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My mum is not right
Hi my mum is showing signs of some kind of mental health issue it has been long term but i think it is starting to progress I didn't realise it was this bad until i came home to live for a while. My dad is her next of kin and we do not get on how can I help her, without my dad knowing as he would not allow it ....the main problem she is showing is a complete lack of ability to absorb information even simple information. Is this a medical issue and how can i get support for it.
my mom had alzeimers my dad said she was fine nothing was wrong with her. she also was losing her hearing. my died with cancer of the pancreas. I started taking my mom to hearing aid people and ear doctors and her medical doctor. she eventually came and lived with me. she could not take care of herself properly. my family got mad and they wanted to put her away in an nursing home. I brought her home and we made it just fine. I had the help of hospice they are great. they doctors nurses bathers. but you need to get her to a doctor. I wish your dad could be there if he heard it from the doctor he might believe. not sure that kind of temperament he has. god bless you best of luck. mandy876
Keep in mind tumeric is a blood thinner and that if your loved one is one one or cannot have a blood thinner, you may or may not want to try, or try with caution.
I just found this on line and there is hope ..
Help for Alzheimers .. I just found this on line...there is hope..
This is available as capsules or Bulk powder from grocery stores for cooking.
REMARKABLE RECOVERIES from ALZHEIMERS Reported after Administration of Turmeric
Late last year, a remarkable study was published in the journal Ayu titiled "Effects of turmeric on Alzheimer's disease with behavioral and psychological symptoms of dementia." [ii] Researchers described three patients with Alzheimer's disease whose behavioral symptoms were "improved remarkably" as a result of consuming 764 milligram of turmeric (curcumin 100 mg/day) for 12 weeks. According to the study:
"All three patients exhibited irritability, agitation, anxiety, and apathy, two patients suffer from urinary incontinence and wonderings. They were prescribed turmeric powder capsules and started recovering from these symptoms without any adverse reaction in the clinical symptom and laboratory data."
After only 3 months of treatment, both the patients' symptoms and the burden on their caregivers were significantly decreased.
The report describes the improvements thusly:
"In one case, the Mini-Mental State Examination (MMSE) score was up five points, from 12/30 to 17/30. In the other two cases, no significant change was seen in the MMSE; however, they came to recognize their family within 1 year treatment. All cases have been taking turmeric for more than 1 year, re-exacerbation of BPSD was not seen."
This study illustrates just how powerful a simple natural intervention using a time-tested culinary herb can be. Given that turmeric has been used medicinally and as a culinary ingredient for over 5,000 years in Indian culture, even attaining the status of a 'Golden Goddess,' we should not be surprised at this result. Indeed, epidemiological studies of Indian populations reveal that they have a remarkably lower prevalence of Alzheimer's disease relative to Western nations, [3] and this is true for both rural and more "Westernized" urban areas of India.[4]
Help for Alzheimers .. I just found this on line...there is hope..
This is available as capsules or Bulk powder from grocery stores for cooking.
REMARKABLE RECOVERIES from ALZHEIMERS Reported after Administration of Turmeric
Late last year, a remarkable study was published in the journal Ayu titiled "Effects of turmeric on Alzheimer's disease with behavioral and psychological symptoms of dementia." [ii] Researchers described three patients with Alzheimer's disease whose behavioral symptoms were "improved remarkably" as a result of consuming 764 milligram of turmeric (curcumin 100 mg/day) for 12 weeks. According to the study:
"All three patients exhibited irritability, agitation, anxiety, and apathy, two patients suffer from urinary incontinence and wonderings. They were prescribed turmeric powder capsules and started recovering from these symptoms without any adverse reaction in the clinical symptom and laboratory data."
After only 3 months of treatment, both the patients' symptoms and the burden on their caregivers were significantly decreased.
The report describes the improvements thusly:
"In one case, the Mini-Mental State Examination (MMSE) score was up five points, from 12/30 to 17/30. In the other two cases, no significant change was seen in the MMSE; however, they came to recognize their family within 1 year treatment. All cases have been taking turmeric for more than 1 year, re-exacerbation of BPSD was not seen."
