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i m a guy and need advice for a woman

i have a very good friend were bothing in middle school she was together with this 10nth grader or ninth dont remeber and she was his house two fridays ago getting tutored in english and bothe parents left and he tried to take off her clothes forcefally and so i told tell someone dont ever be alone with him but she rly likes him and gave him another chance and last friday she was at his house tutoring again and she wouldnt take of her clothes so he hit her and he didnt rape her because she screamed but lets just say she was on the bed pantines only on other than that just naked and she wont tell anyone but she did break up with him it just rly rly scares me because i like her and im just scared for her and she told me not tp hurt him because when she told me i litterally took a long pipe and went after him but she begged him to stop and i like her so i did plz help i rly rly need it and so doews she
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I agree with helpmeplease.  She is in a tough spot because it happened to her (the shattering of trust and the violence of the action are nothing for her to pooh-pooh or try to sweep under the carpet; he will definitely do it again and has probably done it before.  What about his other victims?)  And you are also in sort of a spot because now you know.  As a good man, you are honor-bound to help her, not with a long pipe but by telling someone if she will not.  I would first, urge her with everything that you've got, to tell someone what happened.  She by rights should tell the police, but possibly she can simply tell her mother, her aunt, or a trusted counselor at school, or her minister.  She will be treated seriously and will be protected, if she tells someone who is a professional.  (Mothers, it's an open question.  Some will do the right thing and some will urge their daughter to hide what happened, because they fear reprisal or that she won't be believed.  But it is part of your friend's empowerment that she must take charge and not be scared.)  Offer to go with her, help find resources -- (look into who she would report this to, for example, or find her a sympathetic minister or other professional to talk to).  If all your pleading that she do this falls on deaf ears, then you really should talk to a minister or professional yourself, and tell them what happened and who did it.  Unfortunately, nobody can go after this guy if his actual victim does not come forward, but possibly the person you talk to can help you decide on any further actions you can take.

Good luck.  Don't go after him with a pipe.  Her taking action would be best, you getting out there and unilaterally being some kind of vigilante will only hurt you and won't solve anything.  Be there for her to make this tough decision and be there if she has to deal with any difficulty from making it.  That is harder than going after someone with a pipe, but will mean much more to your friend in the long run.
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Tell an adult u trust seriously she might be mad at u at first but u could save her from being raped next time. She is obviously not strong enough to stop seeing him on her own she will thank u later. Maybe someone who u know she trust will be best. He is an *** hole I would beat his *** too. But that's prob not the best idea
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OH MY!  I so wish I could help you both out. I feel nothing good is going to come out of this situation, and possibly one of you will end up hurt or in a worse position. Middle school is a tough age...meaning 'HORMONE CITY'. My suggestion for YOU is to get as far away from this girl as you can, the sooner the better. It is difficult to decipher your question, as it's one long sentence. I cant understand their relationship. It really doesn't matter IF they are dating, tutoring, or what. If a girl says NO to sex, it means STOP. That she met him again...for any reason..won't look good in rape or murder case....hers or YOURS.
I know, at your age, you dont want to hear this, but focus on your studies. Knowledge is REAL power! You have your whole life to have relationships/sex. When parents leave teens home alone all kinds of things can happen...sad. I feel your heart...if you are online, on a medical diagnosis site and willing to try to get some help for this girl. My own son is 19 and in his first yr of college. He tells me a lot about what happens @ the dorms.
I sure wish I had better advise for you.
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