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please i need logical answers

im trying to eat my girl out and she is constantly telling me what to do and keeps trying to tell me how to do it instead of letting me do my thing. was it wrong for me to get turned off and not finish because it was stressful.
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495284 tn?1333894042
When performing oral sex on the other person it is all about "their thing".  Listen to what she is saying as the more she is turned on the more you will be too!
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Sex clearly takes care and tact. If someone is doing something (the man or the woman) that is not comfortable or exciting to the other, they should try to learn from what the other one says. When you say she constantly directs you instead of "letting me do my thing," it could be that your "thing" (which possibly has worked for other women in the past) simply doesn't do much for her. It's not a one-way street, it's more like a dance.

Your description could be of a shrew telling someone what to do all the time (and if it is an extension of how she is in other times and situations, she might be no different in bed) or it could just as easily be a description of a guy who has an idea of how to do something that isn't going to work who just keeps doing it, and the woman trying to get him to do something more stimulating. Oral sex done badly is not particularly fun.

So I guess you have to decide together what it is about your oral technique that doesn't turn her on, and whether it makes you feel insecure to hear her say that it isn't turning her on, and what you want to do about it if the way she reacted made you feel stressed.
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I'm also thinking of an analogy. Say she does oral for you and is active and apparently "doing her thing" but she keeps biting you or bumping you with her teeth. And it hurts and isn't particularly fun for you. At that point, it becomes a tact issue, a communication issue, and/or a control issue, not a sex issue so much. Sex is just a little microcosm of the pattern of the relationship over all. If she's a fun person and a secure partner, and you say "Ouch! That hurts!" it could be funny, or she might stop and try to fix her technique. But if she is insecure about whether she is sexy to you or not, it could be the wrong thing to say, and you'd have to figure out another approach to communicating your problem. I once had a boyfriend who I liked a lot, but he was a terrible kisser. It took a TON of tact to find a way to tell him and get him to change his technique. It sounds like she failed you in terms of tactfulness, and you failed her in terms of turning her on, and what you do from here is talk it over.
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