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My Friend Has An Abusive Mother and Stepdad.

Oct 31, 2010 - 2 comments





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Abusive Mothers


mental abuse


physical abuse

Well, I'm actually eleven. And I need some advice because my best friend is going through alot. (Mental, Verbal & Physical Abuse) I have tried various things to help her and her family. Her Dad, (the other parent who isnt abusive and is trying to get full custody) He tr ... [More] eats me like I'm his own child. And the Mother, Is just a lifeless zombie. But the mother also has a new husband, and he is basically telling her what to say to my friend and just influencing the mother even more. Today is halloween. A few days ago, My friend and I went to a halloween store and picked out a costume and EVERYTHING. We spent over 100$ on each costume, which the dad happily had payed, he said it was a gift to us because he just loved us. When I went to school, My friend wasnt there. We immediatley knew what was going on. Her mother and her stepdad had kept her home on her father's visitation, so that her father couldn't get her. When her father went to their house, Her mother and her stepdad were holding my friend against her will, and they said they would not let her go, until the father signed a paper saying that THEY could have her for halloween. Police and everything had showed up. But nothing had happened. And yet, today is halloween, and I have to spend it without my best friend.
Her father has just a bout taken us everywhere. Busch Gardens, Universal, Sea World- A lot of places. And everytime we all had fun. He also takes us fourwheeling almost every weekend. He's a very generous man. I never really had a father. My father left me when I was three. And her father made me feel like I had a father again. He was nice, funny, infact hilairious.
My friend however, when her parents got divorced when she was seven, she completely just fell apart. I've known her for four years, since the fourth grade. She never really could trust me at first to tell me what was going on at her mother's house. But in the mid-fifth grade, she opened up everything.
Her mom beats her and her sister. Her sister is 15, and yet she still has to lay on her mom's knee and get her rear smacked. Her mom also slaps them. Right across the face. When my friend was younger, her mother used a paddle. But it's not just physical,
its also verbal.
Her mother, growing up, was also abused. So now, I completely understand why she would do such things. (Besides that she is just a sick woman.)
Her new husband is pretty lifeless too. He never at all smiles. Even the first time I went over there, he never greeted or smiled at me and my mother. But this man is worse. He's got some muscle, but he has a scar running down his face. Which makes him look even more like a tough person. But, rumors' going around saying that he had lit my friend's puppy on fire with gasoline. How could someone be so cold-hearted? To light a PUPPY on fire? I wasn't surprised to hear such a thing like this. But there are things worse he could do to my friend. Thats why I want her out of that house. Before she could get hurt. Right now, she's in danger. Her step dad has called her multiple things. Little *****-Piece of ****- worthless-stupid-retarted-etc. And it has really been bothering my friend. She has very low self esteem already, and as if she needed this to happen...
I have risked my life so many times for her. Her mom and her step dad are very addicted to prescription pills. Methadone, Oxxycotton, Oxycodone. So, my friend told me where they hid them. While they were in their room, I snuck out in the kitchen, and looked through their cabinets. They had maybe over 20 empty pill bottles that were all prescribed maybe about a week before. And they were all gone, already.
The step dad always shakes his leg, vigourously. And her mother sleeps 24/7. And I just feel like this is even more of a threat to my friend's life. It's not a good environment at all.
Dayna (the mother) and Jack (the step dad) called me a spy, and that they applauded me for my great acting. That, right there, is a hint of immatureness. They have already been to court, maybe twice in the past two months. There is one coming up Wednesday November 2nd. I just need some advice. What can I tell my friend? (I've already told her not to be afraid to stand up to them) What should I do about Dayna and Jack? Should I go to court, and testify?

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by jenz4mee, Oct 31, 2010
I would say yes you should go to court because you have see it first hand but you should ask your mother what she thinks about that idea. I think that also what you can do for your friend is to do what you have been be by her side and be the best friend that you clearly are. She needs to speak her mind and tell the judge about all of these things and the judge will do what is in the best intrest of her and he may even let her be with her dad because that surely dose not sound like a fitting home for a child and that hurts me to even hear that story. Stay by your friend and support her hand in hand.

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by margypops, Nov 01, 2010
Hi Cayla we have also left some answers for you on the Abuse forum but definatly go and testify and get help .and as one member said take some pics as proof ..good luck..

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