This study illustrates just how powerful a simple natural intervention using a time-tested culinary herb can be. Given that turmeric has been used medicinally and as a culinary ingredient for over 5,000 years in Indian culture, even attaining the status of a 'Golden Goddess,' we should not be surprised at this result. Indeed, epidemiological studies of Indian populations reveal that they have a remarkably lower prevalence of Alzheimer's disease relative to Western nations, [3] and this is true for both rural and more "Westernized" urban areas of India.[4]
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hi , hope this letter finds you well, so sorry your going threw this with your mom, and i know how hard it is with your dad still being in charge. i to went threw this. my mom and dad lived with me and i to had to step back and keep my mouth shut on some things,. but let me say if it in anyway will put your mom in any kind of danger than you have to be her voice and make sure shes being took care of.
i can say i was there for my mom, and i helped her in everyway i could, my mom was seeing a Dr for hers but my dad choose to take her off the meds so i had to go along with it , it did not harm her. your dad is in control and you have to be very careful on how you handle this or you could loss your dad and mom if he gets mad than you will not be able to help her at all, and i know at this point in her life shes needs you.
we are always here to listen and talk, my prayers are with you as you go threw this with your parents, its not easy on your Dad and maybe he thinks hes doing the best thing for her. we keep mom at the house, it was great having her with us, but it was a full time job, i can say no one will love her and take care of her like you and your Dad , so bare with him right now and as the time goes on he will see she might need more help than he can give her and than i bet he will start getting help.
its very good to start looking into what kind of help your county has to offer and talk to them so when the time comes ya know which way to go. GOD Bless ya . Heart
i can say i was there for my mom, and i helped her in everyway i could, my mom was seeing a Dr for hers but my dad choose to take her off the meds so i had to go along with it , it did not harm her. your dad is in control and you have to be very careful on how you handle this or you could loss your dad and mom if he gets mad than you will not be able to help her at all, and i know at this point in her life shes needs you.
we are always here to listen and talk, my prayers are with you as you go threw this with your parents, its not easy on your Dad and maybe he thinks hes doing the best thing for her. we keep mom at the house, it was great having her with us, but it was a full time job, i can say no one will love her and take care of her like you and your Dad , so bare with him right now and as the time goes on he will see she might need more help than he can give her and than i bet he will start getting help.
its very good to start looking into what kind of help your county has to offer and talk to them so when the time comes ya know which way to go. GOD Bless ya . Heart
Social Services can provide, free of charge, handrails for stairways and in the bathroom and toilet areas. As well as bath seats or other devises, raised toilet seats, raising the sofa higher if this is too low to help the elderly person get up better.
You can always phone them and make general enquiries to begin with.
My mother won't accept that my dad has Altzheimers. My siblings too would not accept for years that anything was wrong with their dad.
Best wishes.
You can always phone them and make general enquiries to begin with.
My mother won't accept that my dad has Altzheimers. My siblings too would not accept for years that anything was wrong with their dad.
Best wishes.
In the US, we have "Adult Protective Services" which can be contacted if you think there is an adult who is not being cared for appropriately, which sadly is or can be a form of abuse. The police called them on my father in law who was the primary caregive of my mother-in-law as he wanted to do things his way, but it was not in her best interests but how he wanted to do things. As much as we tried to convince him that perhaps she needed x or y, he still would not accept that she had dementia until really right before she died.
Like Jemma said, she may not be taken from the home, but just need more care and more monitoring. It is difficult to make changes, but it is way more humane to have proper care.
Like Jemma said, she may not be taken from the home, but just need more care and more monitoring. It is difficult to make changes, but it is way more humane to have proper care.
Sorry to hear about your mum.
You do not say how old your mum is?
Memory problems and confusion can be a sign of a urinary infections in the elderly.
If your mum is in her middle years, and is on the change of life, a hormone imbalance can affect the way she is.
She may be anaemic, or suffering from stress or depression.
Although she is exhibiting the signs of someone with dementia or Altzheimers, the only way to find out for definite is to have her evaluated by the mental health people. The way to do this is by first of all talking with her doctor and he then makes a referral.
If your mum has a problem remembering which day it is, you could do a day board with each day on a card that is flipped to the next day and so on, so that she could see what day it is. It did this for my dad, because of his repetitively asking what day it is.
