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Twist my arm and tie my tubes?

Jan 10, 2010 - 3 comments

  So, my dh and I are fairly certain that we are finished having kiddos.  Well, I am fairly certain, he is 100% sure.  We have one just turning 2 yrs old, and one 5 months old.  Because of our ages and the need to eventually return to work full time, if we had another child, it would have to be sooner rather than later.  Since dh is so hands on, it would probably push him to his limit to add one more to the mix anytime soon.  Plus, my MIL, who provides care for the children 2 days a week, might feel a tad overwhelmed with 3 little ones.  
  Well, I looked into birth control and found out that my insurance will cover tubal ligation, but not IUD or pills.  I was wanting the IUD, but it is pretty pricey.  So now my dilema is pay out of pocket for something that I may not be happy with or face another surgery and permanent sterilization.  I guess I could go for pills for awhile, but I really haven't found one that I am totally happy with.  Usually I gain weight, get really moody or feel yucky while taking the pill.  Plus I am still nursing my ds right now.  
Even though I am pretty sure that the tubal would be an okay choice, I still get pretty anxious when thinking of the permanency of that decision.   I guess I am just irked that insurance won't cover an IUD.  

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121828 tn?1333464491
by kellym, Jan 10, 2010
What about your husband getting a vasectomy?  We are fairly certain we are finished also but I can't pull the trigger on any birth control yet and DH hasn't scheduled a "v" yet either. We have a 3 year old, 19mo old and 8 week old.  We too think one more in the mix would be a handful and our ages are getting up there too.  I told him wait 5 months just so I don't have a sudden freak out ;). I agree w/the birth control. I don't want to gain any weight and I am nursing too.... Maybe you should give yourself a few more months to think about it, just be careful LOL!

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by meiram, Jan 10, 2010
Wow, sounds like you certainly have your hands full!   Well, we tossed that idea around a bit, then he tossed it right out the window.  He has done some reading and is afraid of a possible connection between vasectomies and cancer.  I don't know enough to know if that is a valid concern or not.  Since he is generally a supportive and loving spouse, I don't want to push it on him if he feels that strongly about it.  His vote is to budget for the extra expense of the IUD and get it done in the near future.  In the meantime, we are being VERY careful.  With my low low low libido and his concern for another pregnancy, not a lot happening around here, lol.

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by kellym, Jan 20, 2010
LOL, Low libido, it's been 9 1/2 weeks since the birth of my son and NADA goin on around here, hee, hee..... I just read an article in Redbook about nursing and low libido after birth, yada, yada....
The thing is my husband works out of town and I take care of the 3 for a week or two at a time. He comes home and uproots all my rules and refers to me as "yes Maa'm" and that's a real turn-off!!  I'm going to tell you he's not going to get any acting like that, ha ha.  I also think weird thoughts like what if something is REALLY wrong with Baron and I can't  have any more kids, ugh.... Well, I'm sure you guys will come to a joint decision and I think I agree to vote on the IUD..

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