why does my 3 year old son do this?

[mummyto3]

Hi I'm verry puzzled about why my son does the things he does.... He's 4 next month but still acts like a two year old he's very very active, he never sits still even when he watches tv he still has to fidget with things, he has always had sleep problems since he was a baby even now he wakes up 2,3 times s night, he is verry much a mummys boy and always craves my attention I.e if I'm sitting to far away from him on the sofa he will kick off untill he gets on my knee or I have to sit by him when he has his dinner otherwise he don't eat it, he does things his two year old sister doesn't even do anymore like puting anything in his mouth I.e mud, he will rip wall paper pick the stuffing out of his teddys, he doesn't listen to a word I say to him and does things he no he shouldn't do... Also at any chance he gets he like to rub his hands on my boobs and play with my nipples iv tryed explaining to him that he carnt do that but he kicks off :/ he nos not to yet he will sneak his hand down my top the first chance he gets! When he visits peoples houses with out me there he's good as gold,

[Sandman2]

   There is nothing wrong with cuddling a child.  Makes it a bit harder to stop, but a heck of a lot better then not doing it.
   Sleep wise there are things you can do, but I kind of need to know what you do.
   But do post over on the child behavior forum (I also monitor that).  Also read some of the posts there.  I think that what he is doing is kind of normal for a 3/4 year old boy.  They are a trip unto themselves.  And wait till he is 6!
You just need to know what to expect and what to do when it happens.
   by the way, your daughter will probably be a doll - and then she will hit 14 and you will laugh at the things that you worried about with your son (been there).

[mummyto3]

Thanks for the comment back.. yes I do, I feel helpless, I thought it was mainly due to the fact that I have mother cuddled him. As he needs my attention a lot I suppose I felt like he needed extra attention with not having his farther around,

[Sandman2]

  With a 2 year old sister around, some of this is definitely attention getting.  The fact that he is great in other places would also indicate this is true.  I kind of doubt that it is ADHD related.  A couple of suggestions would be:
    Get the book, "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.  I think you will find it helpful.  
    Post over on the child behavior forum.  I think they will be helpful
    Also wonder how you respond to him waking up at night.  does he cry out and do you rush in to soothe him?