You're welcome. She's def ADHD; her father has it.
My ex mother in law is a pediatric OT, so if she had sensory issues, she would have caught it. Thanks for the info though.
Thank you for the information. He has some very good ideas - although some would be more successful when dealing with a child of a different age.
Hopefully, she keeps doing well in school. Made me kind of wonder about the original diagnosis. Sometimes Sensory Processing Disorder can be mistaken for ADHD. And SPD is treated very differently (no meds). You might want to take a look at this site and see if any of it looks familiar.
http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/
My daughter was on Adderall for the ADHD for 2 years, but I took her off over the summer and she is doing fine in school w/out it. I think she is definitely defiant, but I also think the side effects of the meds were part of the problem. I've noticed a big change in her personality being off the meds and she is definitely less grumpy and defiant.
My daughter never seemed fazed by any type of punishment- taking away, time out, I even spanked her a few times out of frustration ( I don't really believe in spanking and she proved me right) but nothing worked.
Dr. Riley firmly believes in not engaging with the child when they're oppositional, and that you have to make your child temporarily miserable.
He suggested taking away things that are different- clothing priviledges (no cool clothes or things they like), he said we could always resort to a uniform, but we didn't have to. He also recommended a lot of chores, work and something called "baby" meals-they get the same baby breakfast, lunch, and dinner . Baby meals consisted of no silverware, sippy cups and things like waffles with no butter and syrup. My daughter def did not like the baby meals.
He also had a very good coversation with her about lying, that I can't remember specifcs but the jist of it was to keep asking them questions and not believing anything they say.
As far as stealing he recommended stealing something of value to her and NOT ever giving it back so she would learn empathy.
Other things he said were important were to watch movies with her and stop the movie to see how the characters were feeling, getting her involved in some type of group activity.
He never yells and speaks very softly and calmly which is something I'm still working on.
I hope that helps!
Thank you for your thoughts. I was curious which of the doctors methods you found to be most successful with your child? Also is your daughter on any medication for either the ADHD or the ODD?
My 8 year old daughter has ADHD and we were going through a lot of the same issues w/ the anger, back talking, stealing. I don't believe any of those to be ADHD related. It sounds to me a lot more like Oppositional Defiant Disorder. My daughter, too was kind and loving one minute and then angry the next- the anger usually came from something not going her way. She also only exhibited these behaviors at home; it made me feel so guilty, like how can she control herself in other environments but not at home.
Glad he has an apt- we are very fortunate to live near Dr. Douglas Riley- he's an expert on ODD. I would research all you can before your apt. Dr. Riley has also written some excellent books and I think he does do phone appts.
We tried his suggestions and they really worked where nothing else did. We still have some moments, but nothing like before. She is truly different and I'm so grateful to have my child back.
The book helped, but I felt was more geared towards teenagers. If your son is ODD, I would see if there's a specialist in your area.
Good luck!
Thanks for your thoughts. He has an appt on Monday
Your son sounds very angry. It is unclear where this anger is coming from other than someone or something at your house. Given the severity of the behavioral issues you describe, I would consider getting him evaluated by a mental health professional or at least the school counselor. Getting him evaluated doesn't mean placing him on meds. It means getting him and maybe the family treatment to find out exactly what is bothering your son.