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What did my grandfather die from? REALLY need answers

My grandfather passed away on September 7, 2019. He was suffering from "dementia" even though he was never tested for it. The doctor simply said he had dementia because he forgot how to get home one night while he was driving. About 6 months ago, he fell while in the shower and was rushed to the hospital where they said to turn him over to hospice because he would never be able to walk again. A few weeks ago, I noticed that a corner of his mouth started to droop a bit. I asked the hospice nurse if she thought maybe he had a mini-stroke and she said no. I knew it was weird that only one side of his mouth looked like that. Around that time is when he stopped talking as much. He had been out of it for a while, but always still talked even though it didn’t make sense. 2 weeks ago, he started throwing up black stuff that looked like coffee grinds. the hospice nurse on call came over and said that it was just bile. he did not wake up at all that day. later that night I noticed that he had blood coming out of his nose and one of his eyes was somewhat open and it looked pink. I read that this was the beginning signs of death. we called the hospice nurse and she came and said that he was actively dying and she though that he was throwing up blood, not bile, but they do not have the stuff to test it and see if it was blood or bile. He also had a dark spot by his tear duct, which I think could have been blood also coming from his eye. We got his death certificate yesterday and it said that the cause of death was cerebral atherosclerosis. I guess I just want to know what happened to him and what exactly happened to him to cause his death? Was it a stroke possibly?  Ischemia to the brain? What would cause him to throw up blood, have blood come from his nose and eyes and not be awake for over 24 hours.
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The fact that he was sent to hospice, a place for people nearing death, and not a nursing home, where dementia patients are sent, indicates they weren't telling you the whole truth.  Dementia patients can live for years.  My mother, for instance, 20 years.
Doctors tend to avoid discussions of death, and many, at best, allude to what is occurring: end of life.  Lots of buzz on honest end of life notification these days, because patients and their families often would make different decisions if they'd been informed (bucket list).
Many brain impact diseases can at best be a guess, along with causes, which may or may not be diagnosed via autopsy.  You're likely to get clearer answers on "what exactly happened" by researching the decline cerebral atherosclerosis patients.  Such things are usually a list of cascading physical failures, and not just one.
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