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My 17 year old son, no interest in girls.

I have a son who is almost 17. Most of the time, he is out with his friends, when he is in he does not leave his room
whenever I try to talk with him he just answers with grunts. Although he is amsost 17, he shows no interest in girls at all. I heard someone mention he might be gay, but I have not seen evedence of this, but it might explain his lack of interest in girls. If this is the case, the right thing for me do do is to except it, (the only dissapointment for me would be no grandchildren). Should I ask him, or should I let him tell me himself.
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If he's interested in girls or not, it's probably better if you let him tell you.  I have to ask you a question - how are you going to react if he tells you he IS gay?  If you have already voiced a negative opinion of being "gay" in his presence, that is likely the reason he's hasn't said anything.   If you've been indecisive in your feelings about "gays", again, he's not going to say anything that is going to cause you to worry.  If you haven't voiced your opinion about "gays", you are in favor of a person living HIS personal life to the fullest, then you need to tell him that, NO MATTER WHETHER HE IS "GAY" OR NOT, YOU ARE GOING TO CONTINUE TO LOVE HIM BECAUSE YOU LOVED HIM ENOUGH TO HAVE HIM AS YOUR SON!
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he is probably demisexual or asesexual
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It's often that gay people adopt children if they get married.
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He could also be asexual but either way, you could ask him but don't pressure or push him.
On the other hand, he could actually still be interested in other girls but he's not very open about it towards you. If that's the case, I suggest you talk about it with him but if he doesn't open up, it's probably no big deal and he could just be a bit shy.
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He could also be asexual but either way, you could ask him but don't pressure or push him.
On the other hand, he could actually still be interested in other girls but he's not very open about it towards you. If that's the case, I suggest you talk about it with him but if he doesn't open up, it's probably no big deal and he could just be a bit shy.
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Hi welcome to the World Wide Web and 2017, just wanted to let you know that all persons generally can reproduce both gay and straight. (2 gay persons can not have a child alone but can use a surrogate) If not then he could adopt if he wanted to have children. Seems proposterous that that is your response.

You should not go to him, he should come out if he is gay when he is ready. You will only make him resent you by pushing
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I think you would know if he was gay.
I went to a all-boys school and was very shy and found it very difficult to talk to girls until I was over 20.
When I got away from home and was in a place where girls were easier to meet I made up for lost time.
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Don't worry, he might give you grandchildren whether gay or straight.

You could ask him.  Gay or straight, the one thing you do know is that he is introverted, so do it sympathetically and don't be too challenging.  But if he is gay and doesn't know how to tell you, he probably won't mind you bringing it up.
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