Unfortunately, without information as to why he is engaging in this aggressive behavior, it is difficult to determine how to effectively reduce the behavior. In addition, I’m reluctant to give you any specific advice about trying to change his behavior, as it sounds like his behavior could be severe and it’s not unusual for changes in ways of dealing with problem behavior to result in at least initial increases in behavior severity or frequency.
My recommendation would be to obtain some local professional help.
If he has a diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome, then I presume that he is receiving special education services already. Many schools provide structured behavioral support for students in special education, so you might try asking the school if they have a Behavior Analyst on their staff who might be able to help you address his behavior at home (or at least tell you how they are managing it at school, and how successful it has been). If they do not have a qualified professional working on his case, and you are able to potentially pay out of pocket for additional help, my recommendation would be to locate a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA) who has experience dealing with problem behavior and Asperger’s syndrome. The BACB website has a local service provider directory at http://www.bacb.com/consum_frame.html
Although different districts handle cases such as this differently, school districts are required to provide the least intrusive but most effective learning environment for students. Sometimes this means students who cannot be served effectively in the home district are placed out in residential placements. If the school has referred him to residential programs for evaluation, it sounds as though they are anticipating this might be a necessary step for him, and in many cases school districts will pay part or all of the tuition for residential schools. Again, however, each case is different.
Given the potentially complex nature of his case, an educational advocate might be helpful – advocates are individuals who are familiar with local school districts and special education services and can help families when it comes to negotiating with the school district on student services. The Federation for Children with Special Needs can provide a referral for a local advocate (800- 331-0688).
Best of luck to you and your family
My grandson is 11 years old walks on his toes , pouts all the time when he does not get his way . Does not want to do anything you tell him to do . Does not like loosing games , wearing his seat belt . He is very good at math,spelling. does very well in school academically. Socially when he interacts with his peers he talks about himself the whole time while they are together . During commercials he repeats them over and over again . When he is really excited he seems to be having a conversation with himself does my grandson have Asperger's.
My grandson is 11 years old walks on his toes , pouts all the time when he does not get his way . Does not want to do anything you tell him to do . Does not like loosing games , wearing his seat belt . He is very good at math,spelling. does very well in school academically. Socially when he interacts with his peers he talks about himself the whole time while they are together . During commercials he repeats them over and over again . When he is really excited he seems to be having a conversation with himself does my grandson have Asperger's.