Teen does not care about consequences

[teenHelp2]

I have a 13 year old daughter who has been diagnosed with adhd and emotional disturbance issues. She acts very defiant sometimes in school and home.  She tells the teachers what she is going to do and not do. She has had behavioral plans and have been seen by so many pschologists and psychiatrist that I can not begin to count them all. She can very kind and loving child. She likes to please others but when she gets into her moods you can not do anything until she is over it. She is currently on adderall and it really does not seem to work on a consistent basis. She lies and steals. She can catch right in the act and she will still lie about. I can take everything from her phone, tv etc... and nothing phases her. Its like she does not under concept of consequences when she acting out.  She will going to high school in a year and I am really afraid for her. She says that she can help it but she wants to stop acting out and make us proud. I am not so lost and do not know how I can help, especially since I have literally tried everything. Please help!!!!

[Captain_Rit]

another very important thing that is not a crack at you at all but it probably does apply to you.     Children who act out like this lots of the times have unstable home lives meening parents.    She would benefit from you getting your own counseling, if for no other reason than you have an outlet for your self.  

[Tormekia]

As someone who grew up with ADHD, I can sympathize with your daughter's problems. Speaking only from personal experience, of course, but if nothing else, there's the stimulation aspect of things. Stealing and lying are a kind of high that can feel really good when you're over-whelmed by everything else. They narrow down your focus, giving you a kind of concentration that's not necessarily an option in other situations.

What worked well for me as a kid wasn't medication, it was very hard physical exercise. Walking isn't enough, it isn't hard enough. Running, cycling, weight-lifting, boxing, that sort of stuff... as in, the sort that leaves you so exhausted, you fall right to sleep the second you get the chance (also helps with insomnia... the best night's sleep I ever had was after a 14 hour-long hike.) Doing safely dangerous things like cycling and martial arts really helped, simply because there was the danger element that kicked my system into a more focused gear. I also found that the only way I could really focus during tests was to work out heavily in the gym beforehand, burning off all that excess energy before I had to sit still and concentrate.

You might try enrolling her in Karate or Judo, and make sure she gets at least an hour of good, hard, vigorous exercise a day, minimum.

You might also get her into some volunteering with younger kids in at-risk situations, so she can be both a role-model, and have some external focus beyond herself that matters to others. For me, personally, if something was for my own good, I wouldn't care, but if someone else needed something, someone else who was like me, who was in need... that's what would get me moving and focused.

[musicmama]

I agree with the sandman.  You may wish to research bipolar disorder.  Regardless of the result, she needs a sounding board such as a counselor (churches provide these too if the cost is an issue.)  Also, my son (with similar symptoms) is having huge success with neurofeedback therapy.  We went to a neuropsychologist.  This helps him control his impulses.  I honestly don't think your daughter can control her behavior (not all of it anyway.)

Good luck and God bless.

[sarbearie]

I am sixteen years young, i suffer from A.D.D which is not a.d.h.d but sometimes i which i was hyper because i have just recently had heart palpatations. and tiredness and loss of intrest force of energy needed to do anything!...i crave sugar constantly..but
cannot take adderoll because it will increase heart rate,cannot have to much physical activity which is one of my daily priority,no cafffine (coffee,soda ect) and have found my self getting depressed.. i am weak all of the time,cant concentrate and feel trapped in a box. I would give the world if someone could help me out.I have just took blood tests yesterday but wont get them back till monday and i wont be in town,but with my aunt without my mother for a week or so.I am extremly nervous and anxious which is making this twice is hard.Since the Fact that stress and anxiety is the main factor that makes every thing (diseases,heart race,headaches) any mental or health condition twice as hard.
I would be unbelievably glad is somebody out there would answer my daily prayers
to all of my symptoms,
Whether it is anemia,diebetes,anything like that wont find out for a couple days.

If someone is out there who knows whats going on please let me know?!
or if in anyone have any suggestions/comments ect.
thankyou so much for reading!

god bless you,
Sar