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9619326 tn?1408913215

MARRIAGE ????

Is it wrong of me to want to get married before my baby gets here ???? We been together for 1 year and 4 months
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9619326 tn?1408913215
I'm just going to wait if it's meant to be it will happen thankyou all for ur opinions it made me think more and thought I should just let it come on his own :)
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I'm old school i dont believe in babies out of wedlock or divorce. Do do what you feel is best because obviously everyone feel different on this stuff. But if a baby happens out of wedlockof be sure it's forever because if it doesnt work out it will mess the kids head up if ya'll dont get along
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A baby does make a marriage. If anything it makes it harder. I can tell you I plan to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and our child on the way however neither of us are wanting to jump into marriage just because we're pregnant. We are going to be together and be happy and raise our little nugget and no it will happen when it's supposed to not because we rushed it
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9038886 tn?1402125726
Marriage is a beautiful blessing. You should go for it.
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Not wrong at all I'm Old
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Patience. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you should rush into marriage. Maybe he feels pressured now that you are pregnant. People change after marriage. I was married once before and it didn't turn out to be the best. We married so i could get out the house after we already had a child together. It was a learning lesson for sure. Saw his true colors when he would put his hands on me. After 6 years i finally was fed up and told him to leave. My husband now is so wonderful from the day i met him till forever. God has blessed me with him. And i would have never found him if the Lord didn't but me through all that i went through. We've known each other 3 years and had a kid between the first and second  year got married after that. You never know. God bless you. Pray for it in Jesus name.
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9947022 tn?1407987195
It's ideal but i dont think you should get married just because youre pregnant or try to basically in a sense tell a man he needs to propose. Neither are good reasons to get married and usually dont end well. I wouldnt want to be married under those circumstances. Just be patient and the time will come. Ya never know,he may have already been planning to ask.
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My boyfriend had mentioned it when we found out we were pregnant. I said if you wanted to marry me it would have came up before I got pregnant not because I'm pregnant now. So I said after the baby. I just don't feel like stressing over planning a wedding whike pregnant and wondering what could I find to fit in. I also wanted my wedding to be out of state so it's just better that I'm not pregnant trying to do all that.
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My husband and I were pregnant before we got married. I would have married him regardless. But for me, I just really wanted the same last names on the birth certificate. It really bothered me, actually. So we did. [: Try telling your boyfriend about your concerns of not being married. It might help him see your point of view.
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No its not wrong, you should do what makes you happy! I went on holiday at 19wks, holiday was booked 6months before we found out we were expecting. I was going through the same motions, I wanted us all to have the same name and like a previous poster said I wanted him to be my legal next of kin if anything should happen. A about a month before we were due to fly, we discussed it, made enquiries and within a few days we'd booked our wedding for day 7 of our 14day holiday! Best thing I ever did. No stress, no big fuss with guestlists etc, it was amazing! We'd been together 10yrs and 10days to the day we married :)
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Same here. We're already engaged and have plans to get married next year but I want to get married before the baby arrives. I'm only 5 weeks. Not only do I want us to have the same name from the beginning but if anything was to happen to me I would want him to legally be able to make life decisions for our child.(I have a very bossy family). But even then I'm still confused. Do I want to get married with a bump in a rushed wedding or do I want to try to squeeze my fat ***, ******* leaking self down an isle 3 months after I give birth?
I really just want to run away to Jamaica and get married in April but I might not be able to fly by then... ugh.
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Not at all...I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and my partner and I have been together for 6 years, he says its going to happen one day lol I mainly would just like to have the same last name as our son
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Marriage is a blessing. It's beautyful. Yess it's a great idea, you will open doors to blessings. I just posted in another post with similar topic that ever since me and hubby got married we received favor from life. Hubby has a lot of work. We are happy to have enough and extra. And I'm just grateful.
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9619326 tn?1408913215
Bump
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9619326 tn?1408913215
I brought it up and his response was I don't believe in that . Dissapointing bcuz my thoughts r y not ??? Do u not c a future here ??? Lol I don't know how to take it <\3
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Nope.  Id want it too.
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