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I am about to start my sexual life and I have five quick but important questions to ask:
1. How can I know my girlfriend enjoys the way I do foreplay, and when is the best time for me to move forward?
2. Can non-penetrable sex be as pleasurable as penetrable sex? If so, then what's the point of penetration?
3. Shall I stop once I feel my girlfriend has already had her orgasm?
4. Generally speaking, if I decide to ejaculate outside, will this make my partner have less pleasure?
5. Does wearing condom affect sexual arousal for either men or women?
Cheers!
I am about to start my sexual life and I have five quick but important questions to ask:
1. How can I know my girlfriend enjoys the way I do foreplay, and when is the best time for me to move forward?
2. Can non-penetrable sex be as pleasurable as penetrable sex? If so, then what's the point of penetration?
3. Shall I stop once I feel my girlfriend has already had her orgasm?
4. Generally speaking, if I decide to ejaculate outside, will this make my partner have less pleasure?
5. Does wearing condom affect sexual arousal for either men or women?
Cheers!
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Birth control pill. So long as it is taken without missing pills at the same time every day, it is very effective. Most require you've been on them that way for at least a month, though, before it's effective. However, not all women are willing to take the pill. It does affect certain women's bodies differently (I have a friend, for instance, who has severe mood symptoms on pretty much any pill she's tried. Some women will put on weight, too. It all depends on the woman, and your girlfriend would have to take into consideration all of this before making a decision.). And there are always some people who still manage to get pregnant on the pill (usually because a pill is missed or not taken properly).
My boyfriend and I are both in our mid twenties and have been together long enough that we are able and willing to deal with the consequences if something ever did happen. If you guys are younger and/or one or both of you are overly worried about pregnancy, I'd recommend the pill in addition to rather than in place of a condom.
My boyfriend and I are both in our mid twenties and have been together long enough that we are able and willing to deal with the consequences if something ever did happen. If you guys are younger and/or one or both of you are overly worried about pregnancy, I'd recommend the pill in addition to rather than in place of a condom.
May I kindly ask about the "other reliable protection" you make. Answer of Q4. Thanks!
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2. Oh yeah. If you both pay attention to pleasing each other, it can be really good. I would say I love the further intimacy penetration provides as well as the extra feelings it adds.
3. Up to her. Some women want you to stop during the orgasm and then continue til you get yours (if you haven't already) or keeping going can be fine. Again, watch her body cues. Important to note here: most women cannot have orgasms through penetration alone. Be sure to have plenty of foreplay to ensure she's very aroused as for me it's more likely to happen then. Some cannot orgasm during penetrative sex at all. Be sure if your girlfriend is one of these women that you do other things whether oral or manual to get her to orgasm.
4. It depends. When my boyfriend was wearing condoms, whether he came inside or outside made no difference; it could also be that emotionally we weren't as close as we are now and it could make a difference for your girlfriend even if you wear a condom. Now that we have made the decision to not use condoms (we have other reliable protection), it's more pleasurable when he ejaculates inside me.
5. It can, but it depends on the person. I know guys tend to hate using condoms, but I have also heard that if a guy finds the right condom, it can be just like without. Not a guy so no clue beyond the fact my boyfriend prefers without and since we have birth control in place and can, is happy he doesn't have to worry.
I would highly recommend you use a condom unless you are ready for the possibility of pregnancy or your girlfriend is reliably taking birth control and has been for over a month. Even then, be sure you acknowledge there is still a possibility of pregnancy even with birth control. Know what each other's stances are on what would be done in that case so there are no surprises; for instance, I told my boyfriend early on I am against abortion so he knew there wouldn't be an easy out and could make a decision right for him when he decided he could trust me to take my pill.
Even if you are using a condom, you should have this discussion. Condoms can still break.
The biggest things you should remember with your sexual life is: don't be selfish, communicate, and be sure to watch her body language and care about her pleasure.