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Feb 09, 2015 - 15 comments

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I went grocery shopping last night and had intended on making spaghetti or some type of pasta for dinner for me and Ri.
I walked in the house and Corey had ordered pizza, he says 'there's pizza on the stove if you guys want some', I'm like 'we're okay'.
I start boiling water, etc.
He comes in to get more pizza, and then repeats "if you want some pizza, help yourself" in a 'tone'.
I'm like, 'no. thanks. I should probably start getting into the habit of making enough for dinner, so that I can take lunch to work - considering I won't have the money to eat out all the time, and I will be living so far away I won't be able to come home for lunch anymore'.
He replies, 'Oh! okay! well then get in the habit of not f*cking texting me, too then'.
I'm like "I really don't know who you've been talking to lately who's given you the impression that you're so much better than everyone, and that your sh*t don't stink. But it needs to stop'.
He's like 'just pack your stuff.... and go'.
I'm like, 'I plan to be out the end of the month, don't you worry about me'
He replies 'I would hope so'
I'm like, 'What the hell did I do to make YOU hate ME??? Like, seriously?! And why did you even tell me you 'stopped talking to amanda'?'
He's like, 'cause I did. I just left it alone and was waiting to see when she messaged me'
And I'm like, 'Oh! Okay! So she didn't message you right away and you decide to start working on things with me again? And then drop me like nothing, again, the minute she texted you back?'
He's like, 'i'm not getting into this with you because I don't need to explain myself'.
LOL.
He continues to watch a movie for a few minutes as I just stare him down in awe...
I'm like, 'okay Corey, watch your movie. Avoid real life'.
And then proceeded to tell him how sorry I felt for him, etc.
And that was that.
He continues to baffle me on a daily basis. I know I shouldn't be trying to understand WTF he's doing, or thinking, because I know everyone says HE probably doesn't even know... But seriously...
So now I'm like, I have an U/S Wednesday... Do I even tell him? He told me not to text him, and I want to honor that. But I don't want to be shot down if I ask him if he wants to know about the baby at all.
Or do I just go to the ultrasound myself, and then leave pictures of it on the table / where he can see... and then just wait.
I've added the note he wrote when we were in the hospital the day I had Levi... Just so you guys can see the man he WAS. It won't let me attach a second picture. So I'll upload them just like, in the normal album.

I'm content with moving, and moving on with my life without him because I hate the person he's become. But I have to think about this baby... Do I go through the entire pregnancy without him, do I tell him updates, etc?

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by mhv, Feb 09, 2015
The advice I would give is, he is not the man you thought he was.  Period.  That is not your fault.  Period.  You need to just "do your time" and get the hell outta there!!!  I am sorry you are dealing with this, it sounds like he is just being cordial to you...not wanting to rock the boat, and then something is said to send him into weirdo word again.  If we're you, I would keep words and questions to a minimum.  Your daughter does not deserve to see you treated this way.
If you can't be strong for you, be strong for her.  
All I can say about him is....YUCK!!!!!!

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by ribaby15, Feb 09, 2015
Yeah, I totally agree with you.
But like, what do I do in regards to the pregnancy? Just leave it alone at the moment? And then when I move, leave the ball in his court, so to speak? And if he shows interest let him, but if not, don't make a big deal out of it?

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by Shannon79, Feb 09, 2015
He obviously doesn't care enough, so I would just leave it. Don't text him, don't give him updates....nothing.

Just remember, this was his choice to become an @sshole, not yours.

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by mhv, Feb 09, 2015
I agree with Shannon!  Leave it alone!!!!!  Obviously, it s his baby too....but I bet he starts questioning that to make himself feel better...don't be shocked if he pulls that card!   If he is interested, let him ask

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by ribaby15, Feb 09, 2015
ugh, as bad as this sounds - my crazy hormonal side has already thought about telling him it isn't his just so I don't have to deal with him at all, ever again.
Buuuuttt then I can kiss my measly $200/mo child support goodbye until one of us does a DNA test.
I'd LOVE TO DO THAT THOUGH lol.

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by heather727, Feb 09, 2015
I would just leave him a note letting him know you have an appointment. Don't ask him about it and don't let him know how it went if he chooses not to go. That way if things ever have to go to a lawyer, he can't say you tried to keep him from anything and you can say you actively tried to involve him.

Honestly, I think the guy is bi-polar. No normal person goes from hot to ice cold in a matter of months. It's just not normal. I would suggest you keep conversations with him to a minimum. And when you do have to talk to him, kill him with kindness. I'm not suggesting you start doing his laundry or anything. Just don't give him any ammunition. Make him think this is easy for you - that you don't need him. Why give him the satisfaction of seeing your pain? Let him suffer in your indifference.


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by heather727, Feb 09, 2015
And I can't believe he'd only have to pay $200 month for child support. I would think he's have to pay AT LEAST $100-$150 a WEEK!

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by Mrs_teddy_bear, Feb 09, 2015
I agree with all the women before me. He has made his choices and asked you not to text him so don't. leave him alone and do what you have to do to make things as calm as possible until you move out.

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by ribaby15, Feb 09, 2015
Yeah, Heather, he only makes like 26,000 a yr. Which according to the calculator I have used - says i'm entitle to $210/mo. But I'm going to ask for at LEAST $350 considering he pays his ex $250/mo and pays her cell phone bill of $60 that's on his contract. I did originally ask for $300 so I'm going to continue doing so and if he doesn't budge from $250 I'll take what I can get.



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by ribaby15, Feb 09, 2015
Ah! $250. not 350! lol

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by Shannon79, Feb 09, 2015
I'd leave it in the court's hands to decide an amount. They will fight for more

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by ribaby15, Feb 09, 2015
they go by how much money he makes annually though.
doesn't matter how much my bills, rent, groceries are.
I've been through court with Riley's dad and it's solely based on his income.

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by jugglin, Feb 09, 2015
Hi there.  We haven't "met" but I have seen some of your posts thru some of my wonderful friends here.  I just wanted to ditto Shannon...let the courts fight for your money.  He seems like an extremely immature boy.  You are a beautiful woman with a gorgeous daughter....you deserve so much better than this.  Some day, he will realize what a douche he has been and by then you will have moved on in your life and will be so much happier.  I would not engage in texting or speaking to him.  Be cordial.  Heather has a good point that you can leave written messages so he can not accuse you of keeping the baby/pregnancy from him.  You are a very strong woman and I can't imagine having the added pregnancy hormones as you go through this...but do your best not to let him see you hurting or angry.  I know that is extremely difficult, but I think there is a side of him that enjoys two woman wanting him.  When he sees you don't want/need him, I think he will back off.
Wishing you the very best to you, your daughter, and your little one!

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by Shannon79, Feb 09, 2015
Yep I realize that. But you also don't know what they're going to say. They may say more then what you're asking

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by ribaby15, Feb 09, 2015
His attitude is just absolutely bizarre.
Alright, I'll leave a note tonight (so he has enough notice) about the ultrasound, and what time and where.

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