Child wit adhd

[angeladawn1974]

I have an 8 year old son who is adhd, some say o.d.d and o.c.d. he is constantly chewing on stuff and wetting himself at home at school and today he wiped feces all over the school just because he wanted to come home. he pees behind the comode on the wall of his bedroom in the vents he just sits there and wets himself. my patience is running thin. the hardest part is the kids at school make fun of him. they also say he is depressed so he is on zoloft along with ritlan, risperdone. clondine, a ddtvp ( for bed wetting doesn't work) . I am at a lose of what to do. This boy is my life and i feel so out of debt here. Can any one throw me some advice. I would appreciate it

[Lilak2002]

That is hard but I understand because my son is the same way. He was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and a mixed receptive speech delay.  He was diagnosed when he was about 3 almost 4 years old.  It was all a long process and a long story but as he got older and I had to deploy, he would act out in the same way.  He has a different relationship with his father then he does with me.  He is a mammas boy and he does not get along with his dad at all.  His dad is not very patient with him as where i for the most part have all the patience in the world with him.  Once I deployed and he was left with his dad, he would pee in his room rather then getting up and going to use the toilet, he even whipped it out and peed on the PS3 because it didn’t do what he wanted it to do. And he would also pick holes in the wall.  Once I came home on R and R from Afghanistan he stopped almost immediately.  He stopped peeing the bed and himself, stopped picking at the walls and stopped peeing in his room and in the closet.  Kids do things for a lot of reasons.  When ever his environment is interrupted he acts out for one reason or another.  Once I got home I would sit down and talk to him about it and made sure he understood why we didn’t want him to pee in the room and that it wasn’t ok for him to do it (no yelling).  I had to bribe him a little but for the two weeks I was there it stopped. About 3 days before I had to leave, he over heard me telling his dad that I had to go home and pack.  He got excited and worried and asked where I was going.  I couldn’t bear to tell him when I first got home that I would have to leave again and that might have been a mistake.  At that point I had to tell him I had to go back and he asked me why and if he could go with me.  It broke my heart to tell him no.  His mood changed after that and the very next day he started peeing in his room again and picking at the walls.  I know that’s a long story but the best thing that works for my son is talking to him.  I let him know that I am there for him and I always will be even if I have to deploy. I know its hard to be patient but try and talk to him.  I had to go to the school a lot of times to watch and observe and I reassure him that I was there for him and I told him that he needs to be good.  It doesn’t always work but it does help him out a lot.  Rather then freak out and yell at him like my husband does because he just doesn’t understand him, which by the way makes it worse.  I’m working on staying home for good after this because it causes to much problems for my family. I don’t entirely agree with the amount of meds they have your son on but I cant say for sure if it is the right thing for him or not.  My sons doc put him on Dextromine and said that we had to work through the behavior because they don’t make meds for that and that for us is the hardest part I guess because in the end he is still a kid.  What made them think he was depressed?  For the most part bed wetting had a lot to do with emotional issues with my son that’s how I know something is wrong. My sons doc also told me he had a very young patent that was upset with him mom for deploying.  When she came home he would jump up on the table pull his pants down and just take a dump.  When they took him to the physiologist for it and he talked to the doctors about why he did it he said that he was mad at his mom for leaving.  After that he stopped.
Sorry this was so long but I hope that this helps you some.

[thejoyofmotherhood]

Wow. My hearth goes out to you. You have to be strong, though, and good job on trying everything for your son and for being brave for him.
It does sound to me like the inadequacy with some of the meds. Perhaps, Zoloft? You have to take your good old time, keep diary of changes in behavior, and play around with dosages.
Try to involve him in some of the non-team sports, with lots of "stimulation", such as motocross, or bull-riding (or goat-riding at his age). As crazy as it might sound, ADHD kids do extremely well in these sports. This will bring everybody in your family, and mostly HIM - a new outlook of life, a positive feeling about himself, and it will make him proud.
Although the meds are absolutely necessary, I have a inner gut feeling that you need to step away from this toxic circe he is in, and completely take him out this environment, such as doing these sports. You will see him in a different light yourself and you all might have a clearer thinking.

[Sandman2]

Wow, I hear you.
  Thats quite a cocktail your son is on.  Hopefully, it is all prescribed by the same doctor - or if its not, then all doctors involved know what he is taking.  Hopefully, you keep close communication with his doctor.  Do report what you just told us.  It maybe that some of the meds need to be adjusted.
  The best advice I can give - is that you have to really understand what he is going through.  Understanding where the other person is coming from, makes it much easier to work with them.  While there are books that deal with parts of the problem, he apparently has several others going on.  There are books on ADHD that I have listed in earlier posts.  I would certainly visit other forums that deal with the problem(s) that he is on reperidone for. I think your best bet is to schedule some time with his psychologist and have him explain everything he can.  Information is really crucial.
If I can be more specific, let me know.  Good Luck