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The annoying question
So I get it first it is "So when are you getting married?" Now it is "So when are you having a baby?" My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and my family, his family, friends, and co-workers are all asking when we are going to have a baby. I am trying to be nice but the questions are getting old and I am really getting bothered because I am talking to a doctor to work on some fertility issues and now it just hurts my feelings like I am not trying or something. So I was wondering how some of you handled the annoying question without hurting other people's feelings?
It is hurtful and I've been getting it a lot too. When we were trying for our first I kept it a secret, but now I've been open about trying and not having any luck. It really makes people feel stupid for asking so casually and it makes me feel better to be honest. Maybe that doesn't work in every situation, but i don't know how to hide my feelings about wanting a baby when all of my friends and family are having them. I am one of 8 of my friends that started trying this summer and am the only one still not pregnant. What's worse is that I'm the youngest. :(
It is hurtful and I've been getting it a lot too. When we were trying for our first I kept it a secret, but now I've been open about trying and not having any luck. It really makes people feel stupid for asking so casually and it makes me feel better to be honest. Maybe that doesn't work in every situation, but i don't know how to hide my feelings about wanting a baby when all of my friends and family are having them. I am one of 8 of my friends that started trying this summer and am the only one still not pregnant. What's worse is that I'm the youngest. :(
Wow. When is he getting snipped? I thought when are you going to give me grandchildren was bad enough.
I did come up with an original line that I finally gave my family because I was tired of the old lines so my new line is "I called the stork and he said my baby is on back order...I will let you know when he/she ships" It makes me laugh instead of cry so I guess it works.
I did come up with an original line that I finally gave my family because I was tired of the old lines so my new line is "I called the stork and he said my baby is on back order...I will let you know when he/she ships" It makes me laugh instead of cry so I guess it works.
The most offending question we have gotten is my mom and step dad asking my husband when he's getting snipped. Talk about offensive. I've been just waiting for them to ask it again. This time I won't be so nice about it. lol
I used to ask that question but now know that is actually an inappropriate question. Now I get offended by the question about "is this it now that you have a boy and girl". People answer for us...and it pisses me off. It's no ones business how many children we have!! Just like it's no ones business when you choose to have children.
I now know myself that many people deal with infertility problems and it's a hurtful question to ask when it's really none of my business.
I always fended those questions by saying "we'll see" or "you never know".
I now know myself that many people deal with infertility problems and it's a hurtful question to ask when it's really none of my business.
I always fended those questions by saying "we'll see" or "you never know".
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