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Very confused about my feelings about girls and a toy
I am 16 years old, male and I have never had a girlfriend before. I am confused about my sex interests. I saved up money to buy myself an inflatable angel dragon toy. For those of you that don't know, its a blue inflatable cartoony girl character that is the size of a person. What's different about mine is that it has a vinyl "vagina" where I can put my penis into. I never had something like this before.
Things have been unexpectedly good with my inflatable angel dragon. I know it's just an inflatable cartoony toy but I just think she looks so cute. For the last two weeks after school I laid in bed on top of her kissing and having sex with her before my parents get home from work. I feel insanely intimate when I have my penis inside her vinyl vagina. I never felt like that ever in my life! The problem I have now is that lately I can't stop thinking about this toy. Everytime I see her when I get home from school I feel butterflies in my stomach and cant keep my hands off of it. I honestly think I might like this inflatable cartoon girl more than I like real girls. I am so confused about my new feelings with this toy.
Why am I getting intense feelings with an inflatable toy? I humped a pillow before and that wasn't a problem.
Is there something I can do to like real girls again?
Things have been unexpectedly good with my inflatable angel dragon. I know it's just an inflatable cartoony toy but I just think she looks so cute. For the last two weeks after school I laid in bed on top of her kissing and having sex with her before my parents get home from work. I feel insanely intimate when I have my penis inside her vinyl vagina. I never felt like that ever in my life! The problem I have now is that lately I can't stop thinking about this toy. Everytime I see her when I get home from school I feel butterflies in my stomach and cant keep my hands off of it. I honestly think I might like this inflatable cartoon girl more than I like real girls. I am so confused about my new feelings with this toy.
Why am I getting intense feelings with an inflatable toy? I humped a pillow before and that wasn't a problem.
Is there something I can do to like real girls again?
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Thanks for the detailed advice. I guess a toy is only going to do whatever I want it to do and it's easy make up fantasy scenarios. I think the strong feelings started when I thought it would be fun to do a boyfriend-girlfriend fantasy scenario with my toy. I was just playing around at first but it started to feel more and more passionate really quickly. This might sound weird but it felt like me and my inflatable toy became one. Maybe sex is supposed to feel that way? I think that was when I started feeling butterflies in my stomach seeing my toy. I guess I felt scared to admit how much I liked it.
My parents just know that I bought a big blue and white inflatable cartoon figure (it looks more like a cartoon character than a human) but they don't know that it has a vagina. I have been keeping her inflated and standing behind a big chair in my room so no one can see her lower body. But maybe I should deflate her and put her away before going to school just in case?
I accept the fact that this toy makes my hormones go crazier than any girl and I really really love how it feels right now. So I know its going to take a while before I can get over this toy and like real girls again but I'll get there eventually.
My parents just know that I bought a big blue and white inflatable cartoon figure (it looks more like a cartoon character than a human) but they don't know that it has a vagina. I have been keeping her inflated and standing behind a big chair in my room so no one can see her lower body. But maybe I should deflate her and put her away before going to school just in case?
I accept the fact that this toy makes my hormones go crazier than any girl and I really really love how it feels right now. So I know its going to take a while before I can get over this toy and like real girls again but I'll get there eventually.
I think you will too, if you stay relaxed and understand that everything about sex is new and rather fluid at 16. As long as you aren't harming anyone else, you will be fine no matter where this habit ends up. Maybe you'll always have a little kink in the direction of passive or inanimate objects or maybe it will go by, but what is the harm? Nothing much. The only difficulty would be if you were to get down on yourself and stress over it, and it doesn't sound like you are.
Yes, deflate your toy especially if there is any chance of someone cleaning and moving the chair and seeing what else your doll has got. People find things out the oddest and most accidental ways. Discard the original packaging, and delete ads on your computer if some are popping up inspired by your purchase (if you bought it online). Keep your toy neatly folded in a box and stored in a place that would be inconvenient for someone to reach or trip over when looking for something else, and avoid places where things might need to be moved for one reason or another. If the toy is deflated, there's a really slim chance anyone would be curious enough to pump it up to look at it, so that does seem like your best chance to keep things under wraps.
Yes, deflate your toy especially if there is any chance of someone cleaning and moving the chair and seeing what else your doll has got. People find things out the oddest and most accidental ways. Discard the original packaging, and delete ads on your computer if some are popping up inspired by your purchase (if you bought it online). Keep your toy neatly folded in a box and stored in a place that would be inconvenient for someone to reach or trip over when looking for something else, and avoid places where things might need to be moved for one reason or another. If the toy is deflated, there's a really slim chance anyone would be curious enough to pump it up to look at it, so that does seem like your best chance to keep things under wraps.
I hadn't thought about someone accidentally finding it in those ways. I took your advice and cleared out my computer, deflated my toy and put it in a plain box. I also found a cool spot inside the frame support of the bed. No one will find it there hopefully. Starting now I am also only going to bring the toy out at night before going to bed and put it away in the morning. That way I won't have to rush after school and worry about my parents coming home too early. Already it has been much nicer to have the toy for the whole night. I appreciate your thoughful tip.
