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DH got called back to work...

Jul 25, 2009 - 8 comments

My husband got a call to see if he wanted to go back to work after being laid off since October. Now since he has been laid off for over 6 months he would have to basically start over and if they lay off again (highly likely) he will be the first to go. Well they want him to come back ASAP and they are giving him a huge pay CUT (ouch). However, his unemployment runs out in September and I don’t even know if my maternity leave is paid yet…I do know that if it is its only half of my salary for 6 weeks…meaning there is no way we could live off of it. So that being said he is going to go back, he knows that it may come down to him giving up his job to stay home with the kids after my maternity leave (daycare costs are through the roof well over $500/wk for 3 days a week). As most of you know I work rotating 12 hour shifts so we’d only need daycare 3 days a week since my other days are weekends and he doesn’t work weekends. I’m such a nervous wreck…I know this is what we need to do we have to try it at least. Everything happens for a reason and this appears to have been handed to us at the soon to be hardest point of our year (money wise). Now I’m scared that he is going to miss the birth of our baby…he says he won’t but he is a truck driver and they make deliveries to peoples homes all over our state. This is our fifth baby and if I go on my own who knows how long the labor will last. Well I just thought I’d share my news and anxiety. Hope everyone is doing well.

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by Juana824, Jul 25, 2009
Amber,

Like you said, Everything hasppens for a reason. I do believe that God will make a way for you and your family. Praying for you and the clan! Now stop stressing young lady, the baby doesn't like that! :-)

Hugs,
Tijuana

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by AnnieBrooke, Jul 25, 2009
My husband was not a big addition to the birth process.  I think I would have done just as well with all the nice nurses who were there, as with him.  During labor, he was always on the verge of being bored or grumpy, and wanting to go read the paper.  Except that he was there during the c-section I ultimately needed, if he HAD been out of town, I wouldn't have minded that much in retrospect.  LOL

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by Juliaschill, Jul 25, 2009
I hope he is able to be there for your baby's birth, i am worried as my husband works over an hour away and although I am haveing a c-section i have a history of preterm labor so I always worry I will go into labor and he not make it home, my last daughter was born in 22 mins, hope things pick up on the money part also it is hard enough to raise kids when you have  money but when it is tight it can make it alot harder, thinking of you Julia

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by NicMom, Jul 25, 2009
Oh that's a good one. I'm always worried my dh will miss the birth also I think it's a common anxiety no matter what the situation. If your state doesn't offer emergency unemployment benefits (extended benefits for 11 weeks at a time) then the job might be just what you guys need.

Things always have a way of working out so don't stress too much.

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by amberd5191, Jul 27, 2009
I'm not sure on the unemployment I know that I think if he turns down the postion he will no longer get unemployment? Not sure. He starts again on Thursday he told them he wants to go to my OB appt on Wed that he had already planned to be at. I called his friend as a back up (the Godfather) just in case Brandon is gone. As weird as it is I've known him for so long I'd much rather have him in the room to distract (not while pushing) than one of my friends (she would drive me up the wall).

I hope this is an everything happens for a reason moment and things work out...there is a plan for everything eventually this one will pan out.

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by have 2 kids, Jul 27, 2009
I think it's great he will have a job while you are on maternity leave (even if his pay is cut)
My husband wasn't very good with the whole labor process.  He wanted to take a nap, and get something to eat.
I was tired and hungry and very annoyed with him.  Definately could have done without his whining.

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by mamaofonetrying42, Jul 27, 2009
I know oh to well on how you are feeling!! Last year my hubby got laid off in Oct and didnt get a new job in till July well, My due date was July 31th!! What we did was I talked to my Ob and told her our feeling and concerns about him not being there/making it to the L&D, So he agreed to set us up with an induce on a fri so my hubby and I would have all weekend and we would be home by sunday, so he could go back to work on that Monday...It worked out great for us! Good Luck!




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by amberd5191, Jul 27, 2009
mamaofonetrying42- so far we are planned induction on Aug 20 (as long as lungs are developed) my husband already told his work this day. Now I just worry it may happen sooner lol. I feel so overly emotional that I'm not sure I have my head on half the time lol.

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