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Herpes by sharing drinks?

I had a situation where I can't fully remember but the person said I  had first sip but say I didn't and I drank after them maybe with in a 10 sec to a minute time length I can't fully remember. I didn't see any sores or anything on their lips at the time ( they looked normal) but a week later I saw something on their lips wasn't to sure if it was a cold sore or not I'm not a doctor and they said it bother both of the corners and that it was salty snack and his corners got cracked (angular cheilitis) is what came to mind but then again I'm not doctor. but if it was a cold sore what is the likely hood that I would get something? I look online and most of it is saying very low like next to zero to Plan parenthood saying it can't be transmitted that way.
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This is a theoretical risk, which is why some sites say you can get it this way. Planned Parenthood is right though - you aren't ever going to get it this way.

You can get covid, colds, flus, strep, etc., this way, though. Maybe don't share drinks anymore. :)
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So I have no risk at all? I'm 22 and I seen other post saying even a slight exposure and we are fine since are immune system is strong enough to handle these situations. but even if he had anything I couldn't get it this way? and no I'm done sharing drinks after the scare I had lol and also it might sound like I'm being over paranoid and anxiety is because I am and I am seeing a counselor/therapist for it I actually missed my appointment by over sleeping... but thank you for answering!
OH another question sorry If I'm annoying.. but the only way to get Hsv is through skin to skin contact like I would have to make-out/ give a good kiss someone to catch it? I know it's can be transmitted sexually but just double checking. thank you and sorry again
No risk at all. And maybe schedule appts for later in the day - I get it, I'm NOT a morning person, and make sure to schedule things later in the day for this reason.

So herpes is definitely transmitted by skin to skin contact. This means that hsv1 is transmitted by kissing. You can also transmit hsv1 to the genitals by oral sex, and that would be genital hsv1.

Hsv2 is transmitted by unclothed genital to genital or genital to anal contact. It requires time and friction, so a quick touch of the genitals probably won't transmit it, but penetrative sex definitely could.

Someone with herpes is most infectious when they have an outbreak. They are infectious at other times when there is asymptomatic viral shedding. How often they shed depends on what infection they have and where - someone with genital hsv2 sheds more than someone with genital hsv1, and also how long they've had it plays a role - the longer you have it, the less you shed, generally speaking.

It's probably not as easy to get as you think. If an uninfected male has a long-term relationship with an infected female, and all they do is avoid sex when she has symptoms, he has a 4% chance of getting it over the course of a year, assuming they have sex 2-3x a week.

An uninfected female has about a 10% chance of getting it from a male in those same circumstances.

We do not have stats on same sex relationships. (Yes, that's shameful.)

We also do not have transmission stats on oral hsv1. Genital hsv1 almost never transmits. It rarely sheds, rarely recurs, and therefore almost never transmits.

I'm not saying any of this to encourage you to be lax and not worry about it. Obviously no one wants it. I'm just saying that it's probably not as easy to get as you think. On the flip side, it's very common, and I'd hate to see you avoid a great relationship with someone because you're afraid of it. You'd be seriously limiting your dating options.

Good luck with the counseling. I'm happy to hear you're doing that. :)
Sorry to be annoying with multiple question but with your statement above I can't get from a household item or sharing stuff (which I'm not doing because that would cause me to be more paranoid) like say if I pull a fork from the draw no one touch or that I think hasn't touch it I won't get it? or anything for that instant. I would have to kiss someone on purpose? lol but thank you for the info you have eased my mind a bit. ( I talked to my doctor and she said it's very low risk and of course the nurse made the comment saying if you see anything lets us know so it didn't help my mind at all lol. But my girlfriend at the time I don't believe have anything since she only had one bf before and they didn't do anything but kiss and I know it's still transmittable but I asked her about and she said should would never kiss him if he had something on his lips. but you never know. but it's an long distance relationship and we're not very sexual (not because of the scare) it's just who we are but thank you again for the info it does help a lot!
No, you don't get it from a fork from the drawer. Assuming your family/friends only put clean forks in the drawer, you aren't going to get anything from a clean fork - not even a cold.

Many people get oral hsv1 as kids from adults in their lives kissing them. Some get it while dating and kissing others as adults. It has nothing to do with how many people they've kissed. Your grandma probably has it.

I know it's so hard to not focus on the one little offhand comment that feeds your anxiety, but really, it's not possible and you won't need to let the doctor's office know that you've seen anything because you won't. :)

It's funny that you say I won't see anything  because I have a small skin like/white patch on my lip that my mother says it's dead skin from the skin I peeled of yesterday from a panic attack because I saw something but she told me it's because my lips are chapped very badly and it's going to look weird because it's trying to heal. but anyways I found this website because well doing a bit of research I ended up finding Dr.HHH commenting on these post and figure i would ask myself and I know he's not replying anymore but I figure someone could give me a actually answer and I'm glad you came along :). but reading his post as well he said practically what you said that it's  theoretical risk but he sees it's to be very rare if there was any kind of risk at all.

but the reason I brought up the fork situation is becaise we have our silverware out in the open no really in a drawer and I was afraid someone would touch them or happen to sneeze/cough over them and I'll somehow get it. a bit personal but I been having a hard time eating or drinking anything (not sharing) because of this event and that's why I'm seeing someone to help me through it but even before this panic episode of mine I always been a slight germaphobe nothing serious just a basic person that likes clean things.
You don't get herpes from sneezing. I have to say, though, that I'm not a germ-phobic person, and I'd prefer my utensils in a drawer, where no one can cough or sneeze on them. Maybe your mom can get some kind of container for them that has a cover. Or maybe in the meantime, you can get a bunch of plastic forks and spoons and such, and keep them separate from everyone else's in a covered container. You need to eat.

If you are having actual panic attacks, call your doctor and let them know. Are you on meds for that?

If you want Dr. HHH (or Terri Warren, who is world-renowned for her herpes work), they are at https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/ask-experts-get-answers-questions/. If you go there, though, you have to come back and let me know what happens. :)

(And don't be surprised if they tell you the same thing. You can also search through the questions to see what they've already said.)

I been getting my dishes out of the dishwasher shhh lol but I thought about it but my paranoid self thinks there something wrong with the food or something I don't know it got bad but No I'm not on meds for my "attacks" I just been speaking to people about the issue and it seems to help a lot. My counselor said it's adjustment disorder and believe I'll get better as time goes on and within 6 months hopefully everything will go back to normal. But I have been on their website before and I didn't want to play the 25$ I believe it is but I saw a question on there about sharing drinks and it said the same thing you have said.
so do you have any advice to help with my mental issue over this matter or no?
I am not a mental health professional, and and the best advice I could give you is to continue your therapy. Adjustment disorders usually get better within a short time, and therapy can really help with that.

If this helps -

https://westoverheights.com/forum/question/sharing-drinks-with-cut-on-lips/

You also don't ever get it from food, if that's what you meant.

Just hang in there, and be kind to yourself. Mental health is really important. Don't brush off what you're feeling.
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