Thank you again for the supportive words. I was a little scared at first when I realized I felt interested in something different than what I am only supposed to be interested in. I guess it's not so bad after all and now I feel much relieved.
Thank you again for the supportive words. I was a little scared at first when I realized I felt interested in something different than what I am only supposed to be interested in. I guess it's not so bad after all and now I feel much relieved.
Also keep that thing clean, especially her vagina. I'm assuming you can't really carry her to the bathroom to give her proper bath or your parents might wonder but there are sprays and liquids specially made for cleaning sex dolls. It's not impossible getting an infection by using it, even though it's only you who has sex with it.
Thank you for the tip. I do wash it out under the shower and wipe it down from top to bottom.
Hi n053aph, it's pretty common for teens your age to be sexually curious and engage in self discovery. You getting an inflatable doll certainly falls in the category of sexual curiosity and now you are discovering what it's like to have it.
What you are feeling is probably the excitement from the novelty of having an inflatable toy that you can "have sex" with. I think the reason you might feel confused about comparing an inflatable girl to a real girl is because you are role playing relationship scenarios where your fantasy inflatable partner does anything you want. As AnneBrooke said earlier, a real girl is unpredictable and you don't know what she is thinking but an inflatable toy is exactly how you make it out to be. That's probably why your fantasy inflatable seems easier and more exciting to you than a real girl. Who doesn't like a little fantasy sometimes?
It sounds like the butterflies in your stomach began after you have been using your toy for a while. Most likely your body has gotten conditioned to anticipate sexual gratification when you see the toy. That anticipation is probably giving you those butterflies in your stomach.
Don't feel pressured to like girls just for the sake of liking them. When you meet the right girl, it will happen naturally. Right now don't worry about anything and enjoy all the feelings and sensations you are getting from your inflatable. Not every teenager gets to have a fantasy inflatable like that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having fun with your toy and it's not hurting anyone. At the end of the day the only thing that matters is that you are happy.
What you are feeling is probably the excitement from the novelty of having an inflatable toy that you can "have sex" with. I think the reason you might feel confused about comparing an inflatable girl to a real girl is because you are role playing relationship scenarios where your fantasy inflatable partner does anything you want. As AnneBrooke said earlier, a real girl is unpredictable and you don't know what she is thinking but an inflatable toy is exactly how you make it out to be. That's probably why your fantasy inflatable seems easier and more exciting to you than a real girl. Who doesn't like a little fantasy sometimes?
It sounds like the butterflies in your stomach began after you have been using your toy for a while. Most likely your body has gotten conditioned to anticipate sexual gratification when you see the toy. That anticipation is probably giving you those butterflies in your stomach.
Don't feel pressured to like girls just for the sake of liking them. When you meet the right girl, it will happen naturally. Right now don't worry about anything and enjoy all the feelings and sensations you are getting from your inflatable. Not every teenager gets to have a fantasy inflatable like that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having fun with your toy and it's not hurting anyone. At the end of the day the only thing that matters is that you are happy.
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Thank you for the info! I actually went out with a girl for two weeks and it was great but we both realized that it's going to take a lot of time for both of us. We are back to being friends and I want to focus on school and not think about girlfriends for now. In those two weeks I didn't inflate my toy but something weird happened. I had a dream about my inflatable angel dragon and I think I might have had an orgasm while I was sleeping. That has never happened to me before and it was really annoying to wake up to and have to change clothes. Is it normal for that to happen? Is there a way to stop it?
It's very common to have an orgasm when sleeping. Both males and females do, and when it's a guy, the event can be called either (medically) a "nocturnal emission" or (colloquially) a "wet dream." Possibly if someone were to masturbate every night right before sleeping, he (or she) would be able to reduce or prevent the number of times they have an orgasm in a dream, but it might be more effort than it's worth, since it's as normal as breathing to orgasm when having a sexual dream. Here's from another website (a guys wrote in asking what was going on when he had one):
"Chances are that you had a "wet dream" — something that can be embarrassing and confusing, but is completely normal. A wet dream is when a guy ejaculates while he's sleeping. Wet dreams usually happen during dreams that have sexual images. Sometimes guys wake up from a wet dream, but sometimes they sleep through it.
"Wet dreams begin during puberty when the body starts making more testosterone. Some guys may feel embarrassed or even guilty about having wet dreams, but they're are a normal part of growing up and you can't stop them from happening. Most guys have wet dreams at some point during puberty, and even sometimes as adults. Wet dreams usually happen less as guys get older, though."
"Chances are that you had a "wet dream" — something that can be embarrassing and confusing, but is completely normal. A wet dream is when a guy ejaculates while he's sleeping. Wet dreams usually happen during dreams that have sexual images. Sometimes guys wake up from a wet dream, but sometimes they sleep through it.
