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I was just diagnosed with HPV and I'm so destroyed on the inside.

I don't know if i should reveal this to future partners or not. i was in a 3 year relationship and she cheated on me for 6 months while we had unprotected sex, 4 months after she blocked me  i found lumps on my penis, 2 and a half months in i went to an urologist and he said i have hpv. I have been googling like crazy and i can't deal with it, i'm 28 i'm so lonely, no friends ,i lost my only person and my heart was finally healed enough to move on and this happens now i feel like i can't date, i can't reveal this to future partners and it would be wrong for me to get intimate  and ignore it. i feel trapped and alone. i only had sex with 1 person and my self and i wouldn't have put it past her to have done this on purpose, that is beside the point i just need advice. what are the chances of someone developing symptoms if we have  protected sex, what are the chances of them even getting it? statistically speaking... what are the chances of them growing warts like i did. i contracted this like 7 months ago, warts appeared 2 and a half months ago, burned them off few days ago.  nothing new has come up
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I'm sorry that you're going through this. First, I'm sorry that your first relationship was so traumatic. Your ex may or may not have known she had it - you can transmit HPV without symptoms, and many people don't get symptoms.

HPV is incredibly common - about 90% of us will get it at least once in our lifetimes. The good news is that it clears from our body, usually within 2 years.

You may get more warts after these, or you may not - there's no way for us to predict this.

If you have sexual partners within the next couple of years, give or take, you should tell your partners, and definitely wear condoms. You'll probably be surprised at how many of your partners will be "Oh yeah, I've had that, too." Your partners might also have had the HPV vaccine, which will offer a lot of protection, too.

I'm saying hope is not lost here.

I don't know why you don't have friends, or why you're so lonely. I know it's a pandemic, and depending on where you are, things may still be on lock down to various levels. However, you can still get counseling, which I absolutely recommend. Many are doing telemed appointments, or video appointments. Please talk to your doctor if you need a referral.

Also talk to your doctor about the HPV vaccine, which recently was FDA approved for people up to 45 years of age. That won't cure this infection, but will offer some protection against the more common strains for you in the future.

You're going to be fine. I promise.
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thank you for your kind reply. I am just going through a lot and this was just like having a piano dropped on me while i was already on the ground barely able to get up.  Do you know if i got warts  does this mean anyone who gets infected by me would get them too or is it likely it would just stay suppressed and  cleared eventually with no signs or does the strain dictate if signs come up or not? I know wart kind are low risk, but can a wart kind of strain still potentially be cancerous ? I need to become more knowledgeable on this.
It's impossible for me to say how anyone else would react to it. If you had 4 partners, 2 might get visible warts, 2 might not. Or maybe 3 do, and 1 doesn't. There isn't any way to know. You have to act as if they would. I know you don't want to disclose, but you are very upset at the thought that your ex did this to you on purpose. If you have sex knowing you are infectious, you are essentially doing the same thing.

Strains do indicate which ones could present with warts or not, but they can't predict who will get symptoms or not.

The low risk strains have no association with cancer.

https://www.cdc.gov/cancer/hpv/basic_info/index.htm

https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex/hpv

Also, remember that there are other STDs you could get, so having the STD talk is essential. You might be worried about how your partner will react to HPV, but a partner might have something else you could get, so have the discussion. :)
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