Dad hate his own children

[mlordess]

Ok I have a big problem and really confuse, me and my boyfriend have a problem I have tried all my best to please him (I make sure I cook clean takes care of my child etc) also give him my bank card. Still he doesn't appreciate me complain in every thing, am pregnant with the 2nd child he doesn't care about me or my baby to make matter worth my baby goes to him for that dad thing he ignores her dont also talk to her or touch her, that is the mkst painful part of it, he takes out all my money frim the bank and left me with nothing dont give us money or care on how we feed, I dont even know what to do anymore crying have been my order of the day. He tells me he doesn't care. How can a father hate his own children

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, how can you stay with him when he is like this?  Crying isn't going to change his mind.  I think you should throw him out.  File with a lawyer to get him obliged to pay child support also.

[Karinakins]

I agree with the other comments.. if anything he is causing you and your unborn baby more harm than anything. A partner should have your back, protect you and love you. This man simply does not love you nor will he love your children. It's time for you as a mother put your kids 1st and focus on yourself and getting through this pregnancy. He is literally dead weight just another person for you to take care of and it should be the other way around. Find your inner strength and get rid of him. Trust me you one day will find something better. This is simply toxic. I'll keep you in my prayers mama!

[Trini_Lover]

leave that *** sweetie.

[RockRose]

I don't think he wants to "frustrate" you,  he just wants to continue to have access to your money and sex.  

I don't believe for a minute he'd want to take your kids,  or even have visitation.  

Money,  and sex.  That's what he wants.  Cut him off from both.  

[chelly_thunda]

Make sure you get a new bank card with a new card number, kick him out, love on your children and yourself. YOU must be the example for your kids on how you deserve to be treated. They will learn from YOU if his behavior is ok or not.

[specialmom]

I'm sorry to read this too.  So hard on kids to have a parent that is like this. But they have you.  While it would have been best to not have a second baby with him, oh well.  NOW, you just move forward to create a happy home for them.  I'm not sure what you say about him 'dividing' the kids and fighting you.  He certainly doesn't want custody, right?  I think that you can apply for assistance (are you an adult or under 18?), housing, etc.  That takes a bit of time but it may help you get on your feet.  Then you can make a long term plan for how you can become independent and not need anyone such as taking advantage of the programs to go to school/college/trade school for free.  Your life will be more complicated and difficult doing all of this as a single mom of two kids, but once you get established, you'll be thankful you did these things.  And make sure that you start the process of collecting child support.  That is his duty, to provide money for his kids. He may not make a lot which stinks because you only get what a person can afford based on their pay checks for child support.  There is a minimum amount though that varies by state.  

But this relationship isn't working.  He sounds cruel.  Focus on your kids and starting a life where you, as their only real parent, can provide for them and make a stable, happy and peaceful home.  good luck

[Momma1506]

Oh honey, I would say you should leave him. I am unsure why some fathers are like this. My biological father was the same way. However, I'm having a child with my new boyfriend and have a child from my previous marriage. My boyfriend is there not only for me, but my son as well, he considers him his own. He does anything and everything he can to provide for us. He helps me with daily tasks, cooking, cleaning, taking care of our son. If the father of your children doesn't appreciate you or your children you need to do not only what's best for you, but what is best for your children. Our kids watch us to learn how relationships work, what is acceptable treatment from the opposite sex. Please think about it. I know it's the hardest choice a mother can make, but consider it please.

[AnnieBrooke]

Call a women's shelter and ask where there is a legal clinic who can help you with a lawyer.  You need backup and fast.  Also talk to a pastor or a counselor.

[mlordess]

Thanks to u all mama its is really serious than I think, he told me if I should go away I should be ready to divide the the kids he will make sure he fight me with his last money. What I dont understand stand his kids he doesn't care about that he want. He just want to frustrate me. Too much thinking am tired,

[Danalexa]

He is waisting the oportunity to rise his kids and have a good life so he have a problem not you....stop crying cuz that wont fix anything...stand up kick his *** out of your life and make him pay child support take your bank card back and keep going...dont let nobody make you fell dow honey you're precious im sure you have people who loves you so keep going...teach a lesson to that ashole and maybe he learn but if no forget it you dont need idiots around you....Gid bless you..

[Danalexa]

God im so sorry but i think you need stand up and kick his *** out of your life...honey this is no about you anymore  is about your kids im sorry if im rude but i gonna talk to you with same words i'll use with my sister you need growp up 2 balls and send him to hell right now...how can you give him all your money??How can you let him ignore your baby and still talking to him?This is unacceptable and i know is hard but you can do it...you said he doesnt help you and he doesnt care so means you're living by yourself long time ago what are you waiting for??..You dont need an idiot in your live to rise your kids you can do it by yourself till he grows up and decide take care of his family but if not who cares you're no loosing anything..he is loosing you and waisting the opoetunity