I was diagnosed with HPV about 7 or so years ago after I went to the doctor about what turned out to be genital warts (on the scrotum). I got them frozen off immediately, and everything was fine for a while, but years later I developed a new wart on my scrotum similar to the ones I had before (I was sexually active so for all I know it's a new strain...but I've been vaccinated so probably not). I read that HPV warts usually go away on their own after a while, but it's been more than a year and the wart persists. I'm planning on getting it removed soon.
This wasn't too big a problem since I was single over that period of time, but I've recently met a girl I'm interested in dating (and, obviously, eventually having sex with). Various online sources seem to say that if you wait one or two YEARS after an outbreak you "greatly reduce" your likelihood of transmitting the virus. They also say that condoms will greatly reduce that risk. Neither of these options are appealing to me.
I don't have an allergy to condoms, but I find them to be very uncomfortable, so much so that they often make me lose my erection (which is incredibly embarrassing). At the same time, I don't want to be doomed to a sexless relationship for the next two years (or more if I have another breakout), nor to force that on someone else.
So...what do I do here? I mean, I assume I will have to tell her this before we have any sort of unprotected sex, but how do you say "I have genital warts and don't want to give them to you" without it being an immediate turn-off/black mark? Furthermore, if I have the wart removed is there really still a high likelihood of passing the virus to her if we have sex without a condom within the next two years? I've read, too, that "most" HPV infections are fought off by the immune system and never have any noticeable effects...is that referring to most STRAINS of the virus? That is to say, is the fact that mine gave me warts indicative that it probably won't be fought off by her immune system (since it wasn't by mine), and will give her warts too? If so, is there any way to protect against that other than condoms/abstinence?
tl;dr: how can a person with a genital wart causing strain of HPV who currently has a breakout (that originated more than a year ago and will soon be removed) carry on a healthy sexual relationship with a woman WITHOUT using condoms for the next two years? Is it possible, or am I just doomed to be a disappointment in bed one way or another? =(