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Dec 23, 2010 - 11 comments



baby shower

Ok so it took us roughly 3.5 years to get pregnant so needless to say we are really excited!!   My friend Hollie and Krystal have both been saying since about four months before BFP that they would throw my shower.  So everything is going great we have the date set for jan 30th I told my family in Arizona, (i live in illinois) my mom and sis have plane tickets and time off.  Tuesday Hollie texted me and said she didn't think she could have the shower for me (it was suppose to be at her house).  And she's known for three weeks that she couldn't do it but didn't know how to tell me!!  No Apology just I can't do it.  So I tell Krystal and at first she says ok we can have it at my house, then moments later it becomes let me check with hubby first (over controlling possessive hubby).  She texted my today that because she's been sick (she's 12 weeks pregnant, she has morning well all day sickness) her husband said NO to the shower.  Because she doesn't know how she will be feeling in 4 weeks!!  H*ll I who knows how i'm going to feel in four weeks!!  Oh By the way she works 12 hour shifts at a hospital and makes it through work just fine!!  But i'm sure a 2 hour shower four weeks from know would be too much.  Give me a break!  I was sick for 13 weeks too but if the situation was reversed I wouldn't hesitate to throw either one of them a shower.  So now I have to scramble to throw my own shower!!  My BFF who lives 8 hours away is coming to help.  I think what really bothers me is knowing that I obviously don't mean that much to either one of them, yeah I know stuff comes up and people get sick and maybe I shouldn't be upset.  But I just wanted a small drama free baby shower.  Oh and Krystal asked at the end of the text when we wanted to start planning hers... But I'm not so sure how I will be feeling with a 1 month old baby, planning her shower.  Being the sucker that I am I'm sure I will still do it!!  

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by Nini2686, Dec 23, 2010
I would be upset if I were you .Honestly its pretty nervy that your friend asked about her own shower when she kind of blew you off. I would give her the same answer she gave to you. Tell her you'll be to busy with a newborn.

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by ilovemyson23, Dec 23, 2010
I would be pretty heated toooo!!!! Its acually kinda [email protected]#$%!!! I know you want to treat people how you want to be treated and not how they treat you but that would hurt my feelings.. It wouldnt be the same with them at all for me [email protected]@

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by TinaR10, Dec 24, 2010
i would  be so mad and u should treat peps how u wanna be treated they shafted u when u needed them n now they want favors ha yea rite but at the end of the day its up 2 u what u wanna do.

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by MrsPincince, Dec 24, 2010
Maybe they want to throw you a surprise shower!?.....Sorry I was reading your post and wanted to throw a different perspective in.

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by MrsPincince, Dec 24, 2010
But then again, you don't want to assume that and you have no shower. I say plan yours with your BFF but don't be surprised if you end up getting one from both of the girls. I know it's probably a long shot but I, like you am a "sucker", I've had friends do me dirty but I still look past and take the high road. (I'm a scorpio tho, I do hold grudges, on the inside...hee hee.. I'm working on that) I hope everything works out in the end:-)

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by wanabb, Dec 26, 2010
Thanks guys, I found out yesterday my aunt (also from az) was planning on flying out also, so now at least I have a date.  I decided co-ed and maybe at a restaurant (my house is not big enough for 30 people).  So hopefully all turns out okay.  

Thanks to everyone for making me not feel like a jerk for being upset, of course they don't know i'm upset but it's good to know i have the right to be :).  

Mrsprincess-  Yeah I'm a big grudge holder also hopefully I can get past it because i do believe they are both good people at heart.  I'm usually pretty optimistic but I don't think a surprise shower is coming, but who knows.  

It was really nice we went to AZ for Christmas to see my family and they had a mini shower at the family Christmas :),  We got a lot of presents labeled "baby girl".   Definitely made me feel a little better :)

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by MrsSmith2010, Dec 29, 2010
I know this feeling all too well, this is exactly why I too am throwing my own shower. There are very few people you can depend on these days is what I've learned.

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by trh0819, Dec 29, 2010
If you were in Houston, I'd do it for you! Everyone deserves to be totally doted on and made to feel incredibly special during this amazing time. I will also say the co-ed shower can be tons of fun. I had two that included hubby and he realy enjoyed it. Hang in there!

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by Michele, Katy, TX, Dec 29, 2010
I'd be pretty upset!!  Especially considering you have family flying from out of town for this event!!!  I wouldn't give Krystal a shower.  I would tell her you will be too busy being a new mom and WILL NOT be lying.  You WILL be busy and tired from sleep deprivation, etc.  I have 6 and #7 on the way so trust will not feel like putting together a baby shower.  Especially for someone that did you wrong the way these "friends" did.

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by Aimz86, Feb 08, 2011
Wish I was there :( definitely understandable, I would so have it at my place I am free that day!!!! pity I am a millions of miles away - hope it all works out... don't loose the excitement I am sure it will all work out

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by wanabb, Feb 09, 2011
My friend who happens to live 8 hours away has organized everything she's pretty impressive :).  Thanks Aimee I would love to come out there it has to be so pretty where you are.  Sean and I keep talking about a vacation next fall it's either Australia or Ireland.  

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