Dark spot on the top of my lower eyelid

[Scared_13yr_old]

At first it started off pretty small 8 years ago so I didn't think much of it recently I've been getting sharp powerful pain in my eye.
Most commonly on the dark spot itself (on the top of my lower eyelid, right where it ends and meets the eye.), The right side of my eye and my whole lower eye sometimes.
Now it's grown to a decently sized noticeable, spot on my eye (Which I previously thought was a mole) And now I'm worried it might be eye cancer. Please help me.

[Sara_MHModerator]

Hello and welcome to the forum.  If you are 13, we advise you to speak with a parent or guardian about this and they can take you to the doctor.  This doesn't sound like cancer though.  Is the spot raised?  Eye lid cancer is exceptionally rare.  So, talk to your parents and see if they feel there is a reason for concern and then visit a doctor if they believe so.  Let us know what happens.  

[Scared_13yr_old]

I've told my parents about it, but so far they refuse to take me to an eye doctor. Citing that cancer would've killed me and not stayed with me for this long. The thing is, it started off really tiny but is now a real noticeable part of my eyelid, literally everybody around me notices it. But it could be a benign tumor. But I really don't want to take that chance because I've read about how quickly eye cancer can spread, killing its victim in months, without very noticeable symptoms. Which has definitely been a concern for me because my overall health is not great, due to the very stressful environment my house is. And I live in Egypt which isn't exactly renowned for good healthcare or child neglect laws.

[Scared_13yr_old]

And the pain is mostly what worries me, because it starts randomly and is very sharp feeling like jagged needles have been placed inside my eye. Eyedrops, and creams help ease the pain but never get rid of it completely. And the pain usually goes out by itself in a few hours after it's start, or after I sleep.

[Scared_13yr_old]

And the pain is mostly what worries me, because it starts up randomly and feels like jagged straws have been inserted into my eye (Which is quite painful) and no before you ask, eye drops and eye creams do not remove the pain but only ease the pain. Which goes out by itself after an hour, or after I sleep. So, do I have good reason to be concerned? Or am j just overreacting and worrying my family? (They aren't BTW they don't give a shít).

[Sara_MHModerator]

Unfortunately, at 13, you are at the mercy of what your parents feel is necessary to be seen for or not.  It is most very UNlikely to be cancer though.   It does not sound like it and you are not the typical age for that to develop.  Do you go for a well check every year like a physical?  This is pretty standard in many countries with kids.  At that time, you can mention it.  If you are back in school because of covid, you can go to the school nurse  if there is anyone like that and tell them about it.  Any other adults like grand parents, aunts or uncles or any adult you are close to that you can just ask what they think?  That's really going to be your best bet.

[Scared_13yr_old]

Well, unfortunately my entire family tree is dysfunctional and nobody really likes the other members of the family so we can't do that, because nobody is willing to spend thousands of pounds to get me to an eye doctor, so no. I don't have annual checkups because again, my parents don't think it's necessary (and my dad is really stingy about spending money) And I live in the south of Egypt which is poor and badly maintained, so not many places to have a checkup in. The school nurse is a how do I put it, not very talented woman at best, she doesn't even have eye drops because the school is also cheap af. So I guess my only option is to nag my parents about it until I get a good whooping, and hopefully have an eye doctor check that thing out.