Feb 10, 2011
Yesterday my husband had this long anticipated appointment. When he got home and I asked how it went he was short with me (I'm getting used to that). He wouldn't say much other than the doctor said he has anxiety. He say that the pharmacy was out of whatever was prescribed to him, and that he also prescribed zopiclones (yes, more of those) but the prescription could not be filled has he just had one. He then told me to leave him alone.
As I was managing banking later in the evening, I noticed money was taken out of the account at the drug store. I questioned him on it and yes, something was filled. He wouldn't say what or how much. I asked how much he took and he said "enough". There were a bunch of excuses made, that "next time" I can manage them, that "next time" he will involve me. I said what about if we start now, to which he said no. It's always "tomorrow", "next week", "next time" or sometime that is not NOW. That is what angers me, because he says he wants help, but I know that's just a lie.
I've been very angry, sad, confused, upset, scared, etc. lately. Many people on here have offered up suggestions like "report him" or "divorce him". Perhaps my excuses are no different than his, but I'm scared of what he would do if I did either one. I say this because he has threatened me. He says that if I think life is hard now, wait until I cross him. He says that the house will be destroyed, the new vehicle will be destroyed and that my life will be a living hell. So yes, he ends up in jail... but the sentence would end soon enough, and then he would come after me!
Selling the house is a great idea, except he's home ALL day long and can make it so the house is in no condition to sell (or to be viewed).
Divorcing him - great, he doesn't work, so he'll be entitled to 50% of the house, of my savings and my penssion. Plus he's already said he would take me to the cleaners. I know there would be no end to how misserable he makes me, if he even allows it to happen.
My husband has become extremely manipulative... he knows how to make me feel terrified. I fear him and I don't know how to get around that. I'm searching for a solution and so far can't see one, but I'm not giving up!