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[bd3240]

Hello all. Id like to first thank each and everyone of you for this service it is appreciated. I think I am posting in the right section however if I am not I can repost it in another at a diff. time. This is the situation I am in. I have been dating my now ex girlfriend/fiance for almost 3 years now. we had a great relationship. Hardly ever fought were very close and it didnt take long for us to fall in love. we would express our love for one anohter all the time and always talk about how we wanted to get married and have a baby. We in fact did have a baby and were engaged not too long after. very recently seemingly out of nowhere she started telling me she is not happy any longer and she did not love me any more. Confusion is running rampant on my mind. The thing that is so troubling is one day she will be telling me she loves me and things are as good as they always have been and the next day she is back to telling me she doesnt want to be with me any longer. thge constant up and down is really taking me on an emotional roller coaster. I have decided to seek help for myself to either help cope with this loss and make sense of some of it. Mainly I am here to request any information from people that I can. My ex has pushed me out of her life hardly talks to me and is seemingly up and down about her emotions in the sense taht one second she loves me and the next she doesnt want to be with me. she has pushed away from just about everyone who cares about her and shut herself off from the world. She has said things like I feel trapt I need to get away everyone is getting to me. She also just started a new medication not to long ago perscriped by a general doctor which she feels is making everything worse. How can you go from loving someone to not seeminlgly over night and not want to try and even work things out? Any help would be amazing Thank you all

[Jinx_777]

almost sounds like she is borderline personality.  hmmmmm  it could be postpartum depression.  
give her the space she needs and concentrate on being a good father.   make sure she is able to properly care for your child.  depending on how severely depressed she is that could be an issue for her.  
she may come around after finding out there really is not anyone out there that she loves more than you.  in other words.............. she is not missing out on anything.

[bd3240]

Does anyone have anything else they can offer as to what I can do?

[bd3240]

Thank you for the response ... she told me she was depressed and she needed to speak with someone ... the medication is lexipro ... any help would be appreciated on how to approach this and how to help me through this as well

[evewisewoman]

Hi there,

Just finished reading your post. It sounds to me like your ex girlfriend
is having a tough time. Based on your comments, she may be going
through a depression. You mentioned she has pushed away from just about everyone who cares about her and shut herself off from the
world.  That's what you do when you're depressed. You feel anxious,
you feel paranoid and you're scared . You mentioned you had a baby
together. How old is the baby ?  I know sometimes women experience
post partum depression after a baby has been born.
You also mentioned that her doctor started her on a new medication
not to long ago. Do you know the name of the medication ?
Is it an antidepressant by any chance ?  Some antidepressants or
anxiety medications have really bad side effects.  I know this because
I went through a depression more than 10 years ago. My doctor at the
time tried me on a number of different antidepressants before we found
one that agreed with me.  It really sounds to me like your ex girlfriend
may be going through a depression. I wouldn't give up on her.
In fact , if she is going through a depression, she will need your help
to cope especially if there is a baby involved.  I think you mentioned
that even your ex girlfriend says the medication she is on is making
everything worse.  Try and found out what medication this is.
If you tell me the name of it, I can tell you what the possible side effects
of this medication are. Where are your girlfriend and the baby living
now ? You said ex girlfriend, so I'm assuming they are not living with you.
This really sounds like your ex girlfriend is going through the beginning
of a depression and having gone through a depression myself, I can
tell you she will need your support and the baby will too.
This is no time to turn on back on her and try to cope with your loss.
It doesn't have to be a loss.  This has all the signs of depression.
The with drawing, the indecision, pushing people away. These are classic signs of depression. Your ex girlfriend needs your support. You could
tell her you understand that she's going through a rough time and that
you are there for her and willing to help her. That's what she needs to
hear from you from the sounds of it.  I wish you both well.  Eve