***@**** +2347035825346
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sad news  indeed, but hey God is with you and he'll get you through it all. as for the dr-he will soon pay for what he did to you both. God is not a fool, he saw it and will not let him go unpunished. I am terribly sorry, love you and God's peace be with you always
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Girlfriend told me she miscarried at 9 weeks. And she said the hospital told her the baby had downs syndrome. Is this even possible?
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I would have had him put in jail. That has got to be illegal just as much as it is immoral. I feel for you and I am truely sorry for your loss. I wish you the best of luck in where ever life takes you from here. "Keep your head up"
P.S. You should not feel guilty, and I hope you know he will be judged.
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hi lovely ladies,

i had a missed misscarriage at 18weeks on march 22nd baby stopped growing at 14weeks.  It was heart breaking there are no words to explain my pain.  i have a 6 yrs old daughter she is light of my life.  I have already been ttc starting from two weeks after the tragedy but no luck this time i got my first period today.  will keep trying hope god will bless all of us with our lovely babies.  all the best to u..
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Hi i had a misscarriage at 12 weeks, and i just had a dnc about a a week and a half ago, im not bleeding or anything, me and my fiance have had unprotected sex a few times. Does a pregancy right after a d and c end badly? This was the hardest thing i have had to deal with, i wanted my baby so bad. i want to start trying right away, if i am not already pregnant agin, but im scared.
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sorry i did no mean that i was 115 days i ment that i was 11weeks and 5 day when i lost my last baby but i no how you fell
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i know how you fell i have had 9 m/c myself my last one was at 115 day and the baby heart just stop i have one my he will be 16 in june im 38 all my friends keep letting me at lest you have your son ,im VERY greatfully but at the same time i want to know ,what i did that was SO BAD to couse me to loss 9 more babys my hubby dont want to try any more ,i really dont want to do that to him ,but for so reason i want one more than ever i dont think it will ever stop hurting i lost my baby oct 27 2010 and it still fells like it was yesterday ,sorry my spelling is not that greatest
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i had more or less similar experience
i got a positive test 12th March 2011
i went for an utra sound at 6wks 2days and the heartbeat was strong, everything looked great and i was given an appointment in 3wks for a follow up. however 2days later i started spotting, and it was light pink, and i only noticed it when i wiped, i was put on duphaston 10mg three times a day but there was no improvement, a week later i was put on bed rest progesterone injection 500mg weekly, and drugs to stop bleeding, but still there was no improvement whatsoever, the bleeding was not filling a pad but the color was dark red. so after that i resumed work as usual. on April 11th i saw clots, then my husband being a medical doctor examined me and informed me that my cervix was still closed so there was no cause to worry, but i decided to go and see a gynae anyway, on april 13th went for an ultra sound and CRL was measuring 12mm, 7wks 3days, yet i was supposed to be 8wks 4days then, no heartbeat could be detected and it was declared non viable.
on april 14th i was done for d&c so still waiting for my check up in two weeks time.
i constantly feel like i went wrong somewhere trying to retrace my steps and actions to figure out what could have caused the miscarriage. we had informed our families and everyone was excited for us, as this was our first pregnancy. i want to try again, and i am goin to give myself three months before i do. but this time, i will be extra cautious and i will pray that it sticks.

goodluck to all those who are trying
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Hi i had my 3rd termination about 3 weeks ago and due to difficult circumstances i had to have this termination but am keen to have a child with my partner and i am really worried that i couls be damaged we also had sex 5 days after the termination i am very worried i may have problems getting pregnant i really need an answer or some kind of confort?
