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what could this be?

So I haven't been have the best time lately. Last Monday( January 2) I had sex with my new boyfriend. Protection but about 5 mins in the condom broke so it was as if there was no protection. The sex was really rough  and that made me feel nothing but pain. I thought it was because the condom we used I was allergic to But during the 4play he bit me a lot so I thought that what it was also. The next morning I noticed that there was something brown on the guy shirts in an area that made me believe it came from me. The next day we tried to have sex again and it didn't work I was too sore to do anything.  The 3rd day after the first time we had sex I was still sore but I noticed that my skin was starting to peel. I know this was because I was allergic to the condom.  But it was right after I had sex and went to go pee so that I would not get a uti that I notice pain after I peeded. It was on the 3rd day that I looked and I had a lot of white discharge what what looked like a cut right under my vagina opening. I got really upset and scared when the guy I had sex with stopped talking to me and I felt like the only reason he did this is because he felt like I gave him something.  It a really new relationship and he walked in it telling me that he was clean but I not sure if I was. I mean I have not had anything happened that made me feel like I had anything but a uti once before but I was raped by someone and never told anyone about it so I never got checked just always has safe sex. I went to the doctor today( it's been 6 days since I had sex) and got tested for everything. I'm really scared that I have an STD and my doctor texted me for herpes because of the cut. Im feel as if I don't have herpes but and I was told that I have a uti and now have to wait two weeks to find out what is wrong with me. I'm starting to really freak out because I'm scared that I the guy I was with had something knew it and gave it to me knowingly because he knew when the condom ripped but kept going.  Another thing I'm worried is if I got something from the guy that raped me a few years back. And now Im worried that I have herpes. My question is from what I said do you guys feel that I have herpes or what could this be.
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See I don't feel like I have that because water doesn't hurt the only thing that really hurts it is when I go pee but other than that I'm fine. It kinda burn thought the day but that's only when I really think about it. And I feel like it has something to do with the fact that the guy kept missing the hole and would push really hard right where I have the cut( I sorry I know that was a lot of detail)  and I don't think I have to tell him anything his not answering any of my calls anyways
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My sister told me that whenever she has a herpes outbreak it hurts like a B****! Water runs over them and it's like they're on fire they're so painful.

jodiea93 is right too- it can take up to weeks before an STD symptom shows. So I would ask about how accurate the blood test is, and if it needs to be repeated for better accuracy.

If something does come up, you don't need to tell the guy where you might have gotten the STD. My experience has shown me that it really helps to talk about those kind of things- but no one can do that if they're still traumatized. It's cruel to ask you to revisit those memories before you are able, so if it does come up you can say you don't know.


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That's I how I felt from the condom and so I thought that I had gotten a ripped because I was so dry. But I just nervous now that the doctor said it could be herpes. And when she tested me for it she asked if the i felt any pain and I did but it was only a slight pain and I've read that people who have herpes feel a lot of pain so I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing
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No I haven't had any other symptoms to show that it could be herpes. I feel fine other than I have a slight burning feeling. I'm just really really nervous because if I gave the new guy an STD than I now it's from the guy who raped me and I'm not really over how that happened and I don't want to tell the new guy that is how I got it
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hey hun. herpes show them selves as being blisters in or around the genital area, however though these symptoms dont normally show them selves until 2 weeks after the virus has been trasmitted. Have you been experiencing any other symptoms as in the early stages you can experience flu type symptoms. Try not to worry yourself too much hun, i myself have had 2 stds. One of which was from my partner who i have been with over a year and was diagnosed as genital warts. However its a virus, so just like herpes it couold come back again at some point of your life and if it is that then that person you was with probably wouldnt of known himself. so you cant be sure if you gave it him or visa-versa.
It could be the allergic reaction from the condom or him being very rough with you during sex.

Hope your ok and feeling not as tender. let me know . jo x
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1809109 tn?1331803777
If you got herpes from the guy who raped you several years ago you probably would have already have had an outbreak. Have you ever had similar, painful cuts before?

I'm allergic to several lubricants/spermicides in condoms and if I use them it's like I have an instant yeast infection- I feel dry, and itchy and painful and swollen. If I try to keep going- I get friction burns. These feel even worse, if that is imaginable.

Now it is possible you have an STD, but no use in fretting about it now. Deal with it as it comes; the mass majority of them are extremely treatable and nothing to be afraid of.

Side note- if that guy walked away over just the sex aspect and an STD scare.. he's a kind of a jerk and you should just leave him be.
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