If you father will not accept that there is a problem with your mum, you could make an appointment with your mum's doctor and talk about your concerns to her doctor. The appointment will have to made for you though.
And like Nikodicreta says, you can contact Mind and talk with them about your concerns.
It could be that your father will not accept that there is anything wrong with your mum, this is very common.
Or he may be afraid that if our mum is diagnosed as having dementia or Altzheimers that she will be taken away from home. You need to gently and when the moment is right ask your dad if he has noticed that your mum does not seem her usual self. When you gradually and gently get to the point that he agrees that there is something wrong, but will not seek medical help, ask him what is he afraid of.
If you mum does have Altzheimers and does not have any cardiovascular disease, there is medication that slows down the progress of the disease. Your mum would not be taken away from home. It is encouraged to allow people to live in their own environment with help for as long as possible.
If your father is having to help your mum to do a lot of things, your mum may be entitled to claim Day Care Allowance. If your father needs help, he too can apply to claim for Day Care Allowance. It is best to get help to fill the forms in by Age Concern or other voluntary organisations dealing with people with mind problems.
Best wishes.
You do not say how old your mum is?
Memory problems and confusion can be a sign of a urinary infections in the elderly.
If your mum is in her middle years, and is on the change of life, a hormone imbalance can affect the way she is.
She may be anaemic, or suffering from stress or depression.
Although she is exhibiting the signs of someone with dementia or Altzheimers, the only way to find out for definite is to have her evaluated by the mental health people. The way to do this is by first of all talking with her doctor and he then makes a referral.
If your mum has a problem remembering which day it is, you could do a day board with each day on a card that is flipped to the next day and so on, so that she could see what day it is. It did this for my dad, because of his repetitively asking what day it is.
If you father will not accept that there is a problem with your mum, you could make an appointment with your mum's doctor and talk about your concerns to her doctor. The appointment will have to made for you though.
And like Nikodicreta says, you can contact Mind and talk with them about your concerns.
It could be that your father will not accept that there is anything wrong with your mum, this is very common.
Or he may be afraid that if our mum is diagnosed as having dementia or Altzheimers that she will be taken away from home. You need to gently and when the moment is right ask your dad if he has noticed that your mum does not seem her usual self. When you gradually and gently get to the point that he agrees that there is something wrong, but will not seek medical help, ask him what is he afraid of.
If you mum does have Altzheimers and does not have any cardiovascular disease, there is medication that slows down the progress of the disease. Your mum would not be taken away from home. It is encouraged to allow people to live in their own environment with help for as long as possible.
If your father is having to help your mum to do a lot of things, your mum may be entitled to claim Day Care Allowance. If your father needs help, he too can apply to claim for Day Care Allowance. It is best to get help to fill the forms in by Age Concern or other voluntary organisations dealing with people with mind problems.
Best wishes.
it is possible she might have alzeimers or maybe dementia. if you know her doctor have a talk with him and ask him if she has either of these. maybe they will not tell your father want know you did it. mandy876
Hi zenmeone and welcome to the forum.
It is unfortunate that your dad would not allow your mom to receive care and help for her mental health issue.
This indicates that he, himself has possibly a serious impairement with reason and executive thought.
Please consider getting in touch with "Mind" in London, to access information and advice in regards to obtaining support for your mom's mental health issues.
Mind
15-19 Broadway, Stratford, London E15 4BQ
T: 020 8519 2122, F: 020 8522 1725 infoline:0300 123 3393
e: ***@****
If the above information does not appear, just do a simple search for it.
Best wishes!
Niko
It is unfortunate that your dad would not allow your mom to receive care and help for her mental health issue.
This indicates that he, himself has possibly a serious impairement with reason and executive thought.
Please consider getting in touch with "Mind" in London, to access information and advice in regards to obtaining support for your mom's mental health issues.
Mind
15-19 Broadway, Stratford, London E15 4BQ
T: 020 8519 2122, F: 020 8522 1725 infoline:0300 123 3393
e: ***@****
If the above information does not appear, just do a simple search for it.
Best wishes!
Niko
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