my three year old daughter wont potty train and im out of ideas and desperate for help!! please help!!

[Doris24johnson]

i have a three year old daughter and i cant potty train her and its getting harder the more i try. she goes number 1 every now and then she lets me know and she will go when i give her privacy its just a game to her and ive caught her going number two in her diaper and taking it to the potty and tossing it in and then trying to take credit, which is funny in a way if you know what i mean but it has to stop before i go crazy!! i will let her watch me use the potty, ive tried everything and im out of ideas and going crazy. she will be four in april and its time to get the job done, not to metion the cost of diapers is outrages!! im just stumped please help!!

[SaraAnn1580]

She might just not be 100% ready even though you are. Kids develop differently. My son was not day time potty trained until about age 4 1/2 and did not stop needing pull ups at night until the summer after kindergarten. He is ASD and slightly delayed but overall very high functioning. I started trying to potty train him just before his 3rd birthday. I was ready for him to be out of diapers but he obviously wasn't ready. When I stopped trying to force it finally is when he started using the potty

[mleerey]

I'm a behavioral therapist and this is very common in the children I work with. There are many methods that you may have to try until you find what works for you. I would suggest first keeping track of how often she goes potty. Then use that to put her on a schedule like every hour she goes and sits on the potty and tries to go. I would also have her go to pick out panties that she would like to wear, maybe with her favorite characters on them. But make sure she knows she can only wear them when she learns to go potty like a big girl. Also, if she has an accident make her help clean up. Try using positive reinforcement before punishing, this is typically more effective.

[Dr. Kokil Mathur]

Hi!
Potty training can become a tricky situation for some. For your child it has become a game. So you have to stop that by keeping the pot out of her reach, and asking her to tell you when she wants to go. You can give her stars or something desirable that she ants if she does it right. On a holiday it could be a trip to the outside. Also some simple punishments should be given if she does not do it right—something that will not traumatize her—like not making her favorite dish. Talk to her pediatrician for more tips.
Take care!