Jan 29, 2015
So, I had this written ALL out and then my computer froze... SO ANGRY ABOUT THAT! lol.
I made up a custody agreement a few days ago, and have been somewhat 'mulling' it over, so to speak...
Finally I gave in, and left him a note that he wrote to me a few mos ago 'Jessica. I love you baby. promise you when im done golfing i'll be snuggled up to the most amazing wife to be ever. love you' and the agreement rough draft.
So it said things like;
"for the first 4 months visitation is to be ONLY at my house without ANY of Corey's current gf's present"
"overnight visits will be honored if requested AFTER 4 months and a sleeping schedule is in place"
"Jessica will be paid $300/month for child support"
** NOW, based on his income, Amanda should only be getting $210/month BUT he pays her $250/month AND pays her cell phone bill because it's under his contract, which is $60/month, so I figured $300/month is fair)
"Jessica will also receive $200/month (considering they DID live together for 6+ months consecutively, and Jessica will be paying for rent, gas, car insurance, car loan, utilities, phone bill and daycare once she returns to work).
** He paid Amanda spousal support April, May, June and July. The sum of $250/month.
He also gave her about $2,000 cash, and his PARENTS gave her $500 cash to buy anything Madison might need (ie, a bed, etc.)
She has STILL made no attempt to get a job (because she says her daughter deserves more than a mother who works all the time), he pays her cell phone bill, she has no license so she doesn't have car, gas or insurance payments a month, and she doesn't pay rent because she lives at home!
I looked into it when we first started dating and I heard he was paying her this... I did research for months and when I finally showed it to him, he stopped paying her immediately. He told her if she had made attempts at moving out, getting a car/license and a job then it would be different. But she refused so he cut her off.
It said in all the places I showed him regarding CANADIAN common-law that you MAY be eligible for Spousal Support IF you live together for 1 yr CONSECUTIVELY and expecting a child/have a child already together. IT stated that if you should break up and are living apart and there is NO plans to get back together/work on things, then it basically starts over when you move in together. She moved here from Alberta, they lived together 2012 had Madison in November 2012, then she moved back to Alberta early spring of 2013, came back 2-3 weeks later, moved to Alberta again that summer 2013 and was gone for 2 months or so, then came back in November 2013, then left again April 2014.
He says to ME, he's not paying me the extra $200/month and he's only going to pay me the $210 that the online calculator SAYS I should get. And that's it.
I went on about how I contacted all the companies I owed money to, because HE wanted ME to be debt free before we were to start planning our wedding, and obviously I wanted to marry this "man" SO badly, I got put on a payment plan, etc. and now that HE'S put me in this situation, I can't afford to pay them!
He said my debt had nothing to DO with him, and that he WOULD have helped me out, but I 'ran my mouth, so no.. he's not helping me anymore' - Because we had sex last Friday, and the Friday before and that Monday, and I texted her and told her, lol.
I then get IRATE and am flying off the handles.
How is it that he can justify paying HER an extra $300+ to sit on her *** all day and do NOTHING. She had no bills whatsoever.
But me, who will be struggling financially because HE forced me into this situation, somehow I'm not worthy of it?
Because I work and make my own money and am not relying on him for anything?
I feel like I need to be sitting down with his parents and speaking with them about this and seeing if they can have a talk with him regarding this, because this is bullsh*t.
Then he says if I can't afford to take care of the baby, he'll just take full custody in the meantime and then I wont have to worry about paying him anything.
I'm sorry, but no. Not a chance.