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Boyfriends Son Doesn't Like Me

I need HELP!!!! So Me & my boyfriend who is 28 years old & I'm 19 years old. The thing is he has a son me I don't have any children. I've been dating him since October 2012 & were moving in soon like 3 days from today. So his son stays with us every weekend he currently lives with his mother. Funny thing is he doesn't like me one weekend & sometimes he does.  I have no clue what to do. His father spoke to him but he still hasn't sent the message through to his son that he has to give me equal respect just like he does with his mothers lame boyfriend. I think his mother tells him things to not like me. When my boyfriend asks her she claims its their son not her. Mind you he came to stay with us this friday & its saturday morning & his son still hasn't said hi or hugged me nothing. Sometimes I think my boyfriend is tired of me bringing this subject up all the time. I've been dealing with this hurt/pain since March 2013.  I don't know what to do anymore I tried so much already. Sometimes I wanna just leave his dad cause I fear things will never change. I'm stuck in a rock I can't climb out of..
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I'm on the other end. My oldest son hates my fiancé and constantly tells him to get out says and does harsh things. Eventually it does pass, i have been with my fiancé for almost a year now. Don't expect the worse of the childs mother whether she is or isn't saying something. You have to show him your awesomeness. And make it very clear to him you are not there to replace mommy. That was always my sons biggest fear was ryan was replacing his daddy. Once we made it clear to him ryan was his friend that he wasn't required to call him daddy he eased a little. Try initiating with him playing with him, chilling with him. He have video games? Play even if you have no clue what your doing. My son loves zombies ry had no clue how to play zombie games but caught on quick to ease the situation. And yes I'll tell you it gets annoying hearing that your ex would do something so childish to ruin your happiness by using your child. And it is annoying to hear every two seconds that a kid hates you. Kids don't hate, they test the limits and when they don't understand something they simply refuse to accept it. How old is he?
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my hubby and I have been together for 5 years, he has a 13 it old son and 8yr old daughter, two different mothers. his oldest I think hates me still his daughter loves me though. it took his daughter almost a full year to come around. it's tough on kids. we have a  3yr old and a baby on the way that the oldest already doesn't like. you can't always win step kids over.
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You are being unrealistic if you think that several months of experiencing this situation is going to resolve it. Remember - this is a very young child and you are expecting an awful lot of him. It sure doesn't sound like this situation is going to work out. You're not ready, nor is his father, to be managing this together yet. There's much work to do.
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