being judged????

[zoexx12]

Hey everyone im nearly 24 and pregnant with my 3rd baby and everytime someone asks my age i feel im being judged by them for being a mother at all never mind 3 times. i try not to let it bother me but it actually did bother me when a women walking along the street called me disgusting i was furious but most of all embarresed :-( someone in a simular situation would b great 2 chat with thanks :-)

[babybonita]

Someones always looking to judge. I'm 34 & expecting my 1st & people are always saying OMG why did you wait so long. Children are a blessing no matter how old we are. Its no ones business!

[nakita25]

Hey 32w and im almost 25 with my third and i dont give a **** with others think. My life my kids and i take care of them. I will say im blessed.

[KMB81]

I was walking around with my daughter one day and she did some thing she didn't need toand I spanked her hand. I was told that I was going to hell.

[Hoping2BAMom]

I don't think IvyWestL meant it to be offensive.  Welfare was designed to help people like you and your family...hard working people that need a little extra support.  That's what it's there for.  However, too many times people on welfare DO NOT have any other job or means of support or seem to want to find a job, and I think those are probably the people she was thinking of when she made her statement.  

@Zoexx12...I'm like Jennie1211....pregnant with my first at 39 via the help of IVF, and I have definitely felt the criticism and negative incinuations from people about my age and the fact I used IVF.  Some people are just ignorant idiots and open their mouths before they think or they don't think at all.  Just keep ignoring them girl!!  

[mrssandefur]

@IvyWestL I must say your comment about "If you can't provide for them without welfare" is a bit offensive and degrading. My husband works full time and most the time over time at 14 dollars an hour. We still have Medicaid and foodstamps. My mother inlaw has had three children and raised them on welfare AND a good paying full time job. She just recently has been denied the benefits now that she make 18 dollars an hour. It is expensive to have babies and a lot of the time they are unplanned and we have tried to prevent them. As I said one.of my children was result of a rape, my.mother inlaw was raped in her sleep when she intoxicated BY HER HUSBAND and conceived her second and was on birth control when she conceived her third. As long as you're working to support your children then needing government assistance shouldn't be an issue seeing as how if you work and pay taxes you're paying for.that welfare anyway!

[mrssandefur]

@IvyWestL I must say your comment about "If you can't provide for them without welfare" is a bit offensive and degrading. My husband works full time and most the time over time at 14 dollars an hour. We still have Medicaid and foodstamps. My mother inlaw has had three children and raised them on welfare AND a good paying full time job. She just recently has been denied the benefits now that she make 18 dollars an hour. It is expensive to have babies and a lot of the time they are unplanned and we have tried to prevent them. As I said one.of my children was result of a rape, my.mother inlaw was raped in her sleep when she intoxicated BY HER HUSBAND and conceived her second and was on birth control when she conceived her third. As long as you're working to support your children then needing government assistance shouldn't be an issue seeing as how if you work and pay taxes you're paying for.that welfare anyway!

[mrssandefur]

Girl I am 20 and about to give birth to my third. I have literally been pregnant three Yeats's in a row. I'm about to be 21 shortly after baby is here. Granted my second was from being raped but even still. I'm judged all the time for it. As long as your a good mom don't worry about what people think!

[plumber43]

I'm 45 and will be 46 when I give birth to baby #4 and my oldest is 23 and hates the fact that I am pregnant! It doesn't matter what other ppl say as long as in your heart your a great mother and take care of your kids!
We here don't judge!
Hugs,
Melanie

[ChitChatNine]

I would invest in imaginary earplugs and wear alligator tough skin on the outside.  If you are happy, that's all that matters!

[Ale8a]

Children are always a blessing some of us would only wish to get a BFP don't  worry about ignorant people at the end of the day they don't matter

[IvyWestL]

If you can afford them, have them, enjoy them and tell people it's none of their business. If you can't afford to provide for them without welfare or other assistance, I think it's irresponsible.

[zoexx12]

Thanks ladies :-) yeah my children want for nothing and are well looked after and im so gifted 2 have 2 beautiful kids and one on way, there the best thing thats ever happened 2 me and i wouldnt change them for the world. I think your always going to get someone judging u no matter what u do maybee its just a jealousy thing r there own lifes arnt very good they need 2 judge others. thanks 4 your comments made me feel alot better xxx

[Jennie1211]

I think pregnancy judgment can come with all kinds of situations. I'm pregnant with my first at 39, and I've gotten a few comments that have implied I might be too "old" to have a baby. I've also gotten some major criticism for HOW I got pregnant as well (IVF) thanks mostly to my husband's open and chatty nature. In the end, it's no one's business but yours what you choose to do regarding your family planning as long as you're responsible :)  

[adgal]

You know what?  Ignore the ignorance.  Seriously.  No matter what your situation or age, someone will have something to say about it.  These are your kids..you raise and support them, and it's no one's business but your own.  I had my first child at 40 and I too got negativity from a few who thought I was "too old" to have a baby.   The truth is there is no right or wrong age to have a child.  I know excellent young mothers like yourself and excellent older moms (like me if I do say so myself..lol).  I also know people in both age groups that you could never convince me to leave my child with for even an hour.  So you hold your head high and just keep loving those kids.  It's none of their darned business.

[4slenderthread]

I agree with breanna and omacastrop! I have 3 girls, 2 of which are only 8 months and 1 week apart - preemie! When people 'think' it's best for us to have our children, I can say ... I don't care! If WE are pleased with our timing - then what should it matter what ignorant, jealous, clueless people may think? So many women cannot concieve. Any one of them would give anything to have a single healthy pregnancy. I consider myself fortunate. As long as we can afford to give each child a wonderfully full lifestyle - we should wear our  pregnancies with great pride! No matter our age or the number ... our babies are a GIFT - who is ever ashamed of or hides a gift? :-)  Take care ladies!

[Omacastrop]

I was 24 & pregnant with my 4th! Ppl can be heartless & just say whatever comes to their mind. Don't worry abt what anyone says. Its ur life & ur beautiful babies:)

[breanna_d]

I'm pregnant with my 3rd but I am 29. I had my 1st at 18 & 2nd at 21 so I know the feeling of being judged about being young. When someone asks your age just say something like "that's personal." people who ask questions like that have no tact so don't feel bad about being blunt back.