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My mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She lives with us now. Things used to be ok in the beginning, but now she gets really aggressive when it comes to things she doesn't approve of. Worst part is she doesn't recognize me. So she gets really annoyed when I enter her room and do stuff. So I have to sneak in, when she is sleeping. We have spoken to an assisted care facility near us.( http://www.prestigecare.com/assisted_services.php ) They have made arrangements for her to move. Now I don't know how to talk her into this. Has someone been in the similar situation? Please advise!
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hows it going , has your mom moved, thats a very hard thing to do as you love her but need help with her. my mom stayed with me till the end but she never got real mean and her last 11 months she was bed ridden. so sad to watch our love ones go down. remember your a great Daughter for looking after her as long as you did and never feel bad about her living in a nice place that will look after her 24/7 you just go and visit and enjoy your time with her ...... Heart
We had the similar situation with my father in law. He was very hostile and did not want to be in a home, but had called 911 on all his home caregivers so many times that they quit. We finally had no option but to find a home.
He had a fall and we transferred him from the hospital, with his doctor's help, to the home. We told him he still had his apartment and we told everyone who visited him to keep up that story. We cleared it out. He was very confused and upset, but with the help of the social worker, he made a quite nice transition in about a month. He actually did so much nicer in the home. He gained weight, was less dehydrated, got exercise, got more care and thrived much better until his lung cancer took over.
It is not easy, but it works once the loved person has adjusted. I suggest visiting often and at different times too.
He had a fall and we transferred him from the hospital, with his doctor's help, to the home. We told him he still had his apartment and we told everyone who visited him to keep up that story. We cleared it out. He was very confused and upset, but with the help of the social worker, he made a quite nice transition in about a month. He actually did so much nicer in the home. He gained weight, was less dehydrated, got exercise, got more care and thrived much better until his lung cancer took over.
It is not easy, but it works once the loved person has adjusted. I suggest visiting often and at different times too.
The first thing you should do is contact your local chapter of the Alzheimer's association for help. They have people trained to help you (free of charge) deal with the issues you mentioned above. Here is the website page to find the closest office:
http://www.alz.org/apps/findus.asp
This will be a great resource on many levels for you and your family.
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