Idk to bring it up we already had a fight cuz of his watching porn and worked it out now to talk about his weird fetish
Of course no matter how you look at this its going to look & sound awful because it goes against everything that is right under the sun. At this point in time you really need to do some soul searching. There's a huge difference in looking at it, wanting it & doing it. Having my psychology degree we learned plenty of reasons why ppl fantasize about "normal" & abnormal sexual pleasures. Many times were told if there thinking about it they will do it..but that's a 50/50. Even to say all this if he had a daughter it may be different..I also don't know his childhood..it could simply be a control thing. Either way if you love him find out all this in a calm manner. Bc it is scary I know, but think if he was looking at raping a young girl online would we all still say its ok its just a fetish?
It is Completely normal and plenty of women fantasize about it as well. Me being one of them. My boyfriend and I do it quite often in everyday life. I'm 23 he's 41. It does not mean I want my own father nor would it mean he wanted his daughter if he had one. It's a turn on for a lot of people due to it being taboo. It's perfectly safe and perfectly normal
I don't see this as a harmless "fetish"!! Nor would I view this as harmless "fantasizing"!! This is alarming!!
I suggest:
Run don't walk!!
I was not thinking this sounded like a fetish, as the o.p. said, or even a little harmless fantasizing, as Life360 said. If it's numerous sites and almost all geared this one direction, it sounds more like an obsession; specific, directed and incidentally immoral, illegal and taboo in every civilized culture. Taboos don't happen by accident, they are the boundaries a culture develops so it can progress. I'm so glad he doesn't have a daughter, and I hope he never talks any woman into giving him one.
Life, I totally agree that everyone has fantasies. And I don't think occasionally looking at porn is a big deal - at all. It's no different, really, than looking at live beautiful women who are walking by (discreetly) and fantasizing about them. I get it, it's healthy, that's fine.
In my experience, men's fantasies tend to focus. And when they're focused on father/daughter sex, it's a sign they will try to act out on that - like they act out on their fantasies in general.
Usually, with most men, those fantasies are harmless preferences.
All people have thoughts about everything, all people. Some dismiss those thoughts that are not acceptable and some dabble in fantacies. None the less, the thoughts are still there.
Master and Johnson, who are forefront in the study of human sexuality, have noted that sexual fanticies are healthy. They therorize that humans have thoughts of all kinds, and are not limited to anything and to realize these in a fancy helps in understanding as the specific fancy does indeed take place in everyday life. (im post scripting).
Before the advent of google, our fantacies were limited to our private moment imaginations or sometimes off to the sex book shop and hiding the car in back , or a quick midnight X movie.
More and more people are being caught by their partner watching google sites, either by walking in the home office and catching them or checking the history web search.
I feel people need their moments alone to explore their couriosity.
Im not condoning father daughter sexuality but only posing a point to consider.
Porn and this father/daughter fetish? You should definitely not be making any future plans with him.
Yes, this is a "fantasy," but who is to say he would NEVER act on this and why temp fate if you stayed with him and had a daughter with him.
He needs some SERIOUS help dear. This is beyond creepy.
I can't imagine anyone being ok with this; accepting this.
ps -- Do you possibly look like you could be his daughter, in some way (age or appearance)? I hope he has not chosen you because he is covertly acting out his fantasies.
I agree. Run for it, you are not only protecting yourself from massive future heartache, but you are protecting any daughter you might someday have, from this guy being her father. No, it is not normal to specifically fantasize about father-daughter sex.
I can't even imagine continuing a relationship with him, maymay. I think it's absolutely undeniable that if at some point he has a daughter, he'll have sex with her.
Hi there. Well, this seems to be part of his fantasty life. While I do think we can have fantasies we would NEVER act on in real life---- the one involving a father/daugher would also worry me and creep me out.
To me, it is a red flag. You have to decide if it is to you as well.
He'll probably become sensitive if you bring up this particular aspect to the porn he is watching but you almost have to in order to determine where he is at with this kind of fantasy. Ugh. This is a tough one.
Please say he doesn't have a daughter.