Have you considered having an Intervention done on this loved one?Have you watched the show Intervention?The counselor coaches/ leads the family to each state their concerns using I feel statements,being very firm/loving and not allowing the alcoholic to divert them from their position.Some counselors charge a fee for this.I'm wondering and only you know if your family could try one but you must all be united in how you approach the loved one and not waiver from your intention.Doing an Intervention is no guarantee the alcoholic will agree to seek help,but at least you can say as a family you tried.The county you live in has outpatient substance abuse counseling agencies.Their counselors have to be licensed to practice in your state.I would schedule an appointment and see @ learning more @ whether or not doing an Intervention would be the route to go with your loved one.