Mar 15, 2018
Hubby and I were lying in bed wed evening after taking an nap and he said dear you might want to go ahead and call the hospital and see what time we need to be there. This was around 7pm. So I called the, and the nurse in the phone said yes ma'am we've got you all ready and you all can come on in now if you want. I thanked her and got off the phone. Told hubby what she said so he said ok, great let's get on up and make sure we take care of any last min things around the house. So we got up and made up the bed. I asked him to get my hospital bag out of the car so I could double check it. I'm glad I did because as many of you know my parents are no longer with us and I wanted to have something of my mother with me. Which was the golden colored gown that I am wearing in the pic that I uploaded of myself.
So we finish making sure that the house is in tip top shape because we knew that when we get back home with the baby things are going to be totally different and I wanted to also come back home to a clean house after giving birth.(tiresome). So as hubby took bags back out to the car and the car seat I got in shower and hubby joined to help me out (washing my back and hair) and for some last time intimate time for a while (no sex just to be close). We get dressed and head out to the car. Hubby helps my down the stairs and into the car. As we are on the way to the hospital he looks over at me and asks "are you getting nervous" I say no I'm doing okay. We only live like 15-17min from the hospital. We arrive at the hospital at approx. 8:45pm or 9pm Wednesday night. As we drive up to the Administrative dept of the hospital I look over at him and say "Now I think I'm getting nervous". So he pulls up at the door and helps me out of the car. I tell him baby I'm okay I can walk this go ahead and park the car. He drives off to go park as they are doing construction at our hospital and it was a long walk from where he had to park to where he dropped me off. I'm inside getting paper work filled out and everything as I wait for him to return. By the time he get's to where I am we are all ready to go. So then the nurse takes us up to labor and delivery.
So I get to my room and the nurse introduced herself and instructs me to take off everything and put on the hospital gown. Things start to really get real as there is absolutely no turning back at this point, LOL. So I do as told and when my nurse returns she's telling me how they are putting me on a low dose pitocin to get contractions started. So wed night I start to have low grade contractions around 10:30pm. Was on this a few hrs and then pelvis was checked to see if I had dilated and I was still at a 1cm. So once they could see that the Pitocin wasn't really doing to much they gave a pill vaginally to help induce labor. The pill did what they were designed to do and that was make me contract. So they tried this for most of the early morning Thursday morning. between the hrs of 2-6. Checked the pelvic area again and still nothing. So what was happening is that from where I had the cerclage a scar had grown there and this is what was causing me not to dilate that scar would not rip. So after hrs of pain with just the vaginal med the decided to try what they called a bulb or a balloon. they insert it as if I was getting a pelvic exam, honey child let me tell you by this time I am tired of these pelvic exams especially as they hurt so bad and may of been even more so because of the scar not giving way. So once the bulb was in they filled it with water and when I would have a contraction it was supposed to help force my cervix open but oh no I had to have the stubborn cervix, LMBO. They bulb was in for 2 to 3hrs and then they finally took it out as it wasn't doing anything.
Nurse came back and gave me half of a oil to take orally. It was the same pill they gave me vaginally. Again the contractions started and this time were even stronger and I was having them in my back!!!! Still only for nothing to happen and I was only dilated 2cm at this time. I HURT all day and night Thursday. At one tie I wanted to cry and hubby said baby its okay your body is going through a lot right now and if you want to cry then cry there is no shame in that. I looked at him and said I want to but I don't want to look like a punk, LOL. He said sweetheart you cannot be serious who is going to think you are a punk, I said I don't know :-) So in the wee hours of the morning Friday I was able to get some sleep, maybe 4hrs worth. Around 5am my midwife came into check on me and to do another pelvic. Still only 2cm. She asked if we wanted to try the pill again or the bulb. My hubby interjected quickly and said neither. He said she was in pain all last night and part of wed. Now here we are Friday morning and this is what you tell her that her options are. No there has to be something else you all can do. He said I'm not gong to sit here and watch my wife go through all that pain again and there still be no positive results. which at this time I was agreeing with him 100%, LOL......
So she said well y'all talk it over and I'll go get the Dr. So Dr. came back about 10min later. He said I heard you all are ready to go so let me go get your discharge papers ready, we all laughed together. He was like so we tried the vaginal and oral med as well and the bulb. The only other option that we have is a C-section, and you guys are sure that what you want. Which I think they already knew I would have to have a section because even when I started gong He said alright let me go talk to operating room Dr. and we'll get things started going for my visits every week. Right there towards the end when things were really winding down I had like 3 pelvic checks within 4wks and all 3 Dr. said they could feel the scar. So I think they already knew that I would have to have a section but just wanted the decision to be mine since it wasn't an emergency situation. My nurse prepped me and explained what all was getting ready to take place. They also brought hubby his scrubs for entering into the O.R.
My room was across the hall from the O.R walking distance so they let me walk since that was all the walking I'd be doing for a while. As I got to the operating room a fear tried to come over me and I started praying as I was walking over. Got to the O.R. and they put me on this lil bed/table got my epidural started and the med took effect really quickly. They laied me down and my nurse was walking me through what was happening and then as me medicine started to work she would poke me in different places to make sure that I was numb. I was and then they put the drape up so I couldn't see what the Dr. was doing soon after that got started hubby came in and sat up near my head. He could peep over the curtain and see what was going on. I felt a lot of tugging and pressure. I remember asking him Dear, are the cutting me in the correct place he laughed and said yes, why. I said because it feels like they are cutting me up really high. But what I was feeling was Treal because he was so long and still up kind of high, LOL
I could hear the dr. and nurses talking and he said Goodness you have a BIG handsome baby boy! The nurse said Oh my look at all this hair! Oh I could hear he talking about how big he was as she was trying to pull him out. He was really in there too because I could honestly feel all the tugging and pulling from her trying to get a good grip on him and get him out of me what an experience! So I decided to have my tubes tied which I went through with. If I was younger and had not had so many previous miscarriages and if they were not as bad as they were hubby and I talked we very well would of had another baby. But I didn't wanna risk that happening again and not to mention all that I went through physically. So I told them sew me up y'all cannot pay me to have another baby. The whole room went to laughing. Now don't get me wrong you could give me another baby but me go through all that again NEVER, lol!!!!!
But as they got Treal out and I heard his first cry I cried myself the tears just ran down my face. Hubby still sitting next to me asked was I okay and I told him yes. But when the nurse brought him over for me ot see that's when it all became real and I cried like a baby! hubby wiped my tears and kissed me and said he's here dear. Our son and he's beautiful. I looked ant him and nodded my head as I couldn't say anything as I was so in shock that this was really happening. That I, me, Yolanda, Keelolo was a mommy.
Although I went through so much physical pain he was worth it all. The hurt knees and having to walk on crutches, and ride the electric cart when we went to Walmart. Worth the swollen feet and ankles, the back pain, the gestational diabetes. He was so worth every single thing that I went through to be able to look at him today and say God I thank you for our son.
P.S. To all my dear dear friends here @ medhelp that have gone through this long journey with my hubby and I we made it. So many ppl asked how after losing my mother(2010) father(2013) niece(2014) (5yrs) my best friend(2014) 3 miscarriages(2013-2015) and 1 chem(2016) losing my 2 grandmothers(2016) within a week of one another and then my mother and law (2016) exactly one month later. All I can say is that it was God that kept me and my Faith that wouldn't let me give up. I reminded God constantly of his promise to me
I know this story was very long but that's just me I'm very detailed when telling a story. I tried to cut it short as much as I could. But to those that read this I hope you enjoyed and thanks