How do you move on after divorce

[Darturg]

I was married 14 years have been divorced over 10. My children are grown up and I have a grandchild. The ex has moved on and has children younger than the grandchild. I’m not sure how to move on. I have dates but don’t now. I keep having dreams about the ex even though we never see each other and I feel it’s over.

[specialmom]

I'm sorry if I missed this post!  And I'm sorry you are hurting and still struggling with this.  It probably hurts that your ex husband has moved on and created a new family.  You must be fairly young still.  :>)  There is plenty of life to live left for you and good things to come.  I would try to build some strong relationships and not necessarily romantic ones.  Join some clubs, church groups, join a gym, etc. and meet people.  Get a 'circle'.  Invite a friend to go get lunch or coffee or see a movie.  Stay active with your kids and grand kids.  And hopefully you will eventually meet someone special at some point.  This can never be rushed.  It just happens.  Nowadays, they have dating sites that are excellent.  Much different than when I was dating.  Meeting through one of these sites is fairly common now!  And sometimes it is helpful to find a therapist to just get it out.  Talk about your feelings, fears, pain, etc.  A journal is the next best thing though and writing out your feelings is a way of processing them.  You can often get clarity by doing that.  Anyway, we are here to talk!  Visit us often!