That's rape. You need to get out of there, ASAP
Honey that is rape! If he's forcing you to do something sexual you don't want to do and isn't listening to you when you say it hurts..... That's not good!
sounds like he is a bit freakier than you. Tell him to cool it. I think the situation you described sounds awesome, but not the anal part. It should not hurt either of you or its not cool.
How do I tell him to stop?
Screaming out in pain is asking to stop but if that's not working for you then actually scream 'STOP rape' and use the word rape so he gets the f****** hint if he doesn't like you saying that then you tell him well what am I supposed to say when you're not f****** stopping when I asked you to?
At one point in time when my ex husband was holding me down I actually was punching him with Fists in the side and he still wasn't stopping or letting me get up off the bed I don't know what part of stop he didn't f****** understand but it really drives me nuts when I hear about guys doing that because it happened to me! and I should have punched him in the face instead of the sides!
I'm sure he'll keep forcing me to have anal sex with him.
I think you mean ANY sex!
So how do I please him?
Honey sounds like he's pleasing himself, what you need to concentrate on is pleasing yourself not him and getting him to please you!
What are the best positions?
If you are going to continue to date this person, then I suggest you on top is the best position for right now. When you get to the point of him taking your pants off stand up fully and tell him you're not getting on the couch until he lies down first , straddle over top of him put your private parts right over his mouth and then put your private parts right over his waist line.
How do I know when I'm having an orgasm?
A long time ago I asked a really good girlfriend, I asked her the same question how do I know if I've had an orgasm????
Her answer to me was if you have to ask then you haven't had one yet
Now that I'm 38 I can look back and honestly say she was right and she gave the right answer!
My boyfriend is forcing me to have anal sex with him. The thing that annoys me is that we will just be laying there watching TV and he sits on top of me and starts kissing me then he takes my shirt and bra off and then my pants and underwear.
All right, I am going to stop you right here, this is the point where you should be saying NO how does he get your bra shirt and pants off???
Next time he does this you need to tell him 'no" and when he says "why not" say "the last few times I took my clothes off for you you ended up hurting me and I'm afraid you will do it again"
this is the exact moment that you should be telling him I am afraid you will hurt me and when I say no you don't stop and that's abuse I don't want it to happen again so I no longer want to have sex with you out of fear
if that doesn't make him stop and he continues press criminal charges. If you can print out these messages so you can show the police that you tried to get help on tips to get him to stop without please help and it failed so now you're going to police route also prepare yourself as well that the police may not believe you.
He'll be in his boxers and so he pulls out his penis and puts it into my vagina.
This was a little confusing because the title said anal sex and now you're saying vagina which is not anal sex.
It hurts sometimes.
I am unsure about other woman but for me it's normal for sex to hurt on occasion. I have to try different positions and my current husband is a little bit on the large size, so I'm often saying ouch or ow, and everytime I do he immediately stops says sorry and tries to reposition us. This is a respectful relationship.
When I scream he goes harder and faster, I tell him it hurts but he just goes harder and faster.
Unless of course you are doing role-playing of a rape scene with consent then this is real rape and he needs to stop immediately
What he is doing is rape. There is no exception here. When you say stop or tell him that he is hurting you and he doesn't stop that is rape. I know, I was married to someone who would bug me and beg for sex after I said no until I just gave in to shut him up. Sometimes he would just start, pretty much how you described what your boyfriend does. Sometimes I wanted it and I didn't say no exactly, but I made it clear that I didn't want it.
He took advantage of the fact that I was young and inexperienced (he was 3 years older) and thought that this was how relationships were. I thought that because we were married that whatever we did sexually was probably normal and I shouldn't complain.
When I got a little older 25 to 28 I slowly stopped giving into him and eventually stopped altogether because his controlling behavior (which happened outside the bedroom as well) finally killed all my feelings for him.
I didn't realize that I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship until after we divorced. Once i dated normal men and saw the difference i realized how bad my ex really was to me.
Think about these warning signs
- Does he hate your friends or act stupid, annoying, embarrassing so you stop bringing them around?
- Does he always want to know where you are? Her would probably say it's because he worries about you so much...
- Does he prefer to drive you and pick you up when you go places like work or to visit your friends or family?
- Does he put you down or call you mean names when you get dressed up and do your makeup?
- Does he try to make you feel bad for him by telling you about his bad childhood or terrible experiences with past girlfriends.
- Does he cry and tell you he only does those things because he loves you so much and is afraid to lose you?
If he does any of these things he might be trying to emotionally isolate you. This will give him more control and you might start to accept how he is treating you as normal.
You need to get away from this guy. At best he is pressuring you to have sex when you don't want to which is a form of rape. At worst he is an abuser who is grooming you to accept more and more unacceptable behavior as normal. You are already accepting sexuality abusive behavior including actual rape as part of your relationship because he is "sweet".
Please get out of that situation, go to a family member, a friend, a women's shelter... anywhere is better than where you are. I know it is scary and might feel like you are betraying him but in reality he had been betraying you all this time. Please talk to someone in your life and ask for help.
Hi CH, First he has no right to what he is doing, in one way sounds like some of it is your fault, ever thought of just saying NO, and it stops here.
One thing he's no real lover, he's just forcing him self on you, sounds like he's off at the side working himself up then just jumps on you ready and hard. if that's the case that makes him ANGSOAB, he needs a sex education.
As for anal just say no, he's using you as a sex toy, he just wants you as his own play thing.
Not the way to go, best advice from me, Ditch the SOB.
Good Luck
Not to be mean but that doesn't sound sweet sounds like he needs jail time
He's a really sweet guy and I don't want to leave him. And I don't exactly tell him no.
In all honesty hun if he's hurting you, & forcing his penis into you when you say no this is rape! I don't care you guys are together, that sh#t is not ok. You shouldn't want to please this guy. You should want to leave this guy.
Don't waste your life on a person like that. I've dated guys that seemed sweet but had that one thing wrong with them before, it doesn't turn out well.
My advice is leave him and don't look back.