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Coping With Being Clean: A New Life

Apr 28, 2009 - 5 comments

I realize that I've never really talked about the period AFTER I stopped. In retrospect I find that that's one of the most frustrating things we have to face.

And people with long term clean time try to be helpful... but lets face it. Few of them are very good at getting across how they did it. It seems almost magical when they describe it.  Almost as if they'd won some prize.

So I'm going to do something I rarely do, and try to recall those early days and do a frank evaluation of how I went from being a broke, living out of cheap rooms (if I was lucky; there where nights I slept on the subway) sad sack to being what I am now (I have a full time job and a staff that answers to me, among other things).

All in three years.

As a whole, it seems unbelievable... and yet unbelievably easy. And I can see why others who have been through this have difficulty getting it across.

So I'll start... and we'll see where this goes.

I'll set the scene for you:

It is three years ago. I'm living in a cheap rooming house on borrowed money I don't expect to ever pay back. Taking stock of what I have takes all of thirty seconds.

I've got a suitcase full of clothes, a  DVD player that I spend more time repairing than watching videos on, and two broken playstation 2's that I'm hoping I can cannibalize the parts from both to make one working unit.

I have my wife and four cats.

I have a copy of "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" by Robert Pirsig. (If you aren't religious, this is the next best thing to having a bible. For me, at least).

I have absolutely no prospects.

And I have time. Lots and lots of time on my hands, with no end in sight.

Time, in fact, at first appears to be your enemy. Everything takes TIME. Change takes time. Walking to the local soup kitchen takes time. Waiting to hear back from potential employers takes time. Waiting for the next day a check may come in so you've got money to eat and get about takes time.

I became obsessed with the concept of time. Sixty seconds in a minute. Sixty minutes in an hour. One thousand, four hundred and forty minutes in a day.

Five hundred and twenty five thousand, six hundred minutes in a YEAR.

All spent in waiting for change to happen.

I do recall that one of the first things I did was go out and get a library card.

I'll tell you right now, that learning is the one thing you can do on your own. It's ALWAYS productive, and will always pay off. And with a library card... it's free.

I spent a great deal of my time reading. I think at one point I was averaging from two to four books a week (depending on length and subject matter).

When I wasn't reading, I tended to walk.

Walking, you'll be surprised to hear, is also free. I probably averaged about two to five miles a day. I can now safely say that there isn't a block in Manhattan under 96th Street that my feet haven't trod upon (Manhattan is about twenty six miles long).

Sometimes I would walk AND read. I became something of a local eccentric. At one point a local newspaper asked to do a story on me, "The guy who loves to read so much he does it when he's walking."

(I suggested that those who wished to follow in my footsteps read paperbacks. You can hold them in one hand. Also; always pay attention to traffic when crossing the street. No matter how exciting the story is getting).

The point of this is that you have to find ways to occupy your time that feel productive.  Because if you let the weight of that time overwhelm you... you won't make it.

This is actually one of the main points behind going to meetings. Something to occupy your time. Something that is hopefully productive (leading to potential contacts and friends).

But if you haven't figured it out by now, Savas is a bit of a strange bird. I didn't get on all that well with people at meetings. The people were friendly enough, but it wasn't really a good match. I'll sum it up by saying the experience wasn't satisfying.

So I realized that if I was to do this, I was going to have to rely on the one resource I always had; myself.

After all, for better or worse, I was stuck with me. So I'd best come up with a formula for living with and getting along with myself that would work.

More to come...

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by 122 Tactical Fighter Group, Apr 28, 2009
Cant wait to hear more from the Baron .......

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by BARBIE123841, Apr 28, 2009
i like this post i am in wow! please tell more

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by allaboutmary, Apr 28, 2009
I want more sooooon !  Please.

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by flmagi, Apr 28, 2009
While reading this post, I got a craving to read a good book (something I haven't done in a while and don't have much time for right now), but then I realized I was reading a good book in this post, but was sorry this chapter was so short. I'll be waiting with great anticipation for the coming chapters.

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by BaronMunchausen, May 01, 2009
Thanks. I'm working on the write up that I'll post both in the health pages and here.

The initial page is "Methadone Opiate detox Realities Part 1 & 2". I realized I owe it to those who read that to actually provide "Part 3" which gives a straight forward physical account of the END of the detox, something I've never told yet.

This one i'll post as "BaroMunchausen... the others I had avisg post for me back then.

But I'll get back to the Baron's Story very shortly, as the health page should take no time at all.

I will note that the Baron did just get fired from his job. Which is actually right on schedule for what will hopefully be "positive changes to come". I'd planned on being fired this month as the job was terrible and had no prospects for the future. Just one of those cases of you have to bite the bullet to get by until your ready for the next stage of life. :-)

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