15 year old/teen/ADD

[lipina]

My 15 year old son, has a big anger issue.  Every time I don't give into what he wants to do he becomes irate, goes as far as telling me that he hates me-sometimes he scares me.  I love my son to death.  But he is lying, stealing money from my husband's wallet, and just down right hateful.  I try to meet in the middle by letting him do little things with his friends here and there, but it is never enough.  He still throws it up that he never gets to do anything.  He plays select baseball which consumed most all of his weekends throughout the summer--I supported him all of the way thru and made sure I was there for him thru it all.  Now the day after baseball he signed up for football, I tried to explain that it would consume just as much time as baseball if not more, and now that has proven true and he gets mad every time I tell him that he can't stay after football practice for open gym (Football isn't over until 600 pm).  I try to make him understand that I still have to go home and cook dinner, and do general chores around the house----basically he becomes irrate and mad, you can't talk to him.  It is starting to really get to my younger son.  He hates that he has chores at home (dishes-with a dishwasher, clean his room, take out trash, clean the cat litter)  I am just trying to teach him responsibility on the chores.
I guess my question is how do I deal with all of the yelling, hatefulness, and anger - before it completely tears me, my family, and my marriage apart?  My husband is only his step father, buy my son shows no respect.  His father is not in the picture...

[margypops]

Yes so really you could look up the side effects of Adderall as I think you will find this is possibly the cause of his extreme behavior, perhaps you need to address this with the Doctor prescribing Adderall.If you look at other Parents Posts you will see they are experiencing the same Problems,it is not your Sons Fault he is acting this way .

[lipina]

Yes, he takes adderall, and takes it as he is required.  I make sure of it.

[margypops]

You did not say if your son is on Meds at all?It is a Fact that the Meds used for some or the Learning and behavioral difficlties can affect Childrenin the way you describe,,there is a great deal has been written regarding this.let us know further .