I just don’t know how mr wrong could be the father, we didn’t have sex for long and he didn’t cum in me, cause I was scared. I just don’t know if the guilt is getting to me and making me feel anxious
OK, well, that's helpful info but September 11 is not ruled out by it totally.
If your ultrasound had been in your sixth week or early seventh week, it would be more reliable to use to split the difference this finely on dates. But by the 8th week, due to variations in the growth rates of babies, doctors will say there is a two- or three-day margin for error when trying to use an ultrasound to date conception. The margin for error of +/- 3 days means that while an ultrasound could be spot-on for estimating when you conceived, it could also be off by that many days either way, if your baby is growing more quickly or slowly than the average. The time gap from the day your doc would have said you conceived (September 7) and the day of sex with Mr. Wrong being just four days, well, that's just not a commanding enough time gap to say for sure that sex with Mr. Wrong was out of the question to have produced the baby.
Some more questions to try to figure this out:
You've had unprotected sex for how long with your boyfriend and not gotten pregnant? Does Mr. Wrong have any children?
Have all subsequent ultrasounds measured the baby as at the same percentile in the growth charts, and have any later ultrasounds changed your due date?
How badly would it mess things up to tell your boyfriend that you made a mistake and had sex one time with someone else?
Sorry I meant 8 weeks and 5 days
The calendar date was the 24/10/2019
I had an early ultrasound at 9 weeks and they give me the due date of the 30th May.
Yes I asked prior is he said he didn’t ejaculated earlier that day, he didn’t have full erection and when having sex he told when he felt like he was going to cum so I jumped off and finished him off. I know the guy quite well but I didn’t think he could be the father cause of the dates of my date date, I have discussed it with him and he said he wants nothing to do with the baby so I would just he left on my own
No I haven’t told my boyfriend I feel so guilty that I’ve done this, it was one stupid mistake, I want to tell him but I know it would end badly, also I have thought about dna testing but an non invasive dna testing but it’s just having the guts to tell my boyfriend
Hi, sweetheart. Well, the difference between September 7 and September 11 is pretty small, so let's go over it all to be sure September 7 is reliable.
Did you have an early ultrasound (for example, in your seventh to ninth week, counted from the first day of your last period)? If so, what due date were you given at that ultrasound? A due date from that appointment would be based on the crown-to-rump measurement and other developmental markers of the baby, which is the best thing for a due date to be based on. (Not on a little cardboard wheel where the doc plugs in your last period.) If you had an early ultrasound, it should be pretty accurate. The baby can grow faster or slower and change in relation to the averages, but if the date came from an ultrasound in the early stages of pregnancy, that ultrasound-based due date is pretty accurate.
I assume you know that a guy pulling out is not a guarantee that the woman won't get pregnant. Do you know anything about whether Mr. Wrong ejaculated earlier in the day when you had sex? Because even getting an erection, there is pre-ejaculatory fluid that often comes oozing out, and although pre-ejaculatory fluid doesn't contain sperm, it can carry sperm from the urethra if any happens to be there hanging around. How well do you know the guy, and did you discuss the possibility that he might be the father? If so, was he able to remember if he had had an orgasm sometime in the hours before you and he had sex?
And, let's discuss contingencies, as well. Have you spoken to your boyfriend about the event, or is it something you are keeping secret unless you HAVE to tell him? If he knows, are you aware you can (for a high price) do a DNA test before the baby comes? What about the other guy? In a fair world, both guys and you would split the cost three ways, pay for a prenatal DNA test, and then make plans. Guys don't usually act like this but it would be nice if that could happen. What would you do if the baby turns out to be from Mr. Wrong, will you raise the baby in any case?