"Wet dreams begin during puberty when the body starts making more testosterone. Some guys may feel embarrassed or even guilty about having wet dreams, but they're are a normal part of growing up and you can't stop them from happening. Most guys have wet dreams at some point during puberty, and even sometimes as adults. Wet dreams usually happen less as guys get older, though."
I guess it happened because I didn't masturbate for two weeks and I guess it happened automatically. Luckily it happened only once so far but it would be embarrassing if anyone saw. Thank you for the explanation.
Well, if you ever get caught out by this (such as, your parent is doing the laundry and notices wet sheets or underwear), they probably won't think much of it, after all, adults know wet dreams happen. Try to stay philosophical and not to be embarrassed.
Can I make an assumption that you watch a lot of anime?
Your infatuation with the toy might come from that, your way to connect with those 2D characters which now your toy represents. Your first sexual experience is with the toy and every time you orgasm your brain will connect that feeling to the toy. Which is how we bond with our sexual partners.
Now, even though you're not hurting anyone with your sexual endeavour (you're bonded with the toy so it's no longer just experimentation you have real feelings) you have to be careful not to hurt yourself, emotionally, in a long run. The toy might get damaged, be discovered by your parents, pop or get deflated during the act and it will hurt. Another, more important thing to think about is the longer you're attached to this toy the more you'll get detached from real girls. And in the future if you're lonely and want to find a girlfriend you might not be able to as human girls will no longer be sexually attractive to you. Many watchers of anime have reported that over time they couldn't feel attracted to anyone or anything that doesn't look like anime women and frankly...not many women do.
The way to circumvent this is trying to find an actual girlfriend while at the same time getting sexual gratification from that toy.
Because trust me once you get it on with an actual human, you'll know it feels much much better than vinyl vagina.
Your infatuation with the toy might come from that, your way to connect with those 2D characters which now your toy represents. Your first sexual experience is with the toy and every time you orgasm your brain will connect that feeling to the toy. Which is how we bond with our sexual partners.
Now, even though you're not hurting anyone with your sexual endeavour (you're bonded with the toy so it's no longer just experimentation you have real feelings) you have to be careful not to hurt yourself, emotionally, in a long run. The toy might get damaged, be discovered by your parents, pop or get deflated during the act and it will hurt. Another, more important thing to think about is the longer you're attached to this toy the more you'll get detached from real girls. And in the future if you're lonely and want to find a girlfriend you might not be able to as human girls will no longer be sexually attractive to you. Many watchers of anime have reported that over time they couldn't feel attracted to anyone or anything that doesn't look like anime women and frankly...not many women do.
The way to circumvent this is trying to find an actual girlfriend while at the same time getting sexual gratification from that toy.
Because trust me once you get it on with an actual human, you'll know it feels much much better than vinyl vagina.
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I dont really watch anime. The toy doesn't look like an anime and I got it mostly because it was interesting to me since it had a vinyl vagina. I never had a toy like that before so I just thought it would be fun to try something new. When I first tried sex with my new inflatable toy it felt new and amazing so I kept doing it more. I think by the 2nd week I was starting to feel attached and it just kept growing from there. I didnt expect to feel that way when I bought the toy so I was very surprised when it happened.
Thank you for the suggestion. Now that I think about it I got so used to having the toy that I would be sad if something happened to it. But I have started talking to girls and went on a few dates with a girl a few months ago.
Thank you for the suggestion. Now that I think about it I got so used to having the toy that I would be sad if something happened to it. But I have started talking to girls and went on a few dates with a girl a few months ago.
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I think for many teens, exciting is exciting, sexual is sexual and inflatable doll is certainly a lot easier to just 'have' than a girlfriend. So, enjoy your inflatable and recognize that you may want an actual relationship down the road and begin working on the skills to interact, talk to, be kind to someone. This is just new. The shine will dull and eventually you will want someone that feels something back, unlike the doll. Take care and try not to overthink.
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Thanks. These feelings are definitely new and very exciting to me. I never felt like this before. I want to get a girlfriend eventually but I guess I have to get over my inflatable toy first.
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So, I guess maybe you'll have to just go with it until reach a point where the toy gets kind of one-dimensional and boring (which might be a while or might not, it depends on the girls you meet, I think). If and when you meet a girl you find really pretty and really interesting, you might find that the toy is not much different than humping a pillow used to be for you.
I'm wondering how you are keeping this toy from your parents, or, do they know you have it? If you think you would be mortified if your mom found it, for example, I'd counsel you to find a really good way to hide it. Most moms wouldn't snoop, but it's possible for a mom to stumble across something. A toy with a vagina is pretty obviously for only one purpose.
As far as the question of getting the butterflies in your stomach when you see the toy, maybe that's from the combo of sexual gratification and total control of the story (kind of like a combo of sex and power) at the moment, giving you a strong reaction. My thought is it will wear off as over time as you realize real people more interesting than toys. Right now, toys are easier, maybe because life as a 16-year-old has its pressures. I suggest just going with the flow without worry or judgement, it sounds like something you'll pass through.