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Sep 11, 2009 - 1 comments
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I just really don't understand why so many treat people on the heavier side so badly. Yes, it is healthier to be skinny, but there are numerous different reasons as to why some people are fat. They could have anything from an eating disorder to a very slow metabolism. Some people just really struggle with weight. I just don't get why people always make fun of fat people and just laugh at them. What is really so funny? Just because they weigh more than someone else. I guess I just have these feelings because I have always been on the chubbier side. Both my parents are chubby and my older brother was but just like lost 90 pounds. Also, it is harder for girls to lose weight. I am saying this because guys are usually the ones picking on people for being heavy. I just don't think it's right to not like someone or treat them like dirt because of this. Some people are very pretty, but nobody will ever see it because they never try to. By saying this stuff, I'm not trying to offend lighter people. I guess I'll just remain not understanding this concept. It's totally unfair and wrong.

Sorry if I offended anyone by saying anything up above. I'm just speaking my opinion again. I can be a very opinionated person. Tehe.

What are your views and opinions?

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by smjmekg, Sep 12, 2009
I understand COMPLETELY!!! I'm in the Army Reserves, and my husband is active duty. We're stationed in Korea, and if you feel bad about being bigger, try living here. I swear Koreans don't ever gain weight. They're all really tiny like models. I personally don't like models because they're (in my opinion) what puts a bad name on us women who aren't pencil thin. Sorry to offend anyone if I do, but that's just how I feel. Anyways, the reason I told you where I am and that I'm in the reserves is because I'm usually the only girl in my unit who is always at drill (one weekend a month we "play army") and I have to listen to all the guys talk about women. It doesn't offend me as much as it hurts sometimes. I pretend like I don't care what they're saying, but I do. They always talk about big breasted, skinny girls, and I'm 5'4'' and weigh 170. I had my son 14 months ago, and I've always struggled with weight until I joined the army. After basic training I weighed 135, but gained 5 pounds back and got pregnant at 140-143. After basic training and before I got pregnant I wore a size 9 jeans, and I loved the way I looked. I wasn't pencil thin, but I was happy with my body. You can see pictures of me on my profile before I had my son, and up to a week and a half before I had him. I gained 35 pounds while I was pregnant, most of which was gained the last 2-3 months, and I've only lost about 10 pounds. I liked a guy in high school, and wanted to "go out" with him, so, being shy I asked a friend of mine to talk to him since they were friends...his reason for saying no..."she's fat and ugly". I don't think I'm ugly, and yes I was heavier. I wore a size 13 in 9th grade but slimmed down to an 11/12 before the army. Now 14 months after having my son I have a pair of Apple Bottom jeans (awesome part of Korea you can get fake name brand jeans really cheap) that are a size 13 and I wear lose t-shirts with them because my stomach hangs over the top...I have a pair of shorts that are a size 16 that are tight. So depending on the brand, and make of the pants/shorts I wear from a 12 to 16. It's depressing, and I really want to lose weight, but it's so hard to do with a toddler, and not having a car to get back and forth to the gym doesn't make it easier. I could walk, it would take about 30 min. I want to go to the gym 3 times a week and work out, but an hour just for travel time doesn't make it easy to find a babysitter, especially since I only know two women here, and they have young children of their own. That and it's hard to get motivated, both physically and mentally. I'm so worn out from cleaning, and cleaning, and cleaning, and playing with my son, and diapers, and all the other joys of being a mom that I don't have the energy to do much else. When he's taking a nap I clean, and when he's awake it's difficult to do pilates when you lay on the floor and he comes up to you to play. Mentally it's challenging because I don't want to go to the gym and people look at my fat @$$ and stare. I went to the gym for our pt one weekend on drill, and got on a scale and stood their trying to remember what I weighed last time I checked, heard laughing looked over and two men at the front desk (near where the scale is) were looking at me and laughing. I was so mad, I wanted to just burst into tears, but instead I left. It's so hard for some women to lose weight, and the looks and comments we get just make it worse. I went to a restaurant here with my husband and the lady serving us brought sea weed soup which we had not ordered to the table looked at me and explained that it was "good for the baby" as she made a motion with her arms in front of her, meaning the baby you are carrying...I'M NOT PREGNANT! Even now I want to cry. In Korea it's extremely hard to find clothes, their extra large, even at the american stores on base, look like smalls in the states. I'm extra sensitive this week, my husband and I are going to an island for our anniversary and I'd love to look cute in something, or sexy...but I'm so embarrassed by the way I look, that it's not going to happen. I agree with you 100% that bigger people are beautiful as well. Inside and out! Don't let them get you down, I do it, and I shouldn't either. WE ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! It's like that song Beautiful by Christina Aguillera. "We are beautiful, no matter what they say. Words can't bring us down". There's just more of us to love, and in my opinion, we are REAL women.

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