You have all the behavioral symptoms of a person who has been sexually abused/molested. Have you been sexually active? If not you can see a doctor and ask if your hymen is still intact.
The way your father behaves is pure abuse. You SHOULD report him to the police. You are not a minor anymore and your statement should be enough, your mother doesn't even have to testify. Approach some support group, talk to a therapist and give them permission to inform police. Talk to your siblings and tell them to be honest if they are being questioned by police. They will remove the abuser from the family. Your mom might not like that, losing male support in the house, well tough s**t. She should focus on keeping her children safe, not protecting the abuser.
In my family there is a child abuser (more closely- was) and he was my grandma's brother. He raped his two daughters. Not molested, actually raped, once they reached certain age. His wife even caught them few times but didn't dare report anything (this was in 80's) because support for women was practically not existing in my country at this time, she wasn't working, just him and she was too ashamed to return to her parents, divorced. That is what cowardice does to women. He used to throw her out in the street in worst cold barefoot if she spoke up, and she would freeze outside while he was alone having his way with their daughters. their daughters were sexually abused by him later on, even when they got married and had children of their own. Because it is a vicious cycle, and they also didn't want to oppose him or report him or whatever. Later it turned into consensual sex, I guess Stockholm syndrome or cause they grew up feeling they are obligated to. His wife died, he was never punished. He is over 80 now and his daughters still take care of him. One of his daughters had had her own child raped by her second husband, and she took husband's side blaming her daughter of seducing him.
This kinds of situations create a vicious cycle of abuse, and if you don't stop it now it is gonna go from bad to worse. You are old enough now to do something. Don't be a weak woman like your mother, speak up. Even if he doesn't get arrested but is reported this might send him message to stop it if he wants to stay out of legal trouble.
Also you HAVE TO see counselor about the fantasies of torture you are having. You are 18 now and your father cannot stop you from seeking medical help. Although he probably does try to keep you away from counselors and psychiatrists cause they are obligated to report if they notice any sign of abuse.
Please move out. He’s definitely molesting you. And I’m sorry because I feel like from what you’re saying this has been happing for years. And it’s not right. I went through something similar and all I can tell you is move! Please if you read this please get as far away from him as possible. I’m here if you ever need to talk!
It's really hard to move out at 18, especially with you're kind of family. But I would suggest you try. Find a friend who can take you in until you have enough money to move out. You don't even have to tell them, just leave a note saying you found an apartment in (make up a city) and that you're taking a bus there.
Don't make it sound like you moved in wtih a friend,
tell you're friend of the dangerous situation so they won't tell ANYBODY that you're living with them.
You also need to avoid you're dad as much as possible. He's not that far away from physical abuse (sexually) so I would highly suggest you avoid him until you can leave. Their are women's shelters you can live in until you get you're own place if a friend can't take you.
Good luck!
Your 18 now... You dont have too stay there anymore you can get away, get out and get a life of your own... Your situation sounds hard... but i think your dad is you know .... I dont think you should stay there anymore ... You need help of someone, couseling or maybe try too find private groups online.... there has too be someone out there who you can talk too ...You said you cant do this too your family... But how can your family let this happen too you :(... My dads never touched me the way you've explained that your dad touches you... and neither has my step dad like both will hug me.. and i used too get kisses on the cheek as a child ... Maybe a sholder rub but thats about it really... But they've never looked at my chest....or slapped my but... yeah you need too get out and i think you should talk too someone professionally too.. I wish you the best of luck and if you need too talk.... Keep us all posted
I am so sorry that you have to go through this and feel that you have nobody to turn to. I know you don't want to hear what I am going to say but I think this is in your best interest. I really really think you need to leave. Trust what your intuition is telling you. I know you don't want to tear apart your family but you have to protect you. If you don't have the money to afford a place there should be a womans shelter somewhere (probably in your area but for your safety I would go out of the area) where they will help you. They won't let anybody know where you are. If you are scared do you think your sister will go with you and leave to? It may make it better if you are not alone but she would also have to leave and never look back. Your mother is in denial hun and the situation you were raised in does not sound very safe. She should have left for you and your siblings safety a long time ago. I know you also said you can't afford couseling but they do have things like SARCC whick is for the sexual abused and it's free. Get help. You really need to for your own sake. I know it's hard to leave your family but your safety is on the line. Good luck and I wish you the best of luck.
I don't even know where to start....
If you feel like you are in fear of being raped and you are 18 you should definitely move out of the house! There is no reason for you to stay there anymore. If you have family you could move in with or a friend you could room with I would move out.
It's definitely not normal for a man to be abusive to anyone physically. That alone shows you should leave.
But as far as the sexualy abusive I don't know. Staring at your chest and touching you in ways that make you feel uncomfortable aren't okay. You should just not sit next to him. Don't let him rub your shoulder if you don't like it.
My dad rubs my shoulders because he's good at it and I have tight muscles, and he has to move my hair when it's long sometimes, it's perfectly normal. And when I was a kid he used to play drums on my butt. He would turn me over his legs and spank me as a joke, or he would throw me over his leg and spank his other leg and make me think he was going to spank me hard and I would jump but when I realized he never touched me I would laugh. it was funny. And he kicks my butt too just playing around. It's all fun and games.
He will pat my knee, but not rub it. And he does not look at me like he is thinking nasty thoughts. I think the line between dads and daughters and brothers and sisters is thin.
Once they start looking or touching and lingering or being sexual about it it crosses the line. But they still should be able to make contact by joking or showing affection without it being creepy. You are after all his baby. He used to feed and rock you and change your diapers. For some dads it's hard to tell what is fatherly and what is creepy.
Just use your judgement. Don't be alone with him if it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you're never alone with him he wont rape you.
If you move out he wont be able to abuse you as readily either.
Just make sure to keep yourself safe.
I can't remember my childhood, but it's because my father was verbally and physically abusive. It could be the same thing for you. It could just be the verbal and physical abuse.
And since you're so worried about sexual abuse your mind could be making up senarios and playing them in dream or intuition form.
Always trust your intuition though, it's better to be safe than sorry! A womans intuition is a power thing.
Be safe!!
Honestly... Can you edit the stuff that doesn't apply to you out then seprate what you know, what you suspect and then explain why you believe or suspect things and move from there?
And speaking of moving, why not just get a job aqnd move out?
Personally I asked my daughter to where more conservative clothes because it makes me uncomfortable having boys who are eighteen trying to hit on her (she's 11).