Okay I'm sorry this is so long but I have to explain to get to my point. Being married for 12 yrs, hubby and I always "assumed" we'd get pg in due time. I have god awful painful periods. I'm not talking about your little cramps a heating pad and midol will fix, I'm talking about throwing up, passing out, trying to find something to knock myself out to deal with kinda pain. Had surgery for Endometriosis (always thought my painful periods were probably something wrong and causing OUR infertility), so found mild endo, cyst on fallopian tube and removed a polyp in middle of my uterus (caused alot of bleeding all the time for about 2 yrs). Okay, hubby is mad because he thinks the surgeon missed something in there because after my surgery I felt pretty good. No bleeding and still that's good but my pain came back within 6 months and it's god awful again. He's more concerned with fixing my pain (as am I) but he's not understanding that we need to have a child ASAP because most dr.'s don't want to do anything drastic to a healthy 32 yr old with no children. He's afraid if we get pregnant, will my pain be even worse then?? Forgot to mention that he has YET to okay a SA!! So stubborn, blames the fact that, "we need to make sure you're okay first!!". Well I get that, BUT this is what I'm thinking. I've had the surgery, the RE said I'm "good to go" as far as having a child. I O on my own, have good eggs, they're plentiful every month and everything else is good. SO I'm thinking.. Getting hubby on this boat of conceiving ASAP. Getting the SA done, if he has low sperm or just problems in general get the help he needs. I CANNOT afford IVF :(. My insurance covers nothing for that and one round here in B'ham is $17,000. I CAN do the IUI though. That's as extreme as we can go. SO IF it's him, do this.
I'm going to go get a 2nd opinion myself on what's causing all my pain. I do believe that the surgeon missed something as well because nothing has changed. What I'm wondering though...pregnancy or NOT, what can they do medically to fix my pain? Before pregnancy and afterwards? I know they'll want to try BC, been there and done that. If hubby has sperm problems and we are able to do IUI and that doesn't work then I've GOT to do something..I can't live like this, the rest of my life. Sorry for rambling so much, just been thinking about alot in these last 2 or 3 days.
First is get him checked! 2nd is if it's him, try to fix it..if not, THEN...do something about my pain! I don't think there's anything they can do for it, while I'm TTC. But what can be done if I call TTC quits? Thanks for all the help...just kinda lost here. Hubby won't even talk to me about TTC...he doesn't try to prevent it, but it's like he's acting oblivious to it. I don't know what to do! :(
This IS never ending. :(