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PREGNANT - unplanned at 42 !!!
I did not think this could ever happen to me, but here it is: I am pregnant at 42.5 and this was not even planned!! It was a one time thing. I discovered it this week and I am still under chock, I can't believe it.
I have a beautiful 15 months old baby boy and it took 4 full years to conceive him, I delivered him at 41.5. I had 3 miscarriages as well. The first 2 years of trying to actively conceive, I did not get pregnant once: unexplained infertility...
On top of that, I have only one working ovary. Recently I had 22-24 days between my periods. And almost no symptoms anymore during ovulation time. And I stopped breastfeeding a month and a half ago, though my periods came back a year ago but we were careful until this one time. So yes hubby and I were not careful the other day but I reassured him by telling him that there was about 1% of chance I could get pregnant... Wrong!!!
I am really scared, we had not made up our mind about having an other baby and were actually thinking not to have an other one as raising one baby can be stressful... I don't even want to think about raising 2 babies that would be 24 months apart!
I thought I would share my story here. I really think that the less you focus on being pregnant, the more it happens! Not sure if this pregnancy will go OK or not, I am taking it day by day.
I have a beautiful 15 months old baby boy and it took 4 full years to conceive him, I delivered him at 41.5. I had 3 miscarriages as well. The first 2 years of trying to actively conceive, I did not get pregnant once: unexplained infertility...
On top of that, I have only one working ovary. Recently I had 22-24 days between my periods. And almost no symptoms anymore during ovulation time. And I stopped breastfeeding a month and a half ago, though my periods came back a year ago but we were careful until this one time. So yes hubby and I were not careful the other day but I reassured him by telling him that there was about 1% of chance I could get pregnant... Wrong!!!
I am really scared, we had not made up our mind about having an other baby and were actually thinking not to have an other one as raising one baby can be stressful... I don't even want to think about raising 2 babies that would be 24 months apart!
I thought I would share my story here. I really think that the less you focus on being pregnant, the more it happens! Not sure if this pregnancy will go OK or not, I am taking it day by day.
I know how you feel regarding the job search! I finished nursing school in May and passed my boards in early June. When I started my job search, I was very up front about the fact that I was pregnant and would need to take most of November and all of December off. One job was pretty much going to hire me pending passing my background and when they found out...nothing. Not a single call back.
I really had a delema. I am a nurse and feel that honesty and trust is an integral part of what being a nurse IS. Omitting such significant information from my job search process really went against the grain for me. But, after almost 2 months of searching I finally gave in and DIDN'T volunteer the information. I was hired right away and have been there a little over a month. I plan to tell them later this month.
This way...they can see that I am a REALLY good nurse and worth the inconvenience of having to fill my shifts while I am on leave. I still feel bad about not telling them up front but I really needed to start working...
Luckily...I am a big built woman anyway and unless I am dressing to specifically show off the bump, no one can tell. (I went to the Motherhood Maternity store Tuesday with my first full paycheck in the bank and bought some maternity clothes and afterward, for the first time in the pregnancy, had a stranger ask me when I was due! I was wearing one of my new maternity outfits...so excited!).
Best wishes for you in your job search!
I really had a delema. I am a nurse and feel that honesty and trust is an integral part of what being a nurse IS. Omitting such significant information from my job search process really went against the grain for me. But, after almost 2 months of searching I finally gave in and DIDN'T volunteer the information. I was hired right away and have been there a little over a month. I plan to tell them later this month.
This way...they can see that I am a REALLY good nurse and worth the inconvenience of having to fill my shifts while I am on leave. I still feel bad about not telling them up front but I really needed to start working...
Luckily...I am a big built woman anyway and unless I am dressing to specifically show off the bump, no one can tell. (I went to the Motherhood Maternity store Tuesday with my first full paycheck in the bank and bought some maternity clothes and afterward, for the first time in the pregnancy, had a stranger ask me when I was due! I was wearing one of my new maternity outfits...so excited!).
Best wishes for you in your job search!
So sorry to hear this - I can imagine the stress. I agree with adgal - you will come out of this in no time and even ahead. I remember you thinking about looking for another job with less travel involved. So while the timing may seem terrible now, it many be a huge blessing in disguise. Wishing you tons of luck in the job search - just throw on a lose fitting blazer and you are good to go!!! Hang in there!
Oh no. I am so sorry. I have no doubt you will land on your feet..I suspect you are a pretty impressive person in real life as well...but the stress right now with everything else is the last thing you need. Sending you all sorts of positive thoughts and hoping for a quick resolution for you.
Cosmic forces are against me this month: I have now been laid off.... (my company was recently purchased). I am the breadwinner in our family so really not good. I am not even 6 weeks and I already feel like I have a huge belly, I worry now about going to job interviews with a pregnant belly...
Fantastic news!! I had cramps the entire first semester (felt like menstrual cramps) - I was told it is your uterus stretching. And pimples can just be a side effect from pregnancy hormones (may mean that this one is a girl!!!). Hang in there and try not to worry - I am sure things will be fine. Keep us posted.
Regarding your husband, I think returning to the therapist is a great idea, as is a fresh psychiatrist. I hate to see anyone suffer when there might be better help out there.
Grow bean, grow...
Regarding your husband, I think returning to the therapist is a great idea, as is a fresh psychiatrist. I hate to see anyone suffer when there might be better help out there.
Grow bean, grow...
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