Wishing everyone luck. I do think teen pregnancy is very hard. The most important thing for a young woman to do whether pregnant or not is to continue her education so that she can have some type of career that makes her able to be independent if she ever needs to be. Independent as in if she had to support herself, she could. And if she has to have a good career in order to help the family and her husband, she can. Education and job training is the key to that. I can't tell you the number of posts I see of women that are no longer teens but have absolutely nothing to fall back on so they stay in relationships that they shouldn't.. Just for the financial support. Or they fight constantly about money with their partner. Being educated helps women be equal to a partner and having financial stability is important to the peacefulness of the home.
So, I encourage our poster whether she is pregnant or not to really stay focused on big picture goals. She'll need lots of help if she is pregnant at 13 and hopefully has a family that will stand behind her. It will make accomplishing goals harder but that doesn't mean she can't do it!!
Hang in there and I'm sure still unclear if you ever took a test. I would not, if you are not pregnant, TRY to get pregnant before you've graduated high school! good luck dear!!
Thanks for your experience. My parents had a child when your age and got married and . . . . divorced when they hit their 30's. It was hard on the family. good luck
I was 17 when I got pregnant and was very happy bout it. Had her at 18 and was married. So. Can't act like everyone Isn't ready. I love my family and very happy I have my husband and daughter. I am now 23 and my hubby is 29 my daughter is 5. And we are still very much n love n my daughter is awesome. Actually looking to get pregnant again. So.
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I think the replies of the ladies who were in your shoes -- pregnant as teens who had the baby or not are really good responses to read. Having a baby is not glamorous but rather, a life long commitment to work your butt off. It is so easy to fall in love with what one thinks it will be like, to make it all rosy. Picture spit up and being up all night. And having more bills than you've ever imagined. Not just for baby . . . but as they get older. it's just really hard and very unglamorous. And important to take seriously.
Now, how do you know you were pregnant?? That's the big question. Did you take an actual pregnancy test? Women do spot during pregnancy as Anniebrooke said but it's generally lighter than a period. If you are cramping and having heavy bleeding, then it is more likely either you were never pregnant or a chemical pregnancy.
Okay, one last thing. Education. No matter what happens----------- stay and school and get a full education (not just your highschool diploma. You need either college or job training after high school). This is your ticket to security down the road. good luck
I had a baby when I was 16. I robbed myself of my childhood, my babydaddy ran the minute I told him about my pregnancy. I love my daughter with all my heart but it's hard raising a child on your own with the father. U can't even socialise with the kids your age as you don't know whether you're an adult or u're still a child, having a baby at an early age is a stupid idea.
I was 13 and I wanted a baby. If it weren't for my grandma stepping in I would have gotten a baby. I regret ever having sex that young. This young women needs to understand what she is doing. If she wants a baby then no matter what you tell her she going to do it any way. You also need to understand that people like you is what is causing teens like me to think its okay to get pregnant when we can't even support our self. **** we turn 18 and we are given all this crap we have to do and no one teaches us how to do it. There to god dam worried about fcat.
Have you taken a pregnancy test? You should probably do that first before you tell him anything. Boys that age tend to cut and run because they know they're not ready for such a huge responsibility. You need to find out ASAP if you are or not so you can start planning your next move.
And sorry I speak English. not. This. Crap you decided to write
Actually I do have a daughter thank u very ******* much! And I would never talk to her like that! Y'all act like you never been 13 . I don't wanna hear the bs you waited til u was married or 18 either. Kids do not respond to ppl who talk down to them! I read so many posts Were everyone is mean as he'll to these young kids n I'm tired of reading it. I'll speak up for them. Cuz I'm a grown adult who don't put up wit **** like this. Thanks
Dey nt bein rude its de damn truth. Du av children?du u wnt yr dauter to go through this .. for christ sake she is 13. Gosh.she a full life ahead of her .sweedie dun gt yrself pegnant.all de best in life
I think coming off the way you guys do to this young girls is stupid. N rude as he'll! If they wanted yelled at they'd talk to there parents. I know at that age if someone talked to me that way it would b n one ear n out the other. They need to someone to b calm n explain why it's wrong. Not being all all rude bout it. I
Lets hope at this moment that you are not pregnant. I want you to know that having sex at this age is one huge mistake. I dont care if you think you are smart enough and old enough to do it, you are way too young! If I was your momma, girl we would be having rounds over this. I cant believe what you are saying right now. Tell your boyfriend to take a hike. Having and wanting a baby at this age is disgusting, your a baby still. You dont need to be having sex. It is really disappointing to know that there are girls out there like you having sex and finding out they are pregnant. You need to talk to your momma. See a doctor, get on birth control and close your legs. Atleast until you graduate or know that with having sex you need to be responsible. Your boyfriend is an idiot. Get rid of him. I hope you are not pregnant and realize how close you have come to ruining the rest of your life. Babies are to blessings. Something planned and wanted. Not an accident or mistake due to young kids not having a damn clue as to what they are doing. You need some tough love girl. And Im not saying all of this to make you feel like Im attacking you, but what you are doing is wrong and it will hurt you for the rest of your life. I hope you smarten up and talk to a doctor.
Ohh girl u r waayy younger to get pregnant.. u r risking ur life even by the thought of pregnancy . I think u should , at this age, enjoy ur childhood to fullest n not get involved in pregnancy stuffs. N I hope ur nt pregnant. Gudluck!
You're 13, I see that you have posted this in multiple communities. Are you trying to get pregnant. I hope for your sake that you aren't pregnant. You're still a child, you can't even begin to provide for a baby. You can't even get a job. I hope that you aren't pregnant. Your boyfriend may enjoy the idea of a baby, but teen fathers rarely stick around. Be smart.
It's not unusual to bleed in early pregnancy. If you had already had a positive on a pregnancy test, as Madpi says, see your doctor. But otherwise, if you simply thought you were pregnant, the likelihood is that it is a period and you are not pregnant. Please don't let your desire to bask in your boyfriend's (temporary) happiness cause you to try again to get pregnant. I am so sorry you are having sex at 13, you're being robbed of a very happy time of life that usually comes with no adult concerns. But if you are going to do it, please get on the Pill or use condoms. He will be happy now but feel burdened and trapped later. If you get pregnant now and try to keep the baby, the likelihood of you and he being together in 20 years is about zero. There will be stresses you don't even imagine now. Please stop going down this path, it leads to more pain than joy, at your age.
You shouldn't get your period during pregnancy. You also shouldn't be getting pregnant at that age. It puts the baby's life in danger because certain areas of your body are not fully developed therefore usually causing a premature baby or a miscarriage. If you knew you were pregnant before you had your period (as in pregnancy test conformation) then you need to go see a gyno ASAP. If you don't you could get really hurt or your baby could be in danger.