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Losing my daughter

Feb 28, 2010 - 11 comments

I've wanted a girl for so long, and now I have her. Bad news is she isn't going to make it. She has Trisomy 18 and an omphalocele where her intestines formed on the outside. Even if she was carried to full term, they told me they won't operate on her. I'm devastated. I know she's going to be with the Lord, a much better place than here. Right now this weekend I've just concentrated on enjoying my pregnancy, feeling her move, and praying as much as I can.

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by k10road, Feb 28, 2010
I am so sorry.  You are right in your attitude.  Going to be with the Lord is certainly a better place than here....but it doesn't help the pain.  I will keep praying for you.  I truly am so sorry that you are faced with this and that you have to endure this pain.  I wish there was something more I could say or do.

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by steph9803, Feb 28, 2010
I'm so sorry..I don't know you, but my heart is breaking for you. During my sister's last pregnancy there was a chance that her son had it...so I did lots of research on it. There are lots of support sites that were a great help when we weren't sure what the future held. I can't imagine what you're going through..I will be praying for you and your precious little girl though. *hugs*

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by usuk, Feb 28, 2010
I am so sorry about your baby girl. She is very loved and that will help the both of you. God bless. And thank you for reminding all of us still trying to have a baby to remember what is means to be so brave of heart and unconditionally loving.

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by mlb1234, Feb 28, 2010
I am also so sorry you are going through this.  No one should ever have to.  My sister gave birth to a trisomy 18 baby who was stillborn and she had no idea beforehand.  It was incredibly sad but she found a lot of support online and still feels to this day that Lily was and is her daughter and is still a big part of her life everyday.  I just wanted you to know that even though it probably feels like it, you are not alone.  Many hugs.

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by HeatherLF16, Feb 28, 2010
My heart is broken for you... I can only imagine your pain/grief.  I am so sorry I will continue to pray for you and your baby girl. Please let me know if you need to talk I am always here!

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by eddiblair, Feb 28, 2010
Thank you all for your support. I have been able to find some support online, and it helps to talk with others who have been down this road. You are all so right, no one should every have to go through this. I know God has a plan for her, and I will stand strong in her honor.

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by Lucey12, Feb 28, 2010
Oh my!! That is terrible to have to go through that. Im so sorry. Do enjoy her while shes here. Love your way! xo

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by stella213, Feb 28, 2010
I AM SO SORRY.SO SO SORRY. - My second child was stillborn & he would've been 10yrs.old. I still remember every second of the 30mins. the nurse tried to find a heartbeat &couldn't & every second of the 13hrs. I was in labor with him & how my heart & mind were torn in two directions that day(I knew there was nothing the dr.'s could do &still I panicked when he came out, wanting them to "help him!!!!")  I know the last thing you want to hear is about my loss but I want you to know that although she will be with Jesus, a part of her will always be with you.This is a long road you've been forced upon & I will be thinking of you & praying for you. I also want you to know that alot of people won't know what to say & even some of your closest friends & family will say things that will hurt you like- you can have another one or at least you didn't get attached-those are a couple of the many comments I recieved - but try to remember they just don't know what to say or they may just be too ignorant to realize what they said. I'm so sorry
                                                                                                              ~Stella

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by rina01, Feb 28, 2010
I am so very sorry to hear this, the pain of losing a child is so unbearable you think you are going to die yourself.  BUT you don't you stay strong and keep on going because thats what you have to do.  After a while you can smile because you had her, if only for a little while instead of not at all.  Believe that she loves you very much and you will ALWAYS love her.  

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by krichar, Mar 03, 2010
I am so sorry... I completely understand what you are going through and the way your heart is breaking. If you ever need to talk or vent or anything...I am here for you. Just message me...My pain is still fresh as well and i have found some amazing coping skills and great ways to remember my little boy. It is ok as well if you and God aren't on speaking terms right now...I know we aren't but i know he understands.

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by feather2e, Mar 03, 2010
I am so sorry for the pain you are going through.The loss of a child is the most heartbreaking thing you could ever go through. You and your family are in my prayers.

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