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hi my name is christy i miscarried 2 weeks ago tommorow i was 8 weeks i want to start trying again now do you think it is 2 soon to try ive heard your more fertile right after just wanted to know if anyone could give me some advice
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Hi
First of all sorry for everyone losses, it get better with time. I also just had a m/c the 3rd of Jan. It was very hard because we went to the docs office the 28th of Dec and didnt here a heart beat so they told us to come back next week because I was 10 weeks and they were sure everything was fine and I was too because I already have a 18 month old. But the 3rd of Jan was a day I will not forget ever. It was very hard for me because I had to call and tell a few ppl that I wasnt prego anymore which sucked! Anyways I bled for 6 weeks total and on the fith week I had an ultra sound to make sure everything came out on its own which it did thankfully. I got my period four days after I stopped bleeding. which was nuts cuz I didnt think there could any more blood left in there since I bled that long!  I know it kinda sounds weird but I named my little one and it really helped with the healing process.I cryed everynight for a week after it happend,we were so excited that we were going to have another one and our daughter to be a big sister. I still cry every now and then and its hard when you see your prego friends but you still have to be happy for them. Having a m/c really gives you a different presecptive on life. I wouldnt wish a m/c on anyone because I know first hand how much they suck. I have 3 close friends that a prego right now and one is having her baby tommorow which is exciting. but I so badly wish it was me! but I am truely happy for her. I  waiting for my next period to ttc again so hopefully it will come when its supposed too! If it works out I might have a Christmas baby but I cant get my hopes up too high. fingers crossed tho...  (thanks for letting me vent) Its diffently hard some days.
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hey there just reading your story and  think we miscarriage  the same time as i has a miscarriage on the 31st of Jan this year. we want to try again now but Im two scared as i want to wait for my period to come as  i don't want to go thought it again. i am due for my next period but im late they say that it can take to to 8 weeks for the next period to some after a miscarriage i hope not for the 1st time in my live i want them to come. Im in New Zealand I did not fell that there was up care here When i phone my midwife and told her i was bleeding and in a lot of pain she told me to ride with it. 2 days later my partner took me to hospital there it was confirmed . 3 weeks later she phoned to see if i was ok and i need a check up. so i will not be using her again. my sister-in-law has 3 miscarriages an she has now got 2 lovely girls. My aunt has a miscarriage at 6 months and had to give birth to a still birth and she has 2 lovely kids. after knowing this it gives us hope. I really wish you the best on haven a baby
i do feel the topic of miscarriage is not talked about until it happens to you
i want to have a feeling off being pregnant again very soon
all the best    
vicky
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i also had the mirana and after 1 month of having it out i got pregnet, 12weeks i had a miscarry, im prety sure it was due to the mirana,,,it thins out the wall and there is nothing for the baby to hold on to,,,doctore never told me to wait, we will try again in a few months!
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Hiya. I've been reading your conversation and blossoming friendship with laylalady and it's given me so much hope. I miscarried naturally January 30th exactly 1 wk today and I'm only just managing to smile again. It wasn't planned but we got very excited and planned everything. It wasn't until we lost our baby that we realised how much we wanted it. I found out when I was 8 wks and 4 days. I started with brown spotting and period pain for 3 days , light blood spotting on the 4th day and on the day of the miscarriage I was having mini contraction pains ( what I imagine them to be ) and bleeding got really heavy . I had the miscarriage whilst waiting at the gyny emergency ward to see someone. I rushed down there. Judging by my hcg levels on that Monday (870 ) I must of lost my baby weeks before.
1 week on and until now I couldn't even face looking forward ,I haven't got dressed for 5 days and can't face anyone but after reading your conversations about your blossoming pregnancy's instead of making it me feel upset or jealous that you have a baby and I don't it has helped in my healing process. I can see forward and see that you both went through what I've been through and you now have little girls.
I am going to wait for my first period and we are going to try again and hopefully get pregnant very soon.
I'm going to insist that they take regular blood counts very early on and that I have regular scans to check my progress. This will help my stress levels a lot.
Many thanks again to both of you.
You have really helped me !!!
Very happy for you both to have gorgeous little girls and hopefully I will join you.
If I have my own way I will have a baby by Christmas :)
Natalie
Xx
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I had a m/c and ive been trying to get pregnant again. I have a 2 year old and i feel like im ready to have another one but we have been trying to get pregnant again but it seems like its not working. I m/c in april of 2011 and ive been waiting all this time to get pregnant again.
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