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ET Today, 3, 8 Cell Grade 1

Apr 08, 2011 - 8 comments

Hi everyone, I have been a major couch potato today and will be for the next few days.  The ET was about as  painful as a pap smear, so not too bad.  Nothing like the ER!  My ovaries are still very sore from that.

Today they put back 3 embryo's, all 8 cell Grade 1 (their highest rating).  Normally, she said she would have only put 2 back at that quality, but due to my age, she felt 3 was the right number. She told me, based on my situation, my chances of success were 35% for this IVF cycle and that my response was unusual.  At that point, I needed to have a heart to heart with her.

I said this to her:

"You know, when a came here a few months ago, I must say my RE was very supportive, but this isn't always the case.  At many Fertility Clinics, women over 40 are treated like they are already in Menopause. The truth is that we are over a decade from that, and although we are not as fertile as we were in our 20's, many of us have regular cycles and are very much able to get pregnant with healthy babies.  I would like you to share my story with your colleagues as I feel it is your job to make sure you help us get to the good eggs, not just immediately discount our ability to have a baby.  Now I know that some of my 18 embryo's may be genetically abnormal, but you can't say that for sure.  Truth is you never put just 1 embryo in - even in 20 somethings, and not all of them get pregnant with the number of embryo's transferred.  So I guess what I am saying is, please support us and help us.  When I first came to this clinic 6 months ago, I was told I had a 5% chance of success with IVF.  Now, based on my cycle, it has jumped to 35%.  If I didn't believe you were wrong, I would have never taken the chance."

I just felt I needed to get that out.  For all of us.  

Now, I better get my BFP or I am going to be a little embarassed next time! Love you all, xoxo Heidi

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by Sherri90049, Apr 08, 2011
You're the best, Heidi!! Well said! And, as a fellow "<5% 'er", thank you!

I am so excited for your BFP! You'll get it! So don't worry about having to go back and eat crow! :D Heck, you might even get twins!!! I'm crossing everything that we will be hearing awesome news from you in a couple of weeks!  xoxo

:) Sherri

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by Kricket212, Apr 08, 2011
Best Wishes to you on this cycle.

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by mhv, Apr 08, 2011
I too, like Sherri, am hoping for and thinking twins for you!  You are not going to be eating crow!  I just know it!!! : )

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by Risa615, Apr 08, 2011
Heidi,
Wow, well said girlfriend! Sending you tons of sticky baby dust!!! It all sounds so good.

Risa

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by mjmom69, Apr 08, 2011
That's great! Now could you come and tell my RE that! He did admit, after telling me I had ovulated already and that it happens sometimes and NOW that it has, we can give you something so that it wont next time.... and you'll have to give me more money, that he was surprised at how well I responded to the injections with my FSH number. So they definitely can be wrong!

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by Moma_Cher, Apr 09, 2011
Omg, I love you so much for saying that! you are so awesome!! I know this is going to work for you... I feel it in my gut, like I seriously have no doubt in my mind.  ***I heart u***

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by babydreamr, Apr 09, 2011
Lol, I {{Heart}} you too Moma!  WE are all going to get our BFP's, because we are all strong women that go ahead and follow our dreams no matter what anyone else says!  I swear, I think we would have lots more pregnancies after 40 if people weren't out there trying to scare everyone so much.

mjmom: You are so right.  He was shocked by your response, and it took a little bit of an embarassing situation on his part to realize it.  He definitely underestimated how well your body is working!

Thanks you guys for all your wonderful support, we are all in this together.  I just know this will be a year filled with BFP's for everyone - one way or another.  I truly believe, good things happen to good people - and you all are the best!!!!

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by plumber43, Apr 12, 2011
Hey,
How are you? I'm praying for you honey, please keep us poster!
Hugs,
Mel

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