Thank you so much for posting Sara. Please post more as you have great insight into relavant topics for people who visit this site.
I will PM you later when I have time as it sounds like we have a lot of common experiences.
God Bless You,
Tom
Thank you also for allowing me to post here. I have been an addict all my life and now i am a very grateful recovering addict. If you have any questions feel free to ask or pm me. sara
You are doing what you need to do right now for your nephew and that isnt really enabling him to continue in his addiction. I was a child of alcoholic parents so i understand more now that i have cleaned up from my addiction. With addiction we talk of hitting our bottom but always know there are trap doors. It would be nice to see your nephew placed in an in house treatment facility as i feel he has many demons he is fighting. The road to recovery is a slow process, painful and scary but not near as painful as continuing in our active addiction. I hope and pray with everything i have that your nephew will decide on his own that this behavior has to stop. Someday he will know just what a great uncle you are....Keep doing what you are doing Tom. You just never know when the time will be when he says enough is enough.........sara
Sra,
Thanks for you response. I do indeed plan on being very specific with my nephew about how disappointed I am in his behavior. I am not yet ready to give up on him but the enabling has stop on all fronts as he moves from person to person to get bailed out all of the time.
I only helped him this time because it was a felony charge and he was looking state pen time on top of that. Also his public defender was not doing any thing for my nephew.
I really struggled with this and finally had to hire a private lawyer who was very expensive. If the charge had not been a felony I would not have hired a private lawyer for my nephew.
I fully intend on supporting my nephew's recovery efforts but first he has to support his own recovery effort. He presently is in denial and blames his problems on someone other than himself. I will pick him up[ from jai; in earlyu Augusty and he will spend a week with me before being sent home.
I appreciate your prayers and any other ideas that you may have as presently I am not at all optomistic about my nephew's future.
God Bless You,
Tom
I understand your frustration with your nephew. All i can say is make sure you let your nephew know that it is his behavior you are disappointed in. He is extremely disappointed in himself only he doesnt know how to deal with it. He has alot on his plate with many past demons he needs to face. I hope and pray that he will clean up and get the help that he so desperately needs. Dont give up on him but dont enable him. As one wise lady on the forum says, Support his recovery, not his addiction........sara