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Starting to lose hope

Apr 07, 2012 - 3 comments

I was really hopeful that my boyfriend's grandma would quit smoking but she hasn't. I mean she did quit for a whole week but then some stupid family member bought her more cigarettes so then she picked it up again. Then once she finished that pack I thought she'd stop but then she found a pack in me and my boyfriend's room that we bought for her a while ago and now shes smoking that! I'm starting to feel like shes never going to quit. And its really frustrating. I tried talking to her today about the horrible health effects that it has on her body and me and my baby's. But she refuses to listen. She's started coughing lately and simply thinks that shes sick and while she very well might be sick. I think there is a much greater chance of it being from smoking. Both of my grandparents my mom and her boyfriend smoked. And they would all cough after they smoked. Especially one of my grandmas who smoked almost her whole life. Even though she stopped smoking a long time ago she still has horrible smokers cough as a result of the damage that smoking did to her body. I tried telling my boyfriend's grandma that her smoking could cause me to miscarry but all she said to me was well I've had eight kids and none of them died and they're all fine. She doesn't get it! She doesn't understand that just because HER kids turned out fine doesn't mean that mine will. Especially since I was already exposed to smoking a lot as a little kid and I have asthma and has bronchitis and pneumonia and earaches as a result of secondhand smoke. It REALLY irritates me that just because her kids turned out "fine" supposedly means that mine will be just "fine" too?

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1181036 tn?1367368640
by FreshLove, Jun 07, 2012
It's call smoker's lung. There lungs are so filled with a gunky tarry substance that they have to cough and hack to try to get it up but they can't because it's so embedded. It's not a good sign and it's not healthy. Most of my family used to smoke, but my mom quite when I was 9, my grandma smoke til the day she died of lung cancer, and both of my aunts quite. Since she's old there's a good chance she won't quite because she's been doing it so long and figures "what the hell, I'm already screwed" kind of mentality. Best to move out.

1181036 tn?1367368640
by FreshLove, Jun 07, 2012
The women who say their kids are fine even though they smoked don't realize that those chronic ear infections, asthma, allergies, etc. that their kids have are directly related to their smoking. I did research on it in high school and it's really sad. Imagine, if they hadn't smoke while pregnant and raising children, maybe their kids wouldn't have horrible allergies or asthma. Or maybe like me they wouldn't have chronic ear infections (to this day I can't get water in my ear w/o it causing an infection, and sometimes I get random excruciating ear aches). I was also a month premature and weighed less then 5lbs...so if you can please get out of that environment because cigarette smoke does have consequences.

1900462 tn?1352775302
by isntsure, Jun 09, 2012
Thanks for the comments and support I appreciate it :) Yeah I did a ton of research on it too to try and get my boyfriend to realize how bad it is for her and us and our baby to be around it. We are going to move out and have just recently gotten jobs (although they're temporary) we're going to save up our money for our baby and if we can't find another job after these jobs my grandma (who used to smoke for years but quit about 6 years ago)offered us a place to stay until we can get our own place. We are really considering that option but it would be hard because moving in with my grandma would mean moving across the entire state of washington and leaving our familiar environment etc etc but for our baby and our health we'll do it if we have to. I was even thinking of doing a project on the effects of secondhand smoke and smoking itself. I myself was around tons of smoking growing up and as a result I have asthma which makes me get sick (especially since I'm around her smoking now) I've had bronchitis and pneumonia twice. The second times were when I moved in with my boyfriend and his grandparents (what a coincidence huh). Its been very frustrating knowing that my health is declining as a result of being around her smoke despite the fact that she smokes outside it still leaves particles all over the place wherever she goes. I cannot wait until we move out because I guarantee my health will perk right back up once we do. In the mean time I've been doing my best when I have the energy and motivation to clean the things that I can. Thanks again for the